Is it gross to fancy someone twenty years younger

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It feels ick to like someone that age, but I don’t feel my age (46)
Its only an actor, not anyone in real life, but still seems so young at 27 and not a crush I’d usually have
Eurgh it’s depressing, seems not long ago that all crushes were older or at least the same age

Only if your 30

No, it isn't gross. I'm 51, very happily married, fancy the pants off my 50 year old husband but can certainly appreciate the aesthetics of a 20-something face or bod! I wouldn't actually want to do anything with them, even if they came knocking and were keen. But finding them attractive? Of course, that's totally normal!

Personally I do think it’s a bit gross yes, but I appreciate it’s legal.

I’m in my early 40s and anyone up to 30 seems like a kid brother.

For me yes but my DS is 20 years younger !

If it's only an actor on TV, what does it matter? It's just a little fantasy. Lots of people fancy actors in films who are dead in real life.

@EllaVoday Thats exactly how I usually feel! It’s far too young 😬
Just something about him

Actor on TV who you have never met - fine.

Friend’s son - icky.

What do fancy in this case means? There are many good looking people out there, young, younger , and older! I am not telling how old I am but I had a crush on an old man....not look, just something else

do you mean you have fantasies about them or they are just nice looking , according to your standard

Yeah I think a bit icky. Thinking someone is good looking is not the same as fancying them. I think Tom Holland is lovely. I think my younger self would fancy him. I don't - I'm old as fook!

I hope not - because after all - Harry Styles, Miles Nazaire and Tom Holland ......

Don't really care what people think about my little fancy to harry styles tbh 🤣

Of course not! It's totally acceptable, so long as they're an adult! 27 is hardly a child!!!

If you think it is gross for you personally, then yeah... go on with those thoughts.

You don't get to yuk other people's yum though. I know a few couples with massive age gaps. They are doing fine, and are very happy.

"You don't get to yuk other people's yum though."

Oh god. Don't ever say that again 🤢

OP, have you by any chance been watching One Day on Netflix?🤣 He’s very handsome and 27 IRL.

I just think he’s fit!
Watching him in a series at the moment

Well I'm 40 and I think if it's widely acceptable for me to have a harmless celebrity crush on George Clooney at 22 years older then it should be acceptable for me to have a harmless celebrity crush on Tom Holland or Timothee Chalamet at 12/13 years younger.

I'm not going to go out looking to date either of those age brackets in reality.

I'm 40 and my son is 20 for me yeah it wouldn't feel right. But depends how old you are.

I have a thing for Paul Mescal who is 18 years younger then me.

Same age as my dc so definitely cringey for me,

Who is it? So we can agree on whether you are unreasonable or not

I am 62 and quite fancy Leo Woodhall in One Day, those eyes of his are really something, he’s the same age as my youngest Son. It’s fine for me as long as it’s just like looking at him, it’s not like in my wildest dreams anything would happen.

@Thehamsterthatcametotea It’s Leo Woodall…but ONLY in One day…I don’t know, maybe it’s just reminding me of the guys I liked/missed out on in my youth, I’ve always gone for older and younger cringed me out

Well, let's see if I can find a man that would ask this question...
If they do it we can do it. And not just actors, anyone in real life too. Fancy people that are hot in your view. Nothing wrong with that. I can't say I've had a 'crush' on anyone since my teens though. Like, yeah, I would, but so what..kind of thing. I guess I'm jaded. lol.

He reminds me of someone but can’t think who?

Op, I don’t think we are the only ones.