MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

@tinatsarina

She can visit the family after. It's not easy for him to take time off. If she was employed they wouldn't give her the time off.

If I were her I wouldn’t do any further favours for you, she Dosen’t owe you anything, why can’t you pay a childminder to look after the kids on the day……or is it that she was doing unpaid childcare and now you don’t have the money to do so

When you get a job who is going to look after the kids and will you be paying them to do so

You are being unreasonable and you can’t even see it even though many posters have said it……work on your attitude

Tbh (especially after your updates) I'd withdraw all childcare for you if I were your mother in law

YABU - I agree most work places wouldn't give her time off to go, but that's irrelevant. You are not her employer. She doesn't work and can do what she likes. You certainly can't tell her she can't go.

… or let the body wait…

Do YOU employ her? Do you pay her for the childcare she does for you?

I highly doubt it. She does you a favour by looking after your children. Be grateful. And you absolutely don't get to dictate this. I'm mean wow, the entitlement is staggering.

Wow, is this real?

You are bring VVVVVVVVVVUUUUU x10

There are childcare agencies for short notice babysitting. You might just have to use one of those. Yes, yes… it wont be cheap; but it might show you what MIL is saving you when she normally does it.

🤣🤣🤣👏

He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first

How very inconsiderate of the man to die!
I'd be raging if I were you.

If she was employed she wouldn't be given the time off.

Why not? If she was employee she'd be entitled to annual leave.

She has given you and your husband almost a week's notice. Sort something else out. I'd hate to think what would happen if she had a health scare of her own. Would you tell her she's not allowed as she agreed to the childcare first?

I think this can't be real. I hope this isn't real.

YADBU
No one knows when someone is likely to die. It’s really not something you can plan for.
To her it’s important to attend a funeral.

Yes, YABU, even if not close to the deceased she's entitled to attend and support family who were close to them

Assuming this is NOT a reverse <stern look> @tinatsarina I hope she tells you to shove your childcare up your arse from now on and finds something more fulfilling to do than look than pander to her ungrateful, entitled DiL.

Well, I hope one of the jobs you're interviewing for pays well. Because if you were my DIL you'd be using all your extra pay on childcare from now on and I'd be off enjoying my retirement.

And if it's difficult for DH to get the day off, one of your parents can get a day off surely. To help out their daughter? Or is it just that you assume, as she's not working, that her time is yours?

YABU and outrageously so.

Op you need to find a couple sitters so that you have more back up.

So what? Are you employing her?

If you don't like the child care she is offering, pay for something different.

I hate a reverse post but this is so out there I kinda hope you are not for real.

If so, Christ stop being both horrible and entitled.

Hahahaha, oh behave op

The fact that this wasn't a very close relative is irrelevant. It may well be a case of wanting to support her sister in law.

What job role op?

You'll definitely get the pisstaker one. Just narrate your post to them , no luck needed you'll smash the interview for that one ;)

Can you not just ask them to rearrange the funeral for a day when you don't have interviews?

Does she actually want to do childcare op, or have you pressurised her?

YABVU!

How fucking entitled are you OP ?🙄…. If that was my DD or DIL , I would tell you to get fucked