Guy made a comment on my parenting

[bubbles1994]

Hey everyone so, I'm a single mum with a 2 year old daughter, I decided i wanted to start dating as I'm lonely as hell. So I've been texting with a guy who has 2 little girls 7 + 4. We've been really getting on for the past 2 weeks. Last night he made a comment and I don't know if I'm overreacting or not but my daughter has been unwell all week so her sleep pattern has been a bit messed up and she was up at 9pm last night, and has been waking up because of her cough a couple nights too. Obviously the guy knows this because I've told him. So anyway, I've put a couple screenshots of his and my messages and I just feel like he was kind of judging me, but I don't know if I'm overreacting and i really do my best as a parent. What do you think?

You’ve obviously not been on here very long, every time a single mum is criticised for being so quick with someone they’ve just met it turns out they’ve “known them years” as soon as they are pulled up on it, when pointed out she’s only been chatting to him for 2 weeks I’m sure if she knew him years it would have been in the op but I can’t be bothered to say more on it it’s a standard line that suddenly she’s “known him years” sure 🙄

You’ve obviously not been on here very long

Urg, I hate gatekeeping on mumsnet.

I've been here long enough to know that my reply to this should be, "long time lurker, pre-penis beaker" 😂.

Well that kind of thinking surely works both ways doesn't it?

You can do better than this plonker, OP. Bin him.

I think don’t even bother going there. I think it’s a hint at his controlling behaviour. The comment would wind me up - rather than be smug be supportive

No, because there's a clear trend of how many men / fathers behave in marriages compared to women / mothers.

I think you’ve gone @bubbles1994 but he’s NOT a full time dad, he’s NOT doing it on his own as you are, and as you say, his own 4yo was rampaging past 11pm.

the issue here isn’t scoring points, or looking for reasons why he said what he said, perhaps he didn’t think how it would come across but it was definitely ‘off’ and you’re justified to feel weird about it

the response to it is possibly something like “thanks, next time I want advice from a part time dad, you’ll be too on my list” oh and don’t forget the shit ton of emojis so you can pass it off as a joke.

i think you called this right.

There's no context in your 'bantering style' not really tell. I'd take it as a light hearted piss take - which I quite enjoy - but only you know how you both communicate.

Hope your little one is feeling better by now.

Can I suggest you don’t make decisions based solely on texts!

The differing opinions on this board about what he meant should be enough to make you aware it is not easy to judge solely on a few lines.

Speak to the guy, let him know you were pissed off and why. Judge by his spoken word responses.

Sounds like you’re a good mum, doing her best with little sleep and a lot of responsibilities.

Would have replied to the very PA 'your parenting style is so different to mine' with 'yes it is: it's full time'.

Honestly the passive aggressive laughing faces would irritate me so much.

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