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Nursery have given DS cake

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Hmmwhatyousay · 15/02/2024 21:40

i have said I don’t want him having puddings and to have fruit instead. Last week he had cake all week (only just found out on pick up yesterday). They’ve said it was an oversight. Would you be annoyed about this? He’s 12 months.

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WannabeMathematician · 15/02/2024 22:08

So they have admitted that they made a mistake? If so have they told you how they are going to make sure it doesn’t happen again? If they’ve done that I don’t think there’s much more you can do.

Bournetilly · 15/02/2024 22:08

Nothing wrong with cake but I would be annoyed they didn’t follow instructions. If this is the first time it’s happened I’d let it go.

Mum2jenny · 15/02/2024 22:09

Your child, your choice. I’d disagree with it, but it’s your child and what you want must be considered by the nursery

showmethegin · 15/02/2024 22:09

I'm so surprised at the responses here? Our toddler has a pretty balanced diet with the odd bit of chocolate every now and then, but cake everyday?! Thats mad? I'd be concerned what else they were serving tbh.

LongLostSock · 15/02/2024 22:09

Cake every day is very strange for a baby room. Have you got access to the menu?

Mumoftwo2022 · 15/02/2024 22:09

Annoying that they didn’t follow what you said but I wouldn’t lose sleep about it. It’s happened move on and just ask them again not to give it of its important to you

FlyingSoap · 15/02/2024 22:13

What do you think will happen if he eats cake?

Unpopular opinion - If you restrict cake now, he will desire it more once he knows what it is. It will backfire. If you make cake ‘no big deal’ just as you would banana, broccoli or jacket potato… then he will learn that all foods are ok in moderation and shouldn’t overeat anything high in sugar or fat in the future. Don’t put foods on a pedestal. Serving dessert at the same time as main meal is even better, apparently & reduces the chance of disordered eating or sneaking foods in the future. I’m sure the nursery know what they’re doing.

sleepingbeau · 15/02/2024 22:14

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FlyingSoap · 15/02/2024 22:15

Would also like to know what type of cake it was. Was it banana bread, for instance? Something low in sugar? He probably had a table spoon size amount of cake which is nothing really.

TheSnowyOwl · 15/02/2024 22:15

showmethegin · 15/02/2024 22:09

I'm so surprised at the responses here? Our toddler has a pretty balanced diet with the odd bit of chocolate every now and then, but cake everyday?! Thats mad? I'd be concerned what else they were serving tbh.

It’s not cake in the way we have cake as adults. It’s sugarless and doesn’t takes nice but has the texture and looks of a cake.

TheFairyCaravan · 15/02/2024 22:18

When I worked in a nursery we had a child who wasn’t allowed cake or biscuits. As soon as we had any parties or picnics, where she’d be allowed to have whatever, she’d literally fill her face with cakes, biscuits and sweets whereas the other children would eat a mixture of what was there.

Of course having cake everyday isn’t good for you, but once in a while won’t hurt anyone.

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 15/02/2024 22:18

I didn’t know nursery cake was any different to normal cake.

if that’s the case then I wouldn’t be bothered about it.

dd started at a nursery many moons ago and 3 weeks after starting they changed the menu….

new menu served hot chocolate with their breakfast everyday 🤔

HungryandIknowit · 15/02/2024 22:19

This gets my goat as well tbh. The kids are tiny - no need for cake / biscuits / jam / supermarket bread every day. I don't make a fuss though as the nursery is otherwise great.

GoldMerchant · 15/02/2024 22:19

I'm very surprised nursery agreed to that. My DCs is very clear that dietary requests other than vegetarianism/veganism and religious restrictions need to be accompanied by a medical note.

Nursery "cake" either bounces when dropped or tastes like plaster of Paris. It's grim stuff.

Avocadosandwic · 15/02/2024 22:20

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MayThe4th · 15/02/2024 22:20

It’s high time we had one of those “what did you do when your pfb was a baby that you look back and cringe at” threads.

Crazycatlady79 · 15/02/2024 22:20

I get you being tucked off about them going agin your wishes, but...

Nursery have given DS cake
ThePoshUns · 15/02/2024 22:21

First world problems 🎻

SallyWD · 15/02/2024 22:21

Honestly, I think it will do him more harm in the long run to deny him certain foods that he's sees everyone else eat. I'll never forget my friend who was brought up on a very strict no sugar, vegan diet. As soon as she was out of sight of her parents she'd be buying sweets and sausage rolls! You may not be so extreme but you won't be doing him any favours by denying him cake. Everything in moderation.

Fruitmangocream · 15/02/2024 22:23

I believe your attitude needs to change towards food for your child. As someone who's mother was so controlling this way, it's a recipe for a potential eating disorder later on. Everything in moderation. Eat the cake.

TheCompactPussycat · 15/02/2024 22:24

Hmmwhatyousay · 15/02/2024 21:57

I think ‘please don’t give ds cake’ is a pretty straightforward request with 85 quid a day thrown there way.

But maybe I have too high expectations? Let’s all feed our children rubbish and pay for the privilege 👍🏼

Fruit sugars are not great for teeth but perhaps you're happy to pay 85 quid a day for that sort of damage?

The type of cake they'll get at nursery will be plain sponge type cake with very little sugar in it. It's not cupcakes with several inches of frosting and sprinkles on the top.

Scirocco · 15/02/2024 22:25

It's not like they gave him crack cocaine.

Channel your inner Elsa, speak with hs key worker or room manager to make sure they've got his dietary requirements noted down accurately, and brace yourself for when, any day now, you discover him eating bugs and mud.

Magixx · 15/02/2024 22:27

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 15/02/2024 22:18

I didn’t know nursery cake was any different to normal cake.

if that’s the case then I wouldn’t be bothered about it.

dd started at a nursery many moons ago and 3 weeks after starting they changed the menu….

new menu served hot chocolate with their breakfast everyday 🤔

If its anything like the nursery i used to work at it was 1 tablespoon of hot choc powder to one full jug of warm milk. Barely tasted of chocolate was just very light brown milk!

Avocadosandwic · 15/02/2024 22:29

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SwordToFlamethrower · 15/02/2024 22:32

I'd be beyond furious!!!! If he had an allergy, then an oversight could be deadly.

I'd be reporting them to ofsted.

My son had a terrible lactose intolerance and it turned out the nursery were giving him dairy.

I lost TWO jobs because i was constantly missing work to pick him up for being ill.

Do not let this go, at all. Giving babies junk food is NOT ok.