Annoyed by random man incidents

[IfYouLikePinaColadaaa]

Yes it’s not much in the scheme of things but I’m becoming increasingly annoyed by men in public (I’m sure women do these things too but 90% of the time it’s men in my experience).

Only today I was paying at the self service in Tesco, had the baby (in pram) and 4 year old with me. 6 checkouts, every other checkout was free. The second I tapped my card this man barged between me and the checkout I had used and started scanning his shopping, leaving me flustered as I gathered up my shopping and tried to pack it away while moving the pram and my other child away. The way it happened he’d clearly been waiting to do it, although why I have no idea.

Second occasion we were stood in another shop, a very big tall man comes round the corner of the aisle and rather than wait the split second for me to pull DD towards me so he could pass (was already doing this) he barged past her and almost knocked her over shouting ‘SORRY, SORRY’.

Gah. Yes it all sounds a bit petty written out but I’ve got PMT and have had a few of these incidences lately and am fed up.

It's always been that way IMO. I'm still seething about something that happened on holiday when I was about 12. I'm now 51!

My younger DSis and I were in the back room of a pub while my parents and some friends were in the bar having a drink. It was back in the days when children were often not allowed in the bar itself but some places had family friendly rooms they could go into. We'd been there about an hour and were happily watching a film on TV with the obligatory Coke/bag of crisps.

Anyway a family come into the room- mum, dad and two boys. The dad immediately starts throwing his weight around with his family in a way you just wouldn't do in public and would be a complete arsehole to do behind closed doors. I felt quite anxious and intimidated in case he said anything to DSis and I.

But no, what he actually did was pick up the remote and change the channel. No "I don't suppose you'd mind if I put the news on girls?" Not even a glance in our direction. Obviously if he'd asked we'd have said it was okay because you do, don't you? But to not even ask! I wouldn't do that to my own children, never mind ones I'd never met.

As I said, still effing seething.

I like to play Patriarchy Chicken - find that it is quite rare that a man moves out of the way for me so I just keep going. It either ends in him moving or a bang but quite frankly I never apologise. I have moved out of the way for so many men that feel we are all owed.

if that makes me a tit then a tit I shall be 😂

I used to work in a pub near Liverpool Street. We were cleaning down at the end of the night and putting empty bottles into a wheely mini skip thing, pushing it round the floor. I dropped in a beer bottle and a bit splashed out and must’ve landed on this man. He went apeshit, screaming at me in the middle of the pub, everyone went silent, he was right in my face, spit flying everywhere, bright red.
This was in the early 00’s though, and a lot of our customers spent a lot of time sniffing and wiping their noses after going to the toilet…

Women are an Easy target

Glad you did that. Some women would have stayed to not offend him as we are taught to be polite. F that if you walk pass my car and I feel uncomfortable I'm locking my doors, don't care if you heard or it upset you.
Better safe then sorry

I was crossing the station concourse at St Pancras once, in the bit near the ticket booths for local trains, and out of the corner I saw this guy, walking at a diagonal to me, racing to get to the point where our paths were due to intersect first. So I didn't slacken my pace at all and right at the last minute, he had to swerve out of the way, giving me the evils all the time. It was funny. He was determined he wasn't going to step aside for me and also that he'd get to the point where our paths met first, and he just assumed that I, a mere middle-aged woman, would stand aside for him and I didn't.

If you watch out for it, men expect women to get out of their way all the time. What I hate most is the word 'sorry' from them, reduced to one syllable, which the use to mean 'get out of my way!' They're not apologising, they're just saying 'I've got important man business, more important than anything you could possibly be doing, so I'm not going to go round you.'

I"m 34 weeks pregnant, my bump is bloody huge and I'm waddling like a fat penguin. I commute by tube into London twice a week and it is unbelievable the amount of men who push ahead of me onto the tube to take the last priority seat. Zero shame. They inevitably end up moving anyway - either because I pointedly say "can i sit down please?!" Or because someone next to them offers me their seat and they are suitably shamed into giving up the priority space. So literally no gain. I assume that they just presume noone will ever challenge them? But its just so rude and aggressive!

I hear ya @IfYouLikePinaColadaaa

This happened to me last week, and I can see some people saying 'yeah like fuck.' #didnthappen etc, but I swear it did. 😬

I was walking down one of the little roads in my village. I go 4 or 5 times a week for a 3 mile walk. A random man (around 65,) was walking towards me on the opposite side of the road. I wanted to check my phone (in my back pocket) as I thought I heard the notification ding sound.

So I pushed my coat up my back a bit as it's a bit snug, and reached into my pocket and pulled my phone out. Random man now on the opposite side of the road said 'I thought you were about to squat down for a wee.' It didn't register what he had said for a couple of seconds. I just went 'er, ha..... ha...' and carried on walking. Then I realised what he had said.

