DH threw away my wedding ring!

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I wish this was a joke. But it isn't. How would you handle this?

DH has a brain injury and can do things that make no sense. We usually laugh his mistakes off.

He was tidying the kitchen. I was in bed. I'd forgotten I'd taken my ring off in the kitchen. It was wet, so he wrapped it in kitchen roll. Promptly forgot.

DH threw rubbish in bin. Took bin out. Council emptied bins.

I realised next day. He remembered throwing wet kitchen roll away.

DH is mortified. I'm trying not be to upset around him because I know it was an accident and he doesn't think clearly.

But honestly I'm absolutely devastated.

When you can, buy a replacement and if you wed in church, ask vicar to bless you both and the ring during morning service.

If a hotel wedding, take the replacement and go for a lovely lunch or dinner and get DH to slip it on your finger in a spot you remember well from your wedding day. Would that help?

Ring your insurer. You might find you’re insured up to a certain amount for one unnamed item?

Finally, I threw away a necklace wrapped in tissue. But, worse still, I accidentally threw away my parents’ wedding ring from 1948. That has really broken my heart. 😢💔

I lost mine in the garden on a chilly day - throwing a ball for my son on the trampoline! It just flew off and despite getting a metal detector and searching for ages, I never found it. Husband bought me another one a couple of years later.

I know you can't replace it with a like for like ring, but would something made of silver do?

I love silver and have found Etsy has quite a lot of pretty rings.

E.g.

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1123599015/solid-sterling-silver-blossom-ring-sale?click_key=cf3cf00219b810380887648f462a7b60b4b6ea37%3A1123599015&click_sum=04d9c176&ref=shop_home_recs_2&frs=1

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/574675984/hammered-sterling-silver-ring?click_key=592350ff35baeb97d8a0360bb05bf9ea332adb42%3A574675984&click_sum=1a6cab7e&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=sterling+silver+ring&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&organic_search_click=1&frs=1&bes=1&sts=1&local_signal_search=1&variation1=2729444078&variation0=783983498

Obviously it doesn't change the upset, but a ring that's worn all the time should wear quite well in silver because it will wear the tarnish off.

Do you know what? It's a bit of circular metal.

The obvious affection you have for each other far outweighs the value of any ring.

Just enjoy each other and in years to come replace it with a meaningful token.

Good suggestions

• tell him it's okay and at least nobody got hurt and that I don't mind. Because it's a ring.

^This. He clearly feels bad enough. The ring has gone- you won’t get it back unfortunately. He clearly loves you and you him-thats worth so much more than a piece of metal. DM was devastated when she broke her wrist and had to have all her gold jewellery - bracelets and rings, including wedding band cut off. My dad has passed away so he can’t replace them. She has but it’s not the same as choosing them together.

Have a nice meal, buy a gold band /second hand band from the high street or a glittery fake one for now- (a few people I know have discarded their gold bands for Lovisa rings!)

Oh dear, how upsetting for you both.

But although it's perfectly understandable that you're sad, the ring was just a symbol. You clearly love each other, you don't need to 'renew your vows' - you've not broken them.

Oh, how upsetting for you both. Perhaps you can have a blessing for a replacement ring in due course. Another opportunity to renew vows ❤️

I'm so sorry about your parents' ring.

We married in the registry office and had a buffet at my mum's.

I feel like he's getting an unfair portion of the blame here to he honest.

He threw away an wet bit of tissue that was on the side, how was he supposed to know there was a valuable piece of jewelry inside?

I don't mean to sounds harsh but blaming that on him doing "things that don't make sense" since his brain injury doesn't sit right with me, I think you're at least 50% to blame on this one OP and of he's there crying about "his" error you should be taking your share of the blame and also apologizing to him.

You've misread the OP. Unfortunately DH wrapped the ring in kitchen roll then promptly forgot he had, whilst OP was in bed.

DOh, yes I did!

I even double checked and managed to mis-read a second time!

Sorry OP

No consolation to you but my husband has managed to lose 2. One in the sea like a PP and the other one in a transport yard where he didn't make a big issue of the loss. I've given up now.

Sorry you're so upset, but echo the other posters that it is just a thing.

DH lost his wedding ring some time ago and recently had a new sterling silver but very nice wedding ring for his birthday (from a site called Jeulia.) Until then he had a cheap tungsten one for about a tenner off ebay or Amazon.

I don't necessarily think this is a brain injury thing, it's just something that happens sometimes. I put £60 in ten pound notes in the recycling over Christmas. I was just busy and didn't think.

Ooh thank you.

I was wondering about silver. I figured it would tarnish.

Um, he put it in the tissue? It wasn't me. I was in bed.

Read my post again please

I don't know where you are based but I often see voucher offers for ring making for 2 - alot less than £300 - you could do something like that together and have a nice sentimental replacement?

It's okay @BillStickersWillBeProsocuted Xx

As an example x

https://www.theglamorousowl.com/shop/p/two-person-ring-workshop

Does it need to be? We only need to list items of a value of 2k +

I have has a silver ring from I was 19 and am in my 40's. If you see a silver ring that makes you happy, go with it!

I'm so sorry you've lost your ring.
It could be worse though OP.
I've never seen my mum with her wedding ring on...as she threw it away herself by accident many years ago!
Apparently she was peeling some veg and put it next to the peelings and binned with them whilst tidying up! This must have been nearly 40 years ago. My dad's not the caring or forgiving type and refused to get her a new one, he never did-and they are still married!

Your husband sounds very remorseful. I understand that you are gutted.
Can you plan to look for a new one that you like, together? If you can save £20 a month you'll soon have enough for a new one.
It's a piece of metal, it doesn't define your relationship 💐

Lovely response

Apologies. Misread OP.

If you ring us a replacement value of £300 it's unlikely you would need to list it on your contents insurance in order to claim for it.
If you have accidental loss cover definitely worth contacting them to see if you can claim. Most insurance companies jewellery/valuable limits are in the thousands before they need to be listed.
I've worked in home insurance for over ten years, let me know if you have any questions.

I have heard of this situation many times over. I can totally understand how upsetting it must be. If you don't end up claiming could you buy soemthing temporary whilst you save up? Pandora do some lovely rings