Has anyone ever given you some life changing advice?

[scottyhannah]

My first ever boss told me to find my voice and do things with purpose.
It was a dig at the time as I was a shy little 17 year old but for some reason it stayed with me for the next 30 years and I still hear his voice butt into my head when I need motivation.
He would have no idea that his frustrated jibe would have helped make me who I am.

That still doesn’t make any sense. Not being happy about a situation doesn’t mean you have a bad attitude. The saying comes across more as put up with what you have as there’s nothing better out there, which blatantly isn’t true.

There are some great sayings on here, a few that I don’t agree with or understand but definitely some that are worth remembering.

This just massively puts me off from doing a marathon!!!!

If someone needs to put you down to elevate themselves to temporarily feel more adequate about themselves then just let them and pity them.

When looking at people posts on social media, gushing about how amazing their relationship is, how wonderful their partner is, what a fantastic life they lead (you know the sort) I always remind myself "never compare your backstage with someones front stage" !!

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"Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking."

Helps me be a better person every day.

20 miles through a marathon is nearly at the end - I think the first poster must have mistyped for 20km.

A marathon is 42 km or 26.2 miles

I like ‘be your own best friend’ as in live by the advice you’d give a good friend, we’re always harsher on ourselves.

Also I remember Katherine Ryan doing a bit where she says she’s a poor mother, but as a father she’s smashing it out the park. I try to not feel guilty for things dh wouldn’t give a second thought.

My dad was a fan of ‘you wouldn’t swap your worries for anyone else’s’ which I like, whatever is bugging me, I’m glad to be where I am, everyone has problems.

At work I go by easier to say sorry than ask permission. Generally just doing something is easier than finding out if I can and how I can.

Maybe Aragorn.

What does this mean?

I’m a huge worrier and my boss (ex boss) told me to “stop worrying about things I have no control over. If you can change something change it, if you can’t then don't waste time stressing over it”. Pretty simple but very true, life’s to short to stress about things you can not change.

When I was 18, in my first 'proper' full-time job after 6 months, my exasperated boss said that he didn't think I was cut out for that role, and how important it was to do a job that you really enjoyed and to not think of a job as simply a means to live as it would be unsatisfying. He also told me that if you do a job you are interested in, that success and fulfilment come automatically.

At the time I was crushed and didn't believe him. However, I then left that industry, went back to education and into a career that I love and doing very well! It is advice that I pass onto my children now.

Until I read this, I was going to say no, no one has ever given me life long useful advice, at least not to my knowledge.
But I love the above, and that will now stay with me.

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If you have to have a difficult conversation with a colleague (i.e. a line management chat), make notes throughout the meeting. Then follow up immediately via email to re-say all that was said including flagging their defences/rebuttals etc. Make it clear that you said you be doing this 'for both our records' and ask that they make any comments they wish to by the end of that working day.

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It stops people twisting things later, or trying to wiggle out of difficult discussions. Also good to have a paper trail. That way when you performance manage someone out of the organisation you have a clear trail of what was said when. First Line Management lesson I ever received and one I have really taken to heart.

"Never need anyone more than they need you."

This should be the highlighted warning at the top of the Relationships board.

I read on some weight loss thread somewhere - “No single raindrop is responsible for the flood.”

Basically some of our bigger problems are down to our tiny every day decisions. And the way to solve those problems is by changing those tiny every day decisions. I find that thought very empowering when I’m staring down any long term goal.

This is so true, one of my Facebook friends was really gushing over her partner this week for Valentine’s Day. Yet a lot of those fb friends will know she was having a fling with an old school friend not so long ago!

It means, just because you can’t see the point of something, that doesn’t mean it’s pointless. Don’t streamline a system/process/department/whatever if you don’t actually know how it works.

When facing something quite stressful, my lovely great uncle told me, ‘Just think, tonight it will be all over with’. It’s simple and obvious but I’ve thought about that often with exams, interviews, medical procedures etc.

The best advice I've ever received was "worrying only puts you through it twice".
Heard it from a drunk woman in the local pub years back and she has no idea how much it changed my life.

PurpleFlower1983 · Today 14:53

When facing something quite stressful, my lovely great uncle told me, ‘Just think, tonight it will be all over with’. It’s simple and obvious but I’ve thought about that often with exams, interviews, medical procedures etc.

This is good advice and I've heard this before - it doesn't have to be 'tonight' either. You can think to yourself, this time in a week, it will be over.

I never met the someone as she was off work having broken both her legs and an arm. I was given her office for the duration of her absence but written on her large office whiteboard was

Life is not a dress rehearsal

it has stayed with me thirty five years or so and I’ve often applied it to things I’ve wanted to do, felt, or felt not I should/not do.

I think it’s a comment on the mental strength required to get you through. You might be 80% of the way through the distance but you’re only halfway through the mental battle as the last 6 miles are much harder than the first 20.

Ah, ok - sorry, I was clearly being a bit too literal!