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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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Cel77 · 16/02/2024 21:06

flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

Literally no judgement from me whatsoever. That's all I've got to say (oh, and I only wear mascara every day).

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 21:12

If I’m a hundred percent honest I would probably - without realising it - judge you as slightly less attractive than if you had a moderately made up face. My friends and I are mid 40’s and tend not to wear a lot, and I’ve always been sort of known amongst friends and family for not liking to wear much. I definitely would for a formal meal out, wedding reception etc but even then I tend to keep it quite light ( nothing involving make up brushes, powders, eye shadow etc. A little liquid light reflecting foundation, lip gloss and mascara ( love a flick of a nice long lashes one). That’s been my “ made up” face since my late teens and I would have worn it for weekend evenings out ( so once or twice weekly) or special events. Now I’m my mid 40’s I do find I more often feel a bit frumpy without it, so not every day but maybe a couple of times during the week for a meeting etc, or even just lunch with a friend if it’s somewhere nice. I’m fortunate that I haven’t yet hit the wrinkle stage. Not sure what I’ll do then as I don’t imagine it goes on very well and sometimes highlights them I think. BUT - and as a relatively infrequent wearer of make up - I have to concede when I do see friends wearing a bit of slap when they normally don’t, I am taken aback by how much more attractive they look. And I put it on when I want to look a bit better than normal. None of us wear it heavily though.

AllstarFacilier · 16/02/2024 21:14

I genuinely can’t tell if a person has make up on unless it’s quite obvious with eyeliner/eyeshadow etc. If it’s just foundation and mascaras I can’t tell.

CatAndHisKit · 16/02/2024 21:16

I always wear makeup, quite subtle, a bit less than when I was younger. I look instantly and much better with some mascara (not always with liner), a bit of lipstick and foundation / concealer. Also clear brow gel. Overall I look natural but emhanced. Especially now I'm middle-aged I wouldn't go out without concealer under eyes as I have dark-ish circles. I don't apply anything fake (brows . lashes . nails).

I admire women who can wear zero makeup, but my honest opinion, I only admire the if they look good - usually either sporty types or someone with great skin and neat features / big eyes. Most of the time I think that woman would look noticeable much better with a some mascara / blusher / whatever depending on her looks. I just know how it works for me so can't help applying it to them.

But it's obvioualy their choice - I still admire the attitude, but not always the look.

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 21:20

tachetastic · 16/02/2024 20:38

@Octomingo Doesn't stop me going out without it, but I look better on makeup days. And by better, I mean less washed out and exhausted.

Out of interest, do you think men look washed out and exhausted?

I often hear women say they look pale and washed out when they don't have make-up on, but I rarely think a healthy man looks pale and washed out (and I assume make-up is still relatively rare amongst men).

I do understand that the look a woman is going for is different to that of a man, but I find it interesting that a natural woman's face is seen as washed out when a man's isn't.

I think make and female skin texture is a bit different and that may have something to do with it?

CatAndHisKit · 16/02/2024 21:21

(Gawd, sorry for all the typos!)

CatAndHisKit · 16/02/2024 21:23

Yes, male skin is more robust and rugged, they tend to have stronger / bigger eyebrows, mouth more defined (even if not a great shape!)

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 21:29

sesquipedalian · 16/02/2024 18:44

My sister once observed that what characterised me and my friends was that we were “all strangers to the cosmetics counter”. It’s true - I wear make-up if I’m going to a wedding or a smart dinner, but that’s about it. I can’t be bothered, and the cost of some make-up is nothing short of shocking. My sister wouldn’t even answer the door to the milkman if she hadn’t done her make-up - I find that astonishing!

I happily answer in my pjs! My DH snd DCs find that shocking and all hide if they are still in theirs. But if someone is knocking at an early hour - and with such coy family someone has to do it 🤷🏻‍♀️ ( I don’t often wear the satin negligee variety… )

Wineat5isfine · 16/02/2024 21:44

the most amount of make up I wear is mascara and I’ve been judged a lot in the past by a certain pocket of friends who wear a lot of make up / have Botox etc.

ive been told I don’t make any effort and they feel sorry for me 🤣🤣

2 friends in particular will not leave the house or answer their front door until they have their “full face” on.

gerteddy · 16/02/2024 21:44

Some people look fine without it. Most ppl I know that don't wear it look ok without it.

Personally I have dark circles under my eyes and feel that I look rough if I don't have a little something on to cover it up. I usually wear concealer, mascara and blush most days. Just brightens me up and takes a few mins. Sometimes I do go barefaced on school run or popping in to the supermarket but if I were going to work I'd have a full face on.

