Nursery have given DS cake

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i have said I don’t want him having puddings and to have fruit instead. Last week he had cake all week (only just found out on pick up yesterday). They’ve said it was an oversight. Would you be annoyed about this? He’s 12 months.

Have now read the comments…this thread is insane !😂

Your poor child (and the poor nursery).

If you want to have such inflexible (and ridiculous) rules maybe stay home and look after your child and feed him yourself.

best of luck with this thread OP

lighten up, let your poor kid enjoy the food! its just a bit of cake.

It wouldn't bother me a couple of days a week. But not every day. Send some Greek yogurt and fruit and as an alternative so he doesn't feel left out.

But maybe I have too high expectations? Let’s all feed our children rubbish and pay for the privilege

Maybe they think you are bonkers as fruit probably contains more sugar than home-made nursery cake?

Yes, I’d be upset. It’s not so much the cake (it’s your decision as his parent what he can/cannot have - in my opinion a piece of cake won’t hurt) but that they’ve given him something for a whole week you’ve asked them not to give him. It’s not been a one off. At DS nursery they always have fruit, yoghurt, biscuits and breakfast cereal on hand and ready to give to the kids (DS has had it on occasion he’s refused his main meal). So it’s not a huge extra effort to give a child that and just not give them the cake. It’s not like you’re asking for a whole new meal to be made. That being said, your nursery may be different. But when you asked them not to give him cake, if there was a problem with your request, such as not being able to accommodate it for whatever reason they should have said.

When DS1 was a year old MIL gave him 3 mince pies. They were homemade, and the mincemeat was homemade too, and not very big. I wasn’t mad, I just told her if he was sick or had tummy ache she was dealing with it. He was fine and still loves mince pies.

He’s now 29 and eats a very healthy diet. He cooks his own meals, is very muscular and is one of the fittest people in his regiment in the army. Having a cake at a year doesn’t mean you’ll be an obese couch potato.

Cake isn't rubbish it's just something children enjoy. God forbid.

If you're that bothered stay home and feed your child organic healthy food yourself.

It's annoying they haven't listened to you so change nursery? Or simply relax a bit.

Difference is though fruit has some nutrition in and adds to fiber intake. Which we all need to keep our digestive system moving and prevent constipation.

Let him have the cake. It won’t do any harm.

They can’t adhere to a list of mere preferences (so not allergies or anything medical or ethical) from all the parents. It would be too much.

I think some people are being a bit harsh here, the point isn't so much that he's eaten cake, it's more the fact that OP's dietary wishes were completely ignored/brushed over. What if the child had allergies/intolerances? I think some of these comments would be different then.

Maybe they didn’t consider it a ‘pudding’ as such as there’s no sugar in it. I really don’t think it’s a big deal whatsoever. It probably even had some fruit in it!

I think if you've brought the problem to their attention and they've apologised and said they'll fix it, that's enough. No angst needed.

I'd be very surprised if it was the sort of sugar laden cake we're used to.

I bet there's less sugar in nursery cake (if it's anything like primary school cake it will taste of nothing) than there is in fruit

@Wetblanket78 Difference is though fruit has some nutrition in and adds to fiber intake. Which we all need to keep our digestive system moving and prevent constipation

I’m guessing you have not caught onto what constitutes ‘cake’ these days. Now that parents view sugar in the same light as crack, things have seemingly become inventive. We have two parents of younger children at work and suffer their ‘cakes’. They are called cake, look like cake and ‘sort of’ taste like cake but seemingly have no cake ingredients. The last doozy to be bought in was a ‘chocolate cake’. Zero chocolate, zero sugar, gluten free, but it did contain mushed red kidney beans (?????) and beetroot. Apparently there are whole cookbooks and sites dedicated to this shite now so everyone can eat ‘cake’ without it being cake. I dare say nurseries have probably caught onto this fad now and jumped onboard?

@HoppingPavlova it probably started in nurseries/schools. Most school cakes don’t have the sugar most ordinary people use when making cakes. Maybe OP can ask to see the ingredients list (which they will have for allergies)

Fruit is just as full of sugar as cake.

Agree that either nanny or parenting is the key if you want that level of control. Poor little mite, probably would appreciate a treat to break up the days

“Supermarket bread”
So parents are now expected to make their own bread? Utter insanity.

I imagine cake every day is a wild exaggeration. It’s cake - your baby is going to be fine… and you’ll likely cause more problems for the kid in the long run. If you want to have such particular preferences, get a nanny.

Same here. Also the multiple assertions that setting up a habit of eating cake every single day "won't hurt" and "won't kill them"

Eating cake every day is bonkers, low sugar or no. And if it tastes like wallpaper paste as a PP says it does, then what's the bloody point of giving it to them?!

So 20 kids or whatever sit there having cake and you child has to sit there not having it?

@Stressedafff maybe we are supposed to be shelling out for artisan sourdough which is invariably stale af and tastes like horse feed?

I love MN sometimes. "Supermarket bread" <hoiks bosoms>

I think this is the point people are making though - I imagine the nursery meticulously adhere to medical or religious dietary requirements, but they can’t cater for every parents’ preference. Johnny can’t have cake / Susan only allowed a scrape of butter / Polly can’t have white bread etc etc. A nursery just isn’t the right childcare setting for those parents.

Fresh fruit is far more of a problem with teeth than cake !