Partner makes me food I don't like

[BestieNo1]

AIBU and spoilt here!"? I'm in two minds!!

My partner sometimes makes me food thinking he is doing me a big favour/nice thing but I don't like what he makes and what makes it worse is that I think he doesn't even know me or care!

For example, we come in from a night out and he makes me tea and toast. Nice right!? But he makes very strong tea (I have for 20 years liked mine weak) and the toast is white bread with loads of jam on it. I have been vocal that I don't like white bread and haven't in all our relationship (I get it for him and the kids) so I get presented with food and drink that I have never liked and expected to be grateful?!

I make his food exactly how he likes it. His drinks how he likes it in his favourite cup, Double espresso with handle turned towards him and his dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life.

I feel like he doesn't even know me or care what I like as long as the job/effort is done.

AIBU to expect my partner to know what I like and don't like by now?!

How do I say thanks but no thanks without sounding arsey? Argh :(

Did he just appear with the toast or did he ask if you wanted some?

Handle turned towards him?!?

Bar of chocolate actually was the straw for me so I sympathise.. In 8 years had only ever eaten Cadbury as that is all I like. Dh proudly presented me with a bar of galaxy. But I thought you might like it...
He was quite enraged I wasn't grateful..

I make his food exactly how he likes it. His drinks how he likes it in his favourite cup, Double espresso with handle turned towards him and his dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life.
what the actual fuck?!?! He isnt a bloody baby. Why are you doing this?!

Just refuse the food. ‘I cannot eat that.’ Discussion over. Dont move it. Dont take it. You didnt ask for it.

And share more of the meal cooking.

Don't eat it . Sorted .

Handles have to be in a certain direction?

handle turned towards him
I cannot imagine this without visualising op with a ribbon in her hair and wearing a pinny.

Just be honest?

I was with you until your little hand maiden paragraph. Handle turned towards him? Going out about vitamins so he live a long time. Right… you’ve cooked a meal for everyone to eat so get off your high horse about that and seriously? Handle turned towards him? Stepford wife.

Pipe up every time. I’d just say ‘no thanks, I can’t stand white bread and jam.’

Refuse the food - he won't take the hump as he seems a bit oblivious tbh!

My dh used to do something similar with me and chocolate. He'd always buy the really dark kind which I find totally inedible. I just don't eat it tbh and he has stopped buying it for me. In his defence I do like dark chocolate but just not the super high coco content one - yes, I'm fussy 😂

I make his food exactly how he likes it. His drinks how he likes it in his favourite cup, Double espresso with handle turned towards him and his dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life.

What? Why on earth do you do all of that?

And surely you can see him making tea/toast? Why not just say no?

So you’d been on a night out; both a bit tipsy? And he made himself and you tea and toast? I’d not use that as an example tbf if you’d both had a drink and he just made a round.

Right?
OP, I don't serve my husband food that he hates but neither do I make him exactly what he likes all the time. If he doesn't like what I make he can feed himself.
It's sad that your DP CBA to know what you hate but equally your consideration for him is over the top. You are his partner not his butler.

Also the 'varied range.... long and healthy life' made me laugh so hard. I snorted my coffee out. Surely, it's a balanced meal for the FAMILY, including you. as a whole. Not just him? That's not really a favour to him specifically is it? And you sound like some sort of health food catalogue.

The 1950's called they want their housewife back.

Handle turned towards him! 😂🤣😂

Had April fool arrived early?
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varied range of meats

Sounds like my university years 😉

You call him your "partner" - but you're apparently unable to say "I don't like x" to him.

Have you only just met?

Oh this made me cackle! 😂

he is making toast, say, brown bread for me please, with marmite
or weak tea please

dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life

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Do you drink and eat it or do you say thanks but actually I don’t like this and won’t be eating it?

Don't eat it and use your words...

'I don't like white bread toast so no thank you'

'I like my tea weaker than that so no thank you'

'I didn't ask you to make me any food/drink so no thank you'

Plain, polite but consistent. He will stop. If he doesn't then a further conversation asking him why he makes, and expects you to drink/eat, stuff you don't like?

Sounds like he needs doses of arsenic in his food imo.