BreatheAndFocus · 16/02/2024 21:49

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 21:20

I think make and female skin texture is a bit different and that may have something to do with it?

Male skin is roughly 25% thicker than female skin, so yes, women can look more tired (dark shadows showing through) and drawn.

Deadringer · 16/02/2024 21:52

I don't think j would notice, or think anything of it if I did. I don't wear make up much myself though, and my 4 dds only wear it for a big night out, the rest of the time they don't bother, so make up free is the norm for us.

bryceQ · 16/02/2024 21:55

I wore makeup everyday in my teens and early to mid twenties. I changed my outlooks and interests in my late twenties and now my life is very different. I find I don't have much inclination for makeup. If I do it's the cc cream. I feel like I've grown to like my face, and not see it as unfinished or in need of tweaking. I find it a really satisfying place to be. I have good skin and I do spend time on skincare, so perhaps there's a privilege there.

Cornflakes44 · 16/02/2024 21:56

I couldn't tell you if the women at work wear make up so I guess I don't notice. I wear fairly light make up, takes 5 minutes. It's very easy and makes me look so much better to pencil in my eyebrows (over plucking in the 90s) and put some mascara on. I do wonder why others don't do this very simple thing when they make an effort with clothes, hair etc. effort in, reward out for simple make up seems high.

Meangirl6 · 16/02/2024 21:56

It's really nice and refreshing.

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 21:56

BreatheAndFocus · 16/02/2024 21:49

Male skin is roughly 25% thicker than female skin, so yes, women can look more tired (dark shadows showing through) and drawn.

They also look more obviously made up when in make up.

InSpainTheRain · 16/02/2024 21:56

I'm 58 and dont wear any makeup. I have a good haircut and make sure.my skin is good, but nothing else. Also saves a fortune!

Charlize43 · 16/02/2024 22:01

I hardly wear it. A smear of bright red lipstick is enough for me. I feel it makes me feel made up without actually trying very hard.

As I get older I really don't want to be one of those women who unnecessarily complicate their lives with trivial like heavy time consuming make-up and carrying around high heels for events and a large hold-all handbag full of crap.

I'm beginning to minimalize. A capsule wardrobe is next.

CurleyMango · 16/02/2024 22:03

I don’t wear any, gave up several years go. I think it’s sad when younger women wear cakeed faces of orange and older also have caked faces. It’s all a choice but it’s quicker, easier and seems better for skin to be free.

mrlistersgelfbride · 16/02/2024 22:05

I've worn a full face of make up almost every day since I was 15...so 24 years. It's just who I am. I only have a day off when I don't leave the house (very rare).
But I have sallow skin and dark circles so I do feel I look much better with it. It's just a natural face and takes me 10 minutes. I might do a 20 minute routine when I go out in the evening. I love eyeshadow palettes and always loved trying different colours. I see no reason to stop doing it.

I see lots of women younger than me who wear a lot of make up, including false eyelashes daily, I don't think anything apart from wonder how long it takes them!
I love seeing a fresh pretty face without make up. The big boss at work is in her 40s and has amazing skin and she never wears any, she doesn't need it at all. I wish I could be like that!

ReadingSoManyThreads · 16/02/2024 22:07

I was brought up in a family with none of the female adults wearing makeup - ever. I stopped wearing makeup in my early 30's. In my 40's now and I'm baffled as to why anyone would judge a woman for not wearing makeup. If you cannot walk down the street in your own natural beauty without being judged for being "lazy or frumpy", then what sort of world are we living in??

When I'm out and about, there are by far more women NOT wearing make-up, than are. I really detest this view that women are not beautiful, or are lazy if they don't 'make an effort' by piling crap on their face everyday.

ShouldIbeLeftWithLess · 16/02/2024 22:11

I wear makeup (bb cream, blush, mascara, lippy and an eyeliner wing), and when I talk to women without makeup I wonder if they are judging me!

WandaWonder · 16/02/2024 22:11

No idea I don't wear make up but have enough going on in my own life to worry about whether other people wear makeup or not

EmmaEmerald · 16/02/2024 22:12

I don't notice unless it's heavy or obvious.

I have no judgement regardless.

statistically, is it correct to assume most women aren't wearing it if just out walking the dog, but are wearing it in the office?

Calliopespa · 16/02/2024 22:20

ShouldIbeLeftWithLess · 16/02/2024 22:11

I wear makeup (bb cream, blush, mascara, lippy and an eyeliner wing), and when I talk to women without makeup I wonder if they are judging me!

What on earth is an eyeliner wing?!
Also wondering what clear eyebrow stuff does?

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