To just feel like my child is an arse?

[shewolfmum]

So....I hate perfume. Body spray...strong smells well synthetic smells anyway. My DD (11) has been asking for body spray as her friends have it. I said no, we can find a natural one I would take her shopping to find one. Today I got off my girl flu fever sofa ( got that cough fever sinus pile of shit) to take her to town with her friend for shopping. That's what she wanted to do in half term. I huddled in a cafe for 3 hours staring into space as my eyes hurt. Anyway...on the way we discuss said body spray...she said it was unfair but she wouldn't buy it ....just went in to see her and the two bottles are in her dresser! She said they are her friends who is staying...which I can tell is an absolute lie. I am so peed off with her...I feel like putting her outside with her bloody body spray. Aibu?

Just because you don’t like something isn’t a reason why she shouldn’t have it. She’s probably getting conscious about smelling at that age etc as well so just let her do what she wants to do. It’s mean

Why can't she use body spray?

You need to chill out

Best of luck for the teenage years

Pick your battles op, pick your battles…

this is such controlling behaviour and a great way to fuck up your relationship with her

No in that story you are very much the one who sounds like an arse. Why should you disliking something exclude your daughter from it?!

You're being massively uptight.of course you won't like the body spray of an 11 year old, it's not marketed to you. Let her like her own things and if she stinks like a sweet shop then let her look back and cringe in 30 years.

Not sure why she can't have the body sprays? I don't much like perfume but had years of enduring teenage body sprays and Lynx. It's what teenagers do.

Don't be that mother.

Honestly, you sound kind of mean (and that's coming from someone who is not going to win any parenting awards).

This. In spades

I do understand your feelings about the sort of body sprays that teenagers seem to love, @shewolfmum. I only had boys, but at times, you could have cut the smell of Lynx Africa in this house with a knife. It seems impossible for a teenager to use just a bit of spray - it has to be industrial quantities - so much that your mum can taste it downstairs, with the door shut. It is weaponised fragrance, imo.

But I’m afraid it’s something we just have to put up with. This too shall pass.

Waiting for the drip feed, that there’s a severe allergy or something.

If not, YABU sorry

Exactly 💯

Totally unreasonable and very mean. I hate synthetic smells too. They trigger migraine. So my DC put their perfumes and aftershave on with the door shut, and don't wear it when they're going to be in an enclosed space with me. It's really unfair to deny your DD the simple pleasure of smelling nice (to her) because you don't like any artificial scent.

Yabu.
Body sprays are entirely normal things that many people use, especially teens!

You're being weird...

Grow up.

I'm of the pick your battles brigade too!

Or as Dd would say "seriously - it's not that deep!"

What kind of 'natural' thing were you thinking of that would smell like the body spray smell she wants

And no, she isn't an arse.

Your daughter isn't the arse here

Why don't you want her wearing spray???

It's such a small thing for her to want that I think you are really mean not to let her have it. You can have rules that where she uses it but you should let her have it.

I think you're being unfair. I can't stand the smell of my DD's body sprays but she loves them, her friends and her discuss different scents (they all smell the same to me) and she gets excited by a super drug voucher so she can buy more. It's a bit joyless to deny her then. I still think fondly of my bottles of Charlie Red!

I’m autistic with a sensory aversion to perfume smells, but my teens still use them. They spray them in their own room. You can’t ban a whole household from using things that are unpleasant to you, open a window!

Fucking hell it's a bottle of impulse, pick your battles