XL Bully + visitation

[Kipdfgy]

Hello, posting here as I’m not sure where else to post this. I don’t think I’m being unreasonable.
My DD (10yo) sees her father once a month for a weekend, we don’t have a visitation order in place or anything like that. She has always lived with me.

Her dad has an XL bully, so far he hasn’t registered the dog as he has to pay for it..and can’t afford it at the moment. He says it’s on his list of things to do.

He lives with his mum, and she has 2 Alsatians and they are big dogs! The bully cannot be in the same room as the other dogs as they fight . So this bully spends most of its time in a bedroom. And they basically have the dogs on rotation as to when they have free roam of the house. It’s totally not fair on the dog, and although he does get walked I imagine the dog is harbouring lots of frustration.

So, quite rightly imo, I don’t want my daughter going down to the house anymore. I keep seeing deaths and injuries related to these dogs in the news and I of course want to protect my daughter and keep her out of any potential harm. I’ve had dogs before (not currently) but they’ve always been labs or small breeds.
I know any dog can be dangerous, but I was always told I was overreacting when I voiced my concerns about it the dogs.
I know for certain I am going to get a lot of abuse when I tell him why he cannot have her at the house or overnight. I don’t really care about that, what I am worried about though is him taking her there without my knowledge.

Should I report this to social services? I don’t know what to do to ensure that she can’t go there. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

Exactly

Really feeling anxious about this

And on another thread, an OP has spoken about her partner having his XL bully PTS in order to put their newborn first after failing to rehome it.

Your daughters father needs to put her before a dog.

It is madness to treat any dog like that. Being shut away will drive it mad.

There is no way my child would go to a house with and XL bully anyway, let alone one who isn’t being properly cared for in a home where there are other large dogs not being properly cared for and who fight.

I would not have allowed my child in that house.

• report dog to police
• inform father you won't be sending her for contact at his house while 3 dogs are in the home and risks continue
• don't bother contacting social services. They aren't police, they don't need to know about this, you are the one who makes the decision to stop sending her

As others have said you need to report the dog. You're protecting your own DD by rightly keeping her away but what if this animal attacks someone else's DC, visiting his home or during a walk. Do the right thing, instead of fretting over the verbal abuse he will give you.

Also, if you delve into how people have been killed by these dogs, quite a large portion have been people who have been killed while trying to separate fighting dogs.

They are putting themselves at a massive risk of the dogs have already fought. Unless they live in a mansion, they cannot guarantee those dogs won’t get in the same room and fight again.

Its utter madness.

What kind of irresponsible dog owner can't afford ninety quid to have it registered? What would he do in the event of an unexpected vet bill? You don't get a dog if you don't have some kind of fighting fund for the unanticipated. He sounds like your stereotypical XL owner and the reason these dogs have been banned.

Cancel all contact until the dog has been got rid of. If your ex does not like that, he can go to court and apply for a contact order (good luck to him explaining the unregistered XL bully at his home address).

The same ones advertising puppies for £500 a go I expect.
they don’t want to register them because they then have to neuter them…