To not want to go to work tomorrow due to shitty email?

[shittyemail]

I don't know if I'm overreacting here.

On Friday evening I worked past my hours to deal with what was a potentially challenging / contentious issue that had arisen that day. It caused me a lot of stress but no one else from my team was around to bounce anything off on Friday, so I dealt with it the best I could by myself. I then emailed the relevant colleagues on Friday evening who needed to know what had happened and how I'd dealt with it, so they'd be appraised of the situation.

I don't work Mondays but I logged in today just to see what I'm going into tomorrow. I'd had a reply from one of the senior members of the team (not my direct line manager but senior in the organisation) basically reprimanding me in what feels like a shitty way for one small aspect of how I dealt with the situation, ignoring the fact I worked past my hours to deal with the entire situation myself. She also hadn't commented on the issue itself really, she's just offered a criticism of one small aspect of how I dealt with it (which I also happen to disagree with her on). My main gripe is not that she disagrees with my approach as such, but that her reply was unnecessarily shitty and there was no thanks for dealing with the situation, and on top of that she "sent to all" instead of just me, so this now essentially feels like a public telling off via email as 5 other members of the team are copied in. I feel she could have more sensitively communicated her disagreement with the small aspect she has chosen to comment on, for example by just raising that part directly with me.

The upshot is I now feel anxious to go into work tomorrow because I am angry about the way she's handled it and don't particularