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AIBU?

To think it's impossible to lose weight as an older woman (70)

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 10:52

OK I've been daft. December was a really social month for us with Christmas get-togethers, special birthdays and anniversary celebrations with lovely friends. Lots of eating and drinking without much thought for the consquences. Basically just had a great month.

Weighed myself on Boxing day and had put on 8 lbs from my usual weight to bring me to 10 stones exactly (I'm 5' 3"). Decided to take drastic measures before it got any worse. Joined a gym for 2 PT-led sessions a week, one Pilates class, Zumba Gold and I try to walk 2-3 miles a day. I also ride twice a week but I have been doing this for years so that's not new.

Eating wise I never eat breakfast anyway but a normal day is now a black coffee around 8.30 and another at 11.00. For lunch something like porridge, homemade vegetable soup or two eggs one slice of wholemeal from a small loaf. Dinner is chicken or fish with vegetables, maybe one small potato or a spoonful of rice, a plain two egg omlette or ham salad. Dessert is an apple or an orange. If we go out I will have a really boring salad. Oh and I've been drinking loads of water (up 6 times in the night last night).

Since Boxing Day I've not had any cake, biscuits, crisps, sweets or alcohol. DH has been eating his usual sized portions, but cutting out cake, crisps and chocolate (no exercise, apart from he will sometimes walk with me) and has lost 6 lbs. I weighed myself this morning. 10 sodding stones. My PT says I'm not eating enough which is ridiculous. So, people. What else can I do? I've been hungry since Christmas and nothing to show for it. Oh, and my bicep and thigh measurements are the same, my waist is 1" bigger, so I've not gone entirely on weight.

Sorry for the essay!!

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CointreauVersial · 08/02/2024 13:01

OP, I'm a bit younger, but I do think weight loss takes longer when you are post-menopause. There's definitely a physiological reason why fat is retained around the midriff, and your metabolism does slow down. I think you just need to stick with it, and you will hopefully see a slow reduction.

What works for me (particularly with the belly bloat) is low carbing. Nothing obsessive - I just cut out bread/cakes/sugar/rice/potato and eat more protein, green veg and salad. I had allowed my weight to creep back last year, and I 100% agree with you it's depressing when you are bursting out of clothes and feeling sluggish and heavy. Four months on (with a break for Christmas - can't resist a mince pie!) and I have lost nearly a stone.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 08/02/2024 13:02

Have you had your thyroid checked? If it's not working well it can make it very hard to lose weight. I only have half of mine left (and the other half isn't functioning too well) so even maintaining weight is a struggle.

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SallyWD · 08/02/2024 13:03

Have you tried intermittent fasting? I do 16/8. When you're fasting your body burns fat rather than just energy from food. I find it incredibly easy to stick to and it really does work.

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sorrynotathome · 08/02/2024 13:07

I agree that you should get your thyroid checked. My mum started having trouble with hers in her 70s and it is one of those things that increases with age. People just assume that you're eating too much/not moving enough when you get older but that's not always the case. Google the symptoms and see if you have any other tell-tale signs.

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Mammajay · 08/02/2024 13:15

Cherryogdog.. how does vagifem stop you weeing at night ,( asking for a friend who is up every two hours!)

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hulahooper2 · 08/02/2024 13:17

Lots of folk at my slimming world class are older than you and are losing weight , without all the exercise. It doesn’t sound as if you are eating enough and your body has gone into starvation mode. I eat more than you with occasional treats and I am losing weight steadily

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:17

Ace56 · 08/02/2024 12:07

Honestly at 70, why bother? Unless you’re chronically obese and it’s affecting your health.

Well if I don't do something about it I will be obese and it will affect my health.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:20

Menopants · 08/02/2024 12:14

Older women don’t magically stop wanting to take pleasure in looking nice and wearing nice clothes. You don’t turn 50 and suddenly start buying elasticated slacks from Lakeland

Indeed. I hate elasticated waists with a passion.

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Allfur · 08/02/2024 13:21

Ace56, so at 70 we're meant to let everything go? How about staying fit, healthy and slim for quality of life reasons, more energy, longer life expetancy, lower risk of certain diseases including alzheimers etc

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:23

BardRelic · 08/02/2024 12:21

I would try Tai Chi. I do a combination of Tai Chi and HIIT. I'm early 50s and have found the combination does help me drop weight. The great thing about Tai Chi is it has all sorts of other, proven, health benefits, including reducing stress and increasing muscle mass. It will help with your riding as well because it's a lot about balance, core strength and coordination. And because it's slow, deliberate movements it's suitable and sustainable as you age.

I would love to try Tai Chi. Unfortunately none near me and if I did it from t'internet not sure I woud be doing it right.

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SummerFeverVenice · 08/02/2024 13:23

Do you do weight training? I see lots of cardio, but nothing to build muscle mass.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:25

Bookworm20 · 08/02/2024 12:40

Have you tried Joe Wicks body coach?
I think I understand where the not eating enough is coming from, from the PT. I did the Joe wicks program and felt like it was an insane amount of food, way more than I was eating before I started and yet I lost weight easily. I only tried it because a friend was on it and had lost weight when pretty much everything else she had tried had failed.
Its apparantly when and what you eat and in order to lose weight you need to eat enough of certain types of food at certain times. It maximises your metabolism or something sciencey like that. I couldn't get my head around how it could actually work, but it worked and I definitely wasn't hungry. I also wasn't knocking myself out with the exercise and did less than you are doing now!
May be worth a try?