What on earth possessed this random man to say 'I thought you were about to take a piss on the footpath' (to a woman he had never met before,) in her mid to late 50s (or any age woman for that matter) just eludes me. I just can't get my head around it!

MEN!

I sometimes think women’s lib has gone too far and men are not treating us like ladies like they used to do. The respect has gone.

It's nothing to do with feminism or being a lady. Treating other humans with respect is something we should all be striving for. If a man holds a door open for me I will say thank you. If I hold a door open for a man I expect him to say thank you and those who don't are reminded about their lack of manners 😀

Mind you I've grown up a lot since I hit a man across the head with a snooker cue for not letting me play. It was winner stays on and you often played people you've never met. He didn't want to play a woman.

Great topic and YES SO MANY. Agree it's about dominating and showing who's boss

@CameltoeParkerBowles 3 words back at them will stop the unsolicited advice in its tracks "cool story bro" they absolutely hate this you're welcome

You obviously don’t remember the times women were held in higher esteem than they are now. My father treated women like gold.

Why did he need too? are women more 'precious' then men?

Wouldnt it be simple for both sees to just treat each other equally?

I love this 😂

Thank you so much for coming onto this thread and mansplaining, thereby proving everyone's point.

It's women who are playing Patriarchy Chicken. Men are playing Patriarchy.

And yet they manage to respect other men, don't they?

I work out with my daughter at the gym, she has physical disabilities along with autism and other conditions
We were on the chest press and I was talking away to her while she tried to push 10kg and this absolute bell end came up to us clapping in my face while shouting "more working, less talking" which instantly shut my daughter down and she started with her motor tics

Daft thing is the idiot had been standing chatting to the trainer who knows us both very well so clearly should take his own "advice"
He then blocked another woman who was trying to head into the weights area until she walked off back to the cardio zone

Thankfully he's definitely the minority in our gym, the rest of the lifters for the most part don't give two hoots what women are doing

I love this thread and all the examples where women have not given an inch!

Another instance that's just come to me, on the school bus after school, the bus is packed and loads of kids are standing. A boy in the year above is being a bellend, throwing his football about, running up and down the aisle etc. I guess he saw me and decided a younger, bespectacled girl was an easy target so came up to me and demanded I get up so he can sit down. I said no. He got louder, I eventually told him to sit on the floor as that's where dogs are supposed to sit. He didn't like that but left me alone.

A little while later, as the bus slowly emptied, he must have found a seat somewhere behind me, because I suddenly felt his football hit the back of my head. At that point I got up and launched myself at him punching and smacking him round the head yelling like a banshee 😂 then I got my bag and flounced off the bus. It wasn't even my stop but I thought it best! He never spoke to me again!

@Americano75 let's just say I imagine he had a very sore neck for a while! Apparently he ended up reversing at high speed to get my BIL off him! Thank god it was at night and the road was empty.

My DS was supposed to have a sleepover with my mum but she rang me late in the evening to collect him becuase he wouldn't go to bed. Driving on a 60 road there was a car going less than 30 so I overtook. He sped up to block me on the wrong side of the road with oncoming traffic so i did pretty much have to force my way back in or have a head on collision. I knew if I'd fallen back he'd be able to stop me or break check me so I just tried to get away. He spent the next 10 minutes driving like a psycho getting close, pulling alongside me. I finally had to stop at a red light (in hindsight, should have kept going and 100% should have called the police)

He got out his car and opened my car door and was screaming at me. I just kept pointing out his daughter crying her eyes out in his car.

In hindsight. Should have called the police at any point in the whole event, but I just wanted to get away and get tto my son. And now I don't drive alone at night.

This is what I do and am teaching my daughter
We like to walk and hike despite disability so I have my 8 year old strapped to my back so slightly wider than norm and my daughter walks next to me but as soon as we see other people I tell her to get in front of me only for couples or groups of people to walk at us instead of going single file themselves

I've told her under no circumstances is she to get off the path into mud or nettles just because others don't want to have to be reasonable and share the space

My daughter used to be in a tri club, she was 16, tiny, but a very good swimmer. More than once she had adult men swim over the top of her to overtake, rather than wait / swim around. Usually then they'd have worn themselves out, would drop speed then she'd have to overtake them. The first time I assumed it was accidental, but over the couple of years she swam there it happened most weeks, unless in a lane with other women (who never felt the need to swim over her).

Jeez, that is AWFUL
Men are prone to responding extremely badly if a woman beats them at anything.
If I ever get the opportunity swimming running cycling or in the gym to beat a man I will absolutely go for it 🤣