When you enter someone’s home what is the consensus and reason

[Lighrbulbmo]

For who greets first please.
please be kind and help me out, I have a regular visitor who arrives and doesn’t greet me. They might after a bit say something but the lack of a hi or hello is really annoying. I am a generous and nice host I think…. I am also prepared to be told I’m wrong but please can I gather opinions?

YANBU it’s basic manners to greet the host rather than ignore them
YABU it doesn’t matter

Right well I’d just carry on . Surely you greet anyone coming in to your home anyway. But I’d definitely ask the DS to see what he thinks. Probs just v shy.

Why are you including her when she’s rude to you? For 2 years?

My daughter’s friends don’t even get in / out my car without a hello and thank you. I wouldn’t be chauffeuring them otherwise, let alone having them in my home. And if I felt I needed to for peacekeeping (unlikely), I would have stopped trying to include them a long time ago.

I'm sure my daughter wouldn’t have it either.

My daughter’s friends don’t even get in / out my car without a hello and thank you.

Why don't ton just say hi first? "Hi girls, good to see you friend, how are you?"

It's so hostile to sit there waiting for someone to behave as you like, rather than taking the lead and being friendly yourself. If you made your DD's friends comfortable instead, maybe they'd willingly say hello.

It's also how young people learn social skills. By watching adults have them in the first place.

She sounds introverted and shy. Perhaps she feels she is being polite by being quiet in your house and not forcing conversation on you.

I'm an introvert and I sometimes mix up what is polite or not. I remember my partners mam used to offer me tea every time I went to their house and I always said 'no thank you, I'm good' because I felt that was more polite than having her have to go out of her way to make me a cuppa. Turns out she eventually said to my partner that she found it really rude that I never accepted. I had no idea she would feel that way.

This is me when I was younger. Very well described.

She said they don’t get in or out of the car without a hello/thanks. Meaning they always say hello, thanks for the lift etc automatically and politely.

She said they don’t get in or out of the car without a hello/thanks. Meaning they always say hello, thanks for the lift etc automatically and politely.

I get that. The next sentence is 'I wouldn't be chauffeuring otherwise' ie you need to say hi to ME first.

Why?