DH threw away my wedding ring!

[Spencer0220]

I wish this was a joke. But it isn't. How would you handle this?

DH has a brain injury and can do things that make no sense. We usually laugh his mistakes off.

He was tidying the kitchen. I was in bed. I'd forgotten I'd taken my ring off in the kitchen. It was wet, so he wrapped it in kitchen roll. Promptly forgot.

DH threw rubbish in bin. Took bin out. Council emptied bins.

I realised next day. He remembered throwing wet kitchen roll away.

DH is mortified. I'm trying not be to upset around him because I know it was an accident and he doesn't think clearly.

But honestly I'm absolutely devastated.

Oh that’s so sad 😢. Are you insured?

that is a shame but i am not sure there is anything you can do about it

Not for the ring. It was £200. £300 to replace today and we don't have that

I know. But I'm sad.

That's so upsetting 😔 Do you have contents insurance, OP?

I'm so sorry, op. It was an accident, and I'm sure your husband is crushed, too. A hard lesson learned.

I do. But it's not listed

Och, I did similar once with a beautiful gold necklace. It was wrapped in tissue in my handbag, which I then binned as “a bit of old tissue”. Not the same as your wedding ring, though 🥲

Aww! Give him a cuddle and make a ring from a bit of wire for now. Replace it when you can afford it. If you love each other, it doesn't matter.

I have done similar myself as has the person who said she accidentally threw a gold necklace in a tissue in her handbag away. It probably wasn't the brain injury just the fact it was in a tissue. Still sad and I am sorry it's happened

It’s sad so let yourself be sad but then maybe you can find a second hand ring that meant the world to someone else and can be loved by you. The ring is always only a symbol of the love and commitment… that’s not gone.

Thank you.

I have cuddled him lots and we've talked about his strategies for tidying so we don't lose something we absolutely can't buy again.

For that amount I would be surprised if it had to be listed. Look at your policy as mine doesn't require items under 1k to be listed. Though it also depends on your excess amount.

Also you can try vintage antique or second hand shops. With them you can haggle and they might give you a price slightly above scrap as they will have probably bought below the scrap value to enable them make a profit. Especially if you mention your story.

Excess is more than the cost of the ring unfortunately

At least he is remorseful op. My exh lost his. Assumed to be in a skip at work. Me and ds went to look.. On reflection he either sold it or pawned it.. Twat.
Better off having a dh like yours op.
Remarried now and due to dh's home cooking have gained a stone (or 2!) and my ring doesn't fit. We replaced it with a 20 quid one from Pandora.. Bought with love on a great(cheap) weekend to Liverpool last year!!

dh lost his wedding ring swimming in the sea, so i know how upsetting it is. he didnt want replace it as the original had been blessed by the priest

Agreed. We didn't have to add certain items on our insurance due to the value being under £1000.

Definitely worth looking into, OP.

Edit - just seen your update. That's so frustrating 😕

Tell him he owes you a renewal of vows now.

Find a second hand jewellery shop / pawn shop and look for a new band there. You can spend £50-100 for a simple band in the ones near me. Unless you're happy with a silver alternative which will be cheaper again?

I'm sorry, it's hard when things go wrong.

Oh that's sad.

It is very sad 😔 and its perfectly fine to feel sad about it 😥

Can you start to save slowly for a new one? I know it's not a perfect solution but at least you'll have a new one eventually.

Your poor DH too - he must feel awful.

I did this with my daughter’s ear rings the other day, wrapped in paper and promptly forgot and tossed in bin.

@Spencer0220 Oh I fully feel for you. I did this with my own wedding ring - wrapped in tissues next to sink after washing dishes and then chucked out later that night while cleaning. It only clocked a couple of weeks later when I’d ripped the house apart looking for it.

Ive since replaced it but it still makes me sad because of the memories attached. I hate the idea of it lying in a dump somewhere 💔

I was thinking they could renew their vows?

He's not a crier. He cried a lot. He's mortified because he knows he has to be careful about things.

I am torn between feeling devastated and just wanting to cuddle him and tell him it's okay and at least nobody got hurt and that I don't mind. Because it's a ring.