I don't wear it but not because I can't be bothered - I just never seemed to be able to figure out how.
I tried watching tutorials etc but it just never looked the same as theirs did. And because I am a person who doesn't wear make up, the times I do, people notice and comment and it makes me feel really embarrassed as I assume I've done it badly.
Sometimes I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or I'm not used to seeing myself with it.
But also, and I'm not being purposefully dim here but I don't really "get" make up.
I can kind of understand things like foundation and concealer if it's hiding eg acne. But on the whole it feels odd to put a paint or powder on my face that slightly alters the colour.
I know that people try to match their skin colour but if the majority of people did this to perfection then presumably you'd have no clue if they were wearing make up or just naturally had clearer skin. Judging from the comments here, most people (if they actively paid attention) would be able to tell that someone is wearing make up or not.
I don't know. When I think about it it just feels so bizarre that it's socially expected for one sex to paint their faces.
Then there's the other stuff. I've never understood blusher. I'm not sure why having red or pink cheeks looks better than not.
The contouring stuff is impressive in the sense people can make their face look a different (not necessarily better) shape and I'm impressed by their skills but that's about it.
Mascara - is having longer eyelashes better than not? Again not being obtuse but generally I think a "normal" length eyelash looks better personally - when I see people with noticeable mascara or fake lashes I notice it looks different but not better.
Eyeliner is the same. I feel like it looks odd on me. Then I become really caught up in how odd it is to add colour around my eyes. Nobody naturally has black/brown etc circles around their eyes so why is adding it a good thing?
And lipstick. Why is the colour I change my lips to nicer than the colour my lips already are? Surely it's just that it's different? If I had different colour lips, would I be wearing lipstick to change them to the colour of my current ones?
To be clear I am not insulting people who like the way make up look and I'm not saying they look bad. I'm saying that to me they simply look different to people who don't. Different - not worse and not better.
When someone's wears make up I feel the same way as I do about people having tattoos or piercings. They're choosing something they like for their appearance and that's fine. I assume they get it to express themselves and their identity. They're not getting tattoos to look more attractive right? I feel it would make more sense if it's the same for make up.
But what confuses me is the narrative that wearing make up makes you inherently look better / less tired / washed out and it's brave not to.
Does that mean that all men look tired and washed out? If so is it that "tired" is actually a normal human face? And we have become so accustomed to seeing women with make up that it's seen as normal?
I think make up makes you look like you have product on your face. Product you've chosen to present and express yourself in the same way you choose your clothes or jewellery or tattoos or whatever. Which can be cool.
I just don't agree that it's a given that wearing make-up is more attractive than not.
And I'm not just speaking about people like me who are bad at it. I'm also talking about people who are good at it. Their skills are impressive but I feel the same way as I do about someone who can do any other skill well. Is it a universal truth that make up improves their appearance rather than just changes it?