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AIBU?

To think it's impossible to lose weight as an older woman (70)

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 10:52

OK I've been daft. December was a really social month for us with Christmas get-togethers, special birthdays and anniversary celebrations with lovely friends. Lots of eating and drinking without much thought for the consquences. Basically just had a great month.

Weighed myself on Boxing day and had put on 8 lbs from my usual weight to bring me to 10 stones exactly (I'm 5' 3"). Decided to take drastic measures before it got any worse. Joined a gym for 2 PT-led sessions a week, one Pilates class, Zumba Gold and I try to walk 2-3 miles a day. I also ride twice a week but I have been doing this for years so that's not new.

Eating wise I never eat breakfast anyway but a normal day is now a black coffee around 8.30 and another at 11.00. For lunch something like porridge, homemade vegetable soup or two eggs one slice of wholemeal from a small loaf. Dinner is chicken or fish with vegetables, maybe one small potato or a spoonful of rice, a plain two egg omlette or ham salad. Dessert is an apple or an orange. If we go out I will have a really boring salad. Oh and I've been drinking loads of water (up 6 times in the night last night).

Since Boxing Day I've not had any cake, biscuits, crisps, sweets or alcohol. DH has been eating his usual sized portions, but cutting out cake, crisps and chocolate (no exercise, apart from he will sometimes walk with me) and has lost 6 lbs. I weighed myself this morning. 10 sodding stones. My PT says I'm not eating enough which is ridiculous. So, people. What else can I do? I've been hungry since Christmas and nothing to show for it. Oh, and my bicep and thigh measurements are the same, my waist is 1" bigger, so I've not gone entirely on weight.

Sorry for the essay!!

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Lampzade · 12/02/2024 13:46

The ageism ( by some posters) in this thread is astounding.
The Op is 70 not dead ffs.
My mother is in her late seventies and still cares about her appearance and health .

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kkloo · 12/02/2024 18:31

soupfiend · 12/02/2024 08:18

Just reading the thread properly, all the people saying OP isnt eating enough, she hasnt set out any portion sizes or calorie amounts or her expended calories so its impossible tell if she is in calorie deficit or not

She could be, but could be retaining water due to the increase in exercise, particularly as she has troublesome joints

She wont be 'building muscle' this early on, she isnt a body builder, it takes a long long time to do that, not since Christmas

Theres no such thing as 'starvation mode'.

But she might be fluctuating and as another poster says, 2 measurements 6 weeks apart tells you nothing, our weight fluctuates a lot.

She did set out the portion sizes

2 black coffees.

Lunch is porridge or homemade veg soup or 2 eggs one slice of wholemeal from a small loaf

Dinner is chicken or fish with vegetables, maybe one small potato or a spoonful of rice, a plain two egg omlette or ham salad.

Dessert is an apple or an orange.

I think we can all accurately assume that she isn't eating saucepan loads of porridge etc

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soupfiend · 12/02/2024 19:12

kkloo · 12/02/2024 18:31

She did set out the portion sizes

2 black coffees.

Lunch is porridge or homemade veg soup or 2 eggs one slice of wholemeal from a small loaf

Dinner is chicken or fish with vegetables, maybe one small potato or a spoonful of rice, a plain two egg omlette or ham salad.

Dessert is an apple or an orange.

I think we can all accurately assume that she isn't eating saucepan loads of porridge etc

Thats not setting out portion sizes!

Whats the porridge made with, how much chicken or fish, what fish, salmon or white fish, one persons small potato is not anothers, spoonful of what size, I can make a massive spoonfull if needed.

She could well be at maintenance, its impossible to say

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kkloo · 13/02/2024 00:09

@soupfiend
Again I think we can accurately assume that the portions are small and not high in calories. She has also said that she's been hungry since Christmas with nothing to show for it.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 13/02/2024 02:42

DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:34

Thank you I didn't know that. I thought the extra water was supposed to help flush out fat.

🤔Odd bit of pseudoscience

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coxesorangepippin · 13/02/2024 02:50

Can't suggest anything just add some solidarity

It's so tough losing weight

DH has basically stopped drinking his usual one beer per evening and lost a stone

🤔

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kkloo · 13/02/2024 03:29

SheSaidHummingbird · 13/02/2024 02:42

🤔Odd bit of pseudoscience

Not necessarily.
https://www.eatingwell.com/article/8023931/does-dehydration-cause-weight-gain/

Some data suggests that increased water intake drives thermogenesis, meaning that the body may produce more heat, and thus burn more calories. This effect can lead to a decrease in weight gain over time.

....evidence exists suggesting a link between hydration status and the body's ability to break down fat, also known as lipolysis. Specifically, being adequately hydrated appears to support the natural process of breaking down fat, and being in a state of dehydration has the opposite effect.

Increased Hydration Can Be Associated with Weight Loss

This mini-review develops the hypothesis that increased hydration leads to body weight loss, mainly through a decrease in feeding, and a loss of fat, through increased lipolysis. The publications cited come from animal, mainly rodent, studies where man...

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4901052/

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soupfiend · 13/02/2024 07:19

I thought flushing through more liquid (doesnt have to be water) just means you retain fewer fluids and therefore you have less water retention

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CharlotteBog · 13/02/2024 07:58

Lampzade · 12/02/2024 13:46

The ageism ( by some posters) in this thread is astounding.
The Op is 70 not dead ffs.
My mother is in her late seventies and still cares about her appearance and health .

I think it was only a couple of people - one who couldn't understand why OP would bother and another suggesting she embrace being overweight.

Most people have taken the OPs age only to allow them to make an informed response.

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OutsideLookingOut · 13/02/2024 08:51

I've found a 24 hour fast kick starts my metabolism. I had to build up to it first with a half day fast then 8 hours then 16 hour fasts first. Afterwards refuel carefully and eat only wholefoods for the next few days.

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Futb0l · 13/02/2024 09:52

Im only 38 and already finding it extremely difficult to shift a few pounds.

My mum and i were chatting and agreed, there is not enough media aroumd how little food older women actually need.

My mother in law age is slim (size 10) your age, and honestly she is doing all the activity you are amd eating very, very little. She eats almost no white carbohydrate at all - mainly fish & veg. No cheese,no bread, no rice or pasta.

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leilani83 · 13/02/2024 10:15

I suppose I meant with my earlier comment that I think it's a shame that women are conditioned to obsess about their weight from cradle to grave, really. And I wonder if it's a generational thing - my mother is in her 70s and still quite preoccupied with her weight!

Of course there is nothing wrong and everything right with trying to stay fit and healthy, but a good diet and enough exercise should see to that. Indeed I myself have lost a lof of weight in the past year for my health and, if I'm honest, looks too. Although I was obese to begin with.

But being constantly hungry, eating very little and feeling bad about myself at 70 is not something I personally intend to do, but then we are all different with different priorities.

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CharlotteBog · 13/02/2024 10:19

Futb0l · 13/02/2024 09:52

Im only 38 and already finding it extremely difficult to shift a few pounds.

My mum and i were chatting and agreed, there is not enough media aroumd how little food older women actually need.

My mother in law age is slim (size 10) your age, and honestly she is doing all the activity you are amd eating very, very little. She eats almost no white carbohydrate at all - mainly fish & veg. No cheese,no bread, no rice or pasta.

How little "some" older woman need.
And indeed men.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 13/02/2024 11:28

kkloo · 13/02/2024 03:29

Not necessarily.
https://www.eatingwell.com/article/8023931/does-dehydration-cause-weight-gain/

Some data suggests that increased water intake drives thermogenesis, meaning that the body may produce more heat, and thus burn more calories. This effect can lead to a decrease in weight gain over time.

....evidence exists suggesting a link between hydration status and the body's ability to break down fat, also known as lipolysis. Specifically, being adequately hydrated appears to support the natural process of breaking down fat, and being in a state of dehydration has the opposite effect.

It's the phrase "flushing fat"that I take exception to.

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BIossomtoes · 13/02/2024 11:57

And I wonder if it's a generational thing - my mother is in her 70s and still quite preoccupied with her weight!

No, it’s a some women thing. I’m 70, eat healthily, walk the dogs daily and am overweight. I really don’t care. I’m the only one of my contemporaries not being medicated for a chronic condition and several of them have had hip/knee replacements. My joints are a bit achy but nowhere near needing to be replaced.

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KTheGrey · 13/02/2024 12:20

I am also stuck on my New Year New Diet, not losing any weight. However, I am also averse to exercise, whereas you sound like you are getting plenty of that.

I like the walking holiday idea.

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blackcherryconserve · 13/02/2024 12:26

I'm 75 and weigh 12 stone at 5'3". Quite frankly life is too short to worry about weight unless you are obese which you are not OP. My adult weight was 9 stone but post menopause and HRT meant I gained weight over a long period but am now stabilised.
I eat porridge for breakfast have a light lunch cake with a cup of tea in the afternoon and a meal in the evening. I rarely drink.

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Gettingbysomehow · 13/02/2024 12:31

It is absolutely possible. I'm 62 with chronic back problems so I can only manage a 20 minute walk a day but I calorie count and never have less than 1200, more if I'm hungry. It just takes longer but I've got a stone off of the 5 I have to lose.
I also do fasting and my eating window is 12:30 to 630. I've never eaten breakfast and I can't eat right before bed or I get acid reflux.
I do work full time but I'm in clinic all day sitting, it's not a very active job.

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Gettingbysomehow · 13/02/2024 12:32

I also drink at least 4 pints of water a day. I don't seem to lose much weight if I don't.

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Tiredalwaystired · 15/02/2024 14:52

DoraSpenlow · 10/02/2024 20:01

Would you mind sharing exactly how please? Not sure how I can add very much more exercise.

As simple as more calories out than in. Exercise bike five days a week, walking seven days a week, low carbohydrate diet with plenty of fruit and veg.

Rarely drink so not needed to change that.

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Bobsledgirl · 16/02/2024 06:09

im 61 and have been slim my whole life until about 2 years ago and I have accumulated weight around my belly. I’m pretty fit because I cycle and lift weights. In fact I’m toned. Apart from the belly fat I can’t shift. I want to lose half a stone. I expect that will have to go with a diet. Frustrating though!

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BobnLen · 16/02/2024 06:16

I'm 66 and the weight seems to settle around the middle, I just wear looser clothes, no shirts tucked into jeans for me. I am not overweight though 5'10 and 11 stones so not going to put myself through a diet which probably won't do anything anyway

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borntobequiet · 16/02/2024 06:37

YABU, I’m 70 and if I feel I’m getting a little too heavy I cut down portion sizes and avoid empty calories for a couple of weeks and the weight comes off.

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anywherehollie · 16/02/2024 06:42

So many invalidating comments to OP here! I'm taller than OP and would not be happy weighing 10 stone. It's all relative to you at the end of the day.

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KTheGrey · 16/02/2024 07:14

You can use this Calorie Calculator to work out how many calories per day you need to lose weight. If you choose this as a method you have to count every single calorie, and write them down. Items like semi skimmed milk count and it is quite gloomy. However, it does also suggest zig zag dieting and offers some ideas about exercise.

It might be worth reviewing your liquid intake after lunch, because being short of sleep makes you hungrier.

Calorie Calculator

This calorie calculator estimates the number of calories needed each day to maintain, lose, or gain weight. Learn the kinds of calories and their effects.

https://www.calculator.net/calorie-calculator.html?cactivity=1.465&cage=70&cfatpct=20&cformula=m&cheightfeet=5&cheightinch=3&cheightmeter=180&ckg=65&cmop=0&coutunit=c&cpound=140&csex=f&ctype=standard&printit=0&x=Calculate

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