Guy made a comment on my parenting

[bubbles1994]

Hey everyone so, I'm a single mum with a 2 year old daughter, I decided i wanted to start dating as I'm lonely as hell. So I've been texting with a guy who has 2 little girls 7 + 4. We've been really getting on for the past 2 weeks. Last night he made a comment and I don't know if I'm overreacting or not but my daughter has been unwell all week so her sleep pattern has been a bit messed up and she was up at 9pm last night, and has been waking up because of her cough a couple nights too. Obviously the guy knows this because I've told him. So anyway, I've put a couple screenshots of his and my messages and I just feel like he was kind of judging me, but I don't know if I'm overreacting and i really do my best as a parent. What do you think?

When he texts you to ask for money to pay for hospital treatment, or a flight to visit you, promise me you will do nothing of the sort.

100% this.

there are some mega twats on MN.

if you’re thinking he overstepped it with a judgement

especially as he ONLY has his kids at weekends AND he has them at his MUM’S…

manchild.

id distance myself from him tbh. You’ve got the ick

Why do even need to be dating when your child is so tiny? Your break up can only be so very recent (less than 2 years!)
Focus on your kid!

I’d give the dating a miss for now, your child is tiny. Spend quality time with your friends and family, and get yourself a decent vibrator.

I'd probably quote the "mine always sleep" and write "well, la-dee-da! 🤪" I don't think he's judging you, imo. Me and my brother's parenting styles are very different but I don't judge him for it.

I’m one of a huge family who had lots of children who slept well. When I had my first my parents were convinced I was doing something wrong till they had her for one night then were completely silent on the matter after that. Some people are just blessed with good sleepers. I’m glad my parents were blessed with us otherwise I think I wouldn’t exist as they’d be one and done.

OP, I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. It's pretty isolating being a single parent with a young child, even more so when the child is poorly.

Does your child see her father or do you have any child free time?

I think I'd go out and have some fun with friends or a date and keep it really light i.e. don't discuss your daughter.

Are you lonely for a romantic relationship or in general?

OMG now there's people telling you you shouldn't be dating 🤣 fucking unbelievable this site!!

It's good he told you what a twat he is so soon, so you don't have to waste anymore time on him.
At least you know what you are in for if you do.

Omg he is making a joke he doesn't have 'boobies'!

I don't think I'd interpret that well, he's saying your parenting style is different to his which means it's wrong as obviously he's perfect then with all those emojis he's passive aggressively laughing at his own put down joke.

Put this one down to experience.

Oh sorry didn't read the end

That would annoy me. I'd reply "Maybe you've just forgotten what a poorly 2 year old is like" and if he continued down this judgey road, I'd give him what for!

Throw this one back. Trust your judgement. Man who lives with his mother should keep his opinions to himself. Blending a family with 3 girls all 2 years apart is unlikely to end well anyway.

Totally unnecessary comment.

😂

Absolutely agree with @GreyCarpet surely he was just joking in that when his child is ill she wouldn't be demanding boobies!
I think your over reacting.

Overreacting.

With texts, it's always really hard to tell the tone . He's probably just joking with you. I wouldn't say anything, but be aware if any other comments come out.

"You're parenting style is so different to mine!"

Yeah, because you're the primary carer of a toddler and he's an every other weekend Disney Dad??

"Mine always sleep."

Melatonin gummy bears, is it?!

Move on. Red flag, red flag.

He sounds like a knob

Breastfed children have the most sleep and so do their breastfeeding mums if they co-sleep.

He's just attempting to put doubt into your ability to parenting.

It's very unlikely he woke up for his children at night when they were babies and if he came home from work his children were likely to have been put to bed by mum.

Your child is both unwell and younger than his. Your child has such a healthy bond with you that they trust you to support them when they communicate their needs regardless of their temperament.

Not every child feels safe enough to express themselves at home.

He sounds unintelligent.