Partner makes me food I don't like

[BestieNo1]

AIBU and spoilt here!"? I'm in two minds!!

My partner sometimes makes me food thinking he is doing me a big favour/nice thing but I don't like what he makes and what makes it worse is that I think he doesn't even know me or care!

For example, we come in from a night out and he makes me tea and toast. Nice right!? But he makes very strong tea (I have for 20 years liked mine weak) and the toast is white bread with loads of jam on it. I have been vocal that I don't like white bread and haven't in all our relationship (I get it for him and the kids) so I get presented with food and drink that I have never liked and expected to be grateful?!

I make his food exactly how he likes it. His drinks how he likes it in his favourite cup, Double espresso with handle turned towards him and his dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life.

I feel like he doesn't even know me or care what I like as long as the job/effort is done.

AIBU to expect my partner to know what I like and don't like by now?!

How do I say thanks but no thanks without sounding arsey? Argh :(

Are you married to my husband ha ha! He does this even though I've been diabetic for 20 years. No answer sorry. Just love him anyway!

I make his food exactly how he likes it. His drinks how he likes it in his favourite cup, Double espresso with handle turned towards him and his dinners on the table with a varied range of meats and vitamins to ensure he has a long and healthy life

Best laugh all week.
I was very against AI and ChatGPT at first but now I see it can be even more amusing than humans.

You don't need a varied range of meats to have a balanced diet. Has he heard of the benefits of vege meals?

Thanks all for the wide variety of thoughts!! I am menopausal and wondered if I have heightened awareness of minor annoyances @fortheloveofpogs 😱 misunderstood me and @lifebeginsaftercoffee you were right, I meant meals not meats!! 😳😛😜

Meant meals not meats! 😬

Think he'd be alright with it, its purely an example of how I pay attention to other people's needs v my own! 🤔

Making people toast with a spread on it they don't like without them even indicating they are hungry is a bit weird. Was he drunk?
If I were you I would stop fussing over making him stuff. Just makes things for yourself that you like. If he makes you that again just hand it back. 'No thanks, I don't want it and don't like it. You eat it if you like? '