DS and DH buffoonery

[Unusuallyirritated]

AIBU to feel really irritated by this?

Just went round to friends to play board games. DS 10 and DH were poking each other and play fighting almost constantly. Being really noisy. Having to be reminded when it was their turn. Not really following what was going on. DD 7 and DS 13 were brilliant. Hosts two kids were too.

I asked them to stop politely twice. I gave DH a look twice. I also then started to attempt to make jokes about it which wasn’t right but I was out of options. I felt really embarrassed and it ruined the night for me. I also think that DH was setting a bad example for DS.

AIBU to think that it’s rude? How would you feel as the host? They are really lovely and accepting people but I imagine even they were tested. But it might be just I have a low tolerance for that kind of behaviour.

That would be irritating. It’s annoying when playing a game with someone (who has fully agreed to play) who needs to be reminded when it’s their turn and what has happened in the game. My DH sometimes does this as he tends to glance at his phone while the children have their turns and then loses concentration. It’s then up to me to bring him back into the game and say it’s your turn etc. harumph!

Thanks. Yes that is annoying in itself. DH often has to be reminded it’s his and I’m always the one who has to keep track of whose turn it is etc. irritating but I can feel accepting of it. Tonight though the play fighting and mock arguing, I found toe curling. Constantly poking each other and loudly play arguing. Hard to hear what others were saying. It just seemed so rude.

That is so rude of them, especially your husband - so immature.

But I must commend your title on the use of the wonderful word "buffoonery" - I seldom hear it, a fab word, always spoken in my head with an Ian McKellen voice 👏

Ha ha. Thanks. Well it seemed the most fitting word. It was just so silly and unnecessary. DH was almost showing off in a childish way. So embarrassing. I just hope our hosts weren’t as irritated as me.

Oh and when I pointed out that they had been rude on our way home DH sulked and now isn’t talking to me. 🙄 oh to have another grown up in the house.

Your husband was extremely rude and disrespectful. If he and your son didn't want to go they should have stayed home and the three of you went. If I was the host, and they had acted that way I would have been very frustrated as the host. I can only imagine how frustrating it was for you to watch!

This would annoy me intensely, both if it was my DH and if I was the host.

I have to say that I hate it if I am someone else's house, and they want to play a game/cards. But just join in with good grace, or sit it out without moaning or being glued to your phone.

Were they forced to go?
Sounds like they didn't want to be there tbh

Thank you. That’s how I feel. The hosts are very easy going and tolerant. More than most but I can’t imagine they were chill with it.

I wouldn't love that either, as the hosts, I'd be very surprised to see a grown man behaving like that. Was DH drunk?
I concur that your use of the word buffoonery is excellent.

Was he drunk or something? Of his behaviour was getting on his own wife’s tits, then you can guarantee he was irritating tf out of the other family

Thanks. The invite was for a games night and we all love board games. So we were all up for it. They just were acting up.

Nope. Both keen. 🤷‍♀️

Thanks. I couldn’t think of a good alternative word so went with the old fashioned one. It describes it perfectly!

Nope. Not drunk. One beer.

One beer so no.

Yes. I suspect it was irritating for all.

Glad it’s not me being intolerant.

And what the fuck difference does that make?! He is an adult and should have behaved like one.

This was going to be my question - what did he say when you talked about it with him.

He sounds really annoying and immature.

Leave him to sulk. Blithely swish around him and let him wallow in his sulking as if you don’t have a care in the world, and are enjoying the peace.

When he comes around - just say you’re not up for a repeat of that, so if you accept another games evening invite, it will be on the condition that he behaves like an adult with social skills.

Yes. True. But it would make it more understandable. But they were both keen. Both love the hosts. Both love board games! It was like DH was showing off.

So if you don’t want to be somewhere you’ve agreed to go, you have a green light to behave like a dick?

How old are you…..?

Good advice. I will.

So far unanimous that it was annoying and/or rude. Makes me feel less like a crazy hormonal grumpus.

Is this out of the ordinary for him or does he do this kind of stuff regularly?

I would say that the hosts looked really pissed off as well. If he can just play it that it is your problem then he'll feel he's won. I would just say that you saw them glancing at each other and looking at you in sympathy.

Love how I never said it was OK but y'all assume that's what I mean

If they had been forced to go then I could at least understand why they were playing up. Doesn't make it right but still more understandable.

As OP has said they were both keen to go then it changes it to DH being a dick and probably winding DS up to play up too

Well. Interesting question. I’m less tolerant at the moment so I see lots of his behaviour as irritating so hence me posting here to get a reality check. I have never seen him do this but he’s not great at monitoring himself in social situations. I often find him a bit embarrassing but never to this degree.