Thank you. I will have a look at this.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:28

CointreauVersial · 08/02/2024 12:54

Yes, let's all give up. Women are invisible at that age anyway.....🙄

Indeed. Yes, God forbid we want to try and feel good about ourselves for as long as possible. I'll just go out an buy some Primark tracksuits. That should solve everything.

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Icantbedoingwithit · 08/02/2024 13:29

It doesn’t matter WHAT age you are! You will always get those who are the same height as you and overweight telling you to be happy with the way you are! Fair play to you for addressing the issue that is bothering you and to be willing to do something about it. Lots of good information over on the weight loss threads. 70 is not old and certainly not too old to be taking good care of yourself and keep your weight in check. It will serve you much better than ignoring it and putting on more.

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MuddlerInLaw · 08/02/2024 13:29

SallyWD · 08/02/2024 13:03

Have you tried intermittent fasting? I do 16/8. When you're fasting your body burns fat rather than just energy from food. I find it incredibly easy to stick to and it really does work.

Absolutely! The OP’s already doing an accidental intermittent fast by not eating breakfast - but I was about to suggest a more purposeful restructuring.

Stop eating in the evening!

I’m around 60, (not tall, an optimistic size 10) and tried intermittent fasting for the first time in order to be more comfortable in my clothes for an important trip a couple of years ago. 16:8, front loading breakfast and lunch and nothing after 4pm. It took a couple of weeks to acclimatise - but doing it strictly I lost as much as I needed to within three months. And found other benefits too. No falling asleep after supper and missing the evening. So I slept better. Much prefer any elaborate food prep to be done for a late lunch rather than an evening meal. To the extent that I’ve carried on with a less strict interpretation when I’m at home alone, and slightly resent days when I’m obliged to eat in the evening with other people.

Try it. (Alongside vegetable / wholefood / Mediterranean / no UPF shopping habits of course …)

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saraclara · 08/02/2024 13:32

Another post reminded me that along with my calorie counting, I went with a light version of intermittent fasting. I don't tend to be hungry in the morning, so I tried to eat between (roughly) 11-7 or 12-8. And I'm still doing that to a fair degree, as it became quite routine.

I lost the weight more quickly and painlessly then I have in the past, so maybe there's something in it. And three months on (including Christmas) I've only put a single pound back on)

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:32

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 08/02/2024 12:59

@DoraSpenlow your knees feel worse with an extra 8lbs? That's not possible.
Just aim for a small loss each week and it will come.

Sorry you don't believe it but it is definitely the case.

No weight has come off since Boxing Day. None.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:34

TimeforZ · 08/02/2024 12:58

Eat protein at every meal. If you're still hungry, it because you're not eating enough protein. It's also possible all the extra exercise is causing your muscles to retain water for repair.

Thank you I didn't know that. I thought the extra water was supposed to help flush out fat.

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MuddlerInLaw · 08/02/2024 13:36

You’re definitely not flushing out fat - and all that drinking water overnight sounds distinctly unhealthy. Night time is for sleep - without which your body can’t function properly.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:36

Eyesopenwideawake · 08/02/2024 13:02

Have you had your thyroid checked? If it's not working well it can make it very hard to lose weight. I only have half of mine left (and the other half isn't functioning too well) so even maintaining weight is a struggle.

Yep. Just had a loads bloods done for an ongoing issue. All OK. But thanks for the suggestion.

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DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:40

SallyWD · 08/02/2024 13:03

Have you tried intermittent fasting? I do 16/8. When you're fasting your body burns fat rather than just energy from food. I find it incredibly easy to stick to and it really does work.

Already do that really. Have lunch around 1.00 and dinner at 5.30. But thank you.

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ThreeTreeHill · 08/02/2024 13:56

Firstly are you tracking your weight? If you weigh most people on boxing day their weight will be up but it's normally water weight. Your weight will fluctuate day to day. You need to look at the trend

You are eating very very little and doing a fair amount of excercise. I would be so hungry and feel faint if I did a PT session after only eating 300 odd calories. Especually if I was drinking enough water to pee 6 times a night. Is that actually what you are eating? I would not be able to even think about exercising with such little energy and would not be getting an effective workout

That works out at around 800-1000kcal which is very low, especially if you are walking 3 miles a day and excercising.

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BardRelic · 08/02/2024 13:56

DoraSpenlow · 08/02/2024 13:23

I would love to try Tai Chi. Unfortunately none near me and if I did it from t'internet not sure I woud be doing it right.

I do it from the internet although I can see why you wouldn't want to. I think the key thing is listening to your body. It helps if you've done things like yoga before so you've got an idea of what they're looking for. The key thing is slow, controlled, deliberate movements.

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Morvillehrs · 08/02/2024 14:39

some of you on here give truly awful advice. 5ft3 and 11 stone, I take it yolo about type 2 diabetes. Live laugh love.

Op ignore the awful advice, just keep going with movement, sometimes it takes time, but you do need to eat enough through the day so don’t run on a deficit, you’ll get knackered.

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Morvillehrs · 08/02/2024 14:40

Ps the 5 ft 3 wasn’t aimed for you op, it was the ‘advice’ from the gigglers telling you to be overweight for your health. Lolz

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