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To not vote Labour because of their abhorrent views on the female sex?

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Lion400 · 05/02/2024 18:43

Starmer cannot represent women, he can’t even define us. Questioning a trans person is a hate crime, but misogyny is not. Sorry Labour, you’ve lost my vote. Have they lost anyone else’s??

‘On trans ideology, the vast majority of voters, and certainly a majority of traditional Labour voters from working class backgrounds, tend to cast a sceptical eye on the tenets of an ideological movement that asserts that biological men must be accepted as women – and be offered similar rights and access to women’s spaces and sports as women – simply by asserting their new status’

Transgender ideology has created the biggest medical scandal of our generation

Vulnerable young people who transitioned before they were ready are paying a high price for this disastrous project

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/08/04/transgender-ideology-biggest-scandal-of-our-generation/

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lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:34

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 14:32

make hate crime an aggravated offence etc.

And you think this is a bad thing? Are you for real?

Misgendering is a hate crime.

Women have been sacked from their jobs for stating that sex is real.

Apollo441 · 06/02/2024 14:34

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 14:32

make hate crime an aggravated offence etc.

And you think this is a bad thing? Are you for real?

When hate crime is defined as saying transwomen are men, then yes it is a bad thing.

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:35

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:31

Ah I see.

Yet you get shirty if people misgender you!

Hardly! I just correct it. It's not "getting shirty". I find it entertaining but feel I need to correct as men get short shrift on FWR or feminist threads.

TempestTost · 06/02/2024 14:36

I can't believe male cleaners are supposed to be an argument against single sex toilets, surely that's not meant to be a real comment?

Anyway - I think it is fair enough to consider that realistically, it will be Labour or the Tories governing.

But it's very foolish to believe on the basis of their self-identifying as nice that a Labour government will deal with the monetary and social issues that we see under the Conservatives.

If it's a matter of balancing advantages and harms, and the claim is that Labour will do certain things, then there needs to be some reason to think that will actually happen.

The fact is that most of their policies are going to be the same, they have said so. And they do not have more money to invest in things like education or the NHS. (Past Labour governments have spent more by borrowing and kicking the can down the road - this has hobbled the NHS even today, so it's wrong to blame the current state of health care solely on the Tories. They have been locked into the deals Labour made.)

This is the reason they are being reduced to trying to shore their "nice-guy" creds with largely useless social policies. Charging tax on private education, which will add no real money, quite possibly stress state funded schools. This completely imaginary idea that they will somehow halve DV, which I can't imagine even they believe will work. And supporting gender ideology. With no serious economic options, all they can do is offer a few cheap trappings.

That's the trade-off that's being offered, not proper funding of the NHS.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:36

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:34

Misgendering is a hate crime.

Women have been sacked from their jobs for stating that sex is real.

Actually that's underplaying it, women have been questioned by the police for saying that men can't be women or similar.

Do you really think that this is a good use of police time?

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:39

Apollo441 · 06/02/2024 14:34

When hate crime is defined as saying transwomen are men, then yes it is a bad thing.

What Labour are saying is they will use more types of "hate" as an aggravating factor in crime.
E.g. if you beat a black person up because you are racist, when you are sentenced it will be more severe because of the "aggravating factor"

It is possible to read what they wrote as an indication they will make misogynistic hate an aggravating factor, which would be great news for women as it means there is potential for domestic abusers and rapists to be punished more harshly.

There is nowhere they have even vaguely indicated this is about "misgendering". That's unfounded scaremongering

Beowulfa · 06/02/2024 14:39

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:32

I'm not the person calling for politicians to make laws saying no males in female spaces ever. So you are addressing the wrong person.

You asked how it would be possible to keep males out of women's toilets, citing male cleaners and children as examples. As though the human race hadn't had many years of self-policing this by social contract and common sense.

I've told this story many times, but I repeat it because it's pertinent: my male partner once accidentally ended up in the women's toilet in an unfamiliar work branch. He panicked because a) he knew it was wrong and b) he was terrified of being seen. There is no need for the "genital inspection police"; just a critical mass of decently behaved men respecting women's boundaries.

I want political leadership that acknowledges single sex spaces are important. Not one that attracts Eddie Izzard, who openly transgresses this.

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:40

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:34

Misgendering is a hate crime.

Women have been sacked from their jobs for stating that sex is real.

And now they are all winning legal cases which means employers are going to stop doing that pronto. Honestly. You are a few years out of date. The tide has turned. Being GC has been proven to be a protected legal position.

Lion400 · 06/02/2024 14:41

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:34

Misgendering is a hate crime.

Women have been sacked from their jobs for stating that sex is real.

Misgendering is a hate crime.

And yet.. misogyny is not.

What a funny old state of affairs. If people tell us who they are, and Labour have done that, we should believe them.

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BIossomtoes · 06/02/2024 14:44

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 13:53

In my constituency we will get a Tory whether I vote Labour or not.

That's not changing any time soon.

Either way I'm not holding my nose and voting Labour when they are treating women and children so badly on this. They know that there are lots of women who won't vote with this policy. If they want our vote they will do something about it.

In which case it doesn’t matter which way you vote, does it?

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:44

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:30

No I'm not going to apologise. What that poster said about hysteria was fine in my opinion, I agree with her. She didn't label anyone hysterical or shrieking. Therefore not sexist (in my opinion). You were either projecting or trying to shut her up.

Splitting hairs here Adam.

And the poster did go on to confirm she thought posters who raise these issues are hysterical.

Do you think we are hysterical women Adam?

EffieeBriest · 06/02/2024 14:46

I always wonder what some posters on here would do if they discovered their own son realised that they had gender identity issues. Would they automatically think that child saw it as a sexual kink or a means of intimidating women ? I suspect they think most trans women are 50 year old men in poor wigs, figures of mockery.

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 14:47

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:44

Splitting hairs here Adam.

And the poster did go on to confirm she thought posters who raise these issues are hysterical.

Do you think we are hysterical women Adam?

What I said: "And I maintain it's hysterical to see every trans woman as a potential lurker, harasser or rapist. Or to put this 'issue' above every other pressing societal issue that people are having to endure right now."

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:47

No. I do think you are unreasonably extrapolating Labour's position and spending a lot of time arguing about a conspiracy theory (and trying to recruit others to it) but then I'm enabling it by arguing back.
I'm going to have a cuppa and suggest you do the same. BrewCake

EffieeBriest · 06/02/2024 14:47

@BIossomtoes it was a call to arms. We’ve not had a labour bashing thread for a while.

TempestTost · 06/02/2024 14:48

I mean really, there is a simple solution with male cleaners in toilets. They have a little sign they put on the door, "male cleaner in toilet" and then they take it down again when they leave. Opposite for female cleaners in male toilets. If a woman is very uncomfortable going in, and there are no other options, he can step out while she is there. But the fact that he is there for a real, legitimate purpose, and has been vetted by the people employing him, tends to make him less threatening anyway.

If it's a matter of legislating, this is simple stuff to account for, as are ages for taking kids in to opposite sex bathrooms. Writing good legislation is always about taking care to do good work and sometimes it can be complex and time consuming, but this is not complicated stuff.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:48

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 14:47

What I said: "And I maintain it's hysterical to see every trans woman as a potential lurker, harasser or rapist. Or to put this 'issue' above every other pressing societal issue that people are having to endure right now."

Hot you have used misogynistic language throughout this thread and accused posters of implying that all trans women are lurkers rapists or harassers when we have not.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:49

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:47

No. I do think you are unreasonably extrapolating Labour's position and spending a lot of time arguing about a conspiracy theory (and trying to recruit others to it) but then I'm enabling it by arguing back.
I'm going to have a cuppa and suggest you do the same. BrewCake

Conspiracy theory lol?

I've quoted Starmers own words.

Enjoy your cuppa Adam.

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:52

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:49

Conspiracy theory lol?

I've quoted Starmers own words.

Enjoy your cuppa Adam.

Yes. And then you added a load of made up bollocks to it to make it appear he said something he didn't.
I'm not sure why you would do that to be honest, it's a bit reminiscent of brexit unicorns

BIossomtoes · 06/02/2024 14:52

EffieeBriest · 06/02/2024 14:47

@BIossomtoes it was a call to arms. We’ve not had a labour bashing thread for a while.

We’re going to get zillions of them as election day approaches. Hopefully we won’t have months of it.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:55

AdamRyan · 06/02/2024 14:52

Yes. And then you added a load of made up bollocks to it to make it appear he said something he didn't.
I'm not sure why you would do that to be honest, it's a bit reminiscent of brexit unicorns

I ask again, when talking to the LGBTQ community and promising them that he would simplify the GRC process what did Starmer mean, if it wasn't that it would make it easier for men to legally become women (or women to legally become men).

Was Starmer lying to them?

Otherwise what precisely am I saying about this being an attack on women's rights that is a 'made of load up bollocks'?

Or are you projecting Adam?

RebelliousCow · 06/02/2024 14:58

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 14:18

And I maintain it's hysterical to see every trans woman as a potential lurker, harasser or rapist. Or to put this 'issue' above every other pressing societal issue that people are having to endure right now.

It is possible to consider several things important; abeit at different levels and in different ways. Some issues are temporal and transient; others more profound and longer lasting, with more fundamental impact.

Not wanting men in women only spaces is not "hysterical". I've encountered enough men presenting as women to know that what motivates many is indeed sexual or voyeuristic.

ComeAlongPeggy · 06/02/2024 15:01

I’m voting Tory and I bloody hope they get in. And I can’t actually believe I’ve just typed that!! I wouldn’t confess to friends irl and I’m imagining that many other people will be voting Tory and keeping quiet about it. This is one of the two main reasons I’m not voting Labour.

hotinhereandthere · 06/02/2024 15:01

lifeturnsonadime · 06/02/2024 14:55

I ask again, when talking to the LGBTQ community and promising them that he would simplify the GRC process what did Starmer mean, if it wasn't that it would make it easier for men to legally become women (or women to legally become men).

Was Starmer lying to them?

Otherwise what precisely am I saying about this being an attack on women's rights that is a 'made of load up bollocks'?

Or are you projecting Adam?

Edited

What Labour intends to do to simplify the GRC process:

But now, in 2023, we have a much better understanding of the barriers trans people face. That is why Labour has committed to modernising the Gender Recognition Act. Changing gender is not a decision anyone makes lightly. The process is intrusive, outdated and humiliating. So we will modernise, simplify and reform the gender recognition law to a new process. We will remove invasive bureaucracy and simplify the process.
However, the law must also protect legitimate applications. Last year, the Scottish National party’s cavalier approach to reforming gender recognition laws seemed to be more about picking a fight with Westminster than bringing about meaningful change. The safeguards that were proposed to protect women and girls from predators who might abuse the system were simply not up to scratch. As a result, the Scottish government is still picking up the pieces, with trans rights no further forward.
We will not make the same mistakes. The requirement to obtain a medical diagnosis of gender dysphoria remains an important part of accessing a gender recognition certificate. That’s especially the case now that gender dysphoria is no longer classified – and stigmatised – as a psychiatric disorder. It can help refer trans people into the NHS for support services – nearly a quarter of trans people don’t know how to access transition-related healthcare. Requiring a diagnosis upholds legitimacy of applications and confidence in the system.
The current process also requires a panel of anonymous doctors to decide something of momentous significance, based on reams of intrusive medical paperwork and evidence of any surgery. This is demeaning for trans people and meaningless in practice. A diagnosis provided by one doctor, with a registrar instead of a panel, should be enough.

ComeAlongPeggy · 06/02/2024 15:02

@RebelliousCow @hotinhereandthere
I loathe misogynistic language. Women are not being “hysterical” or “shrill” or “over emotional”. Ffs.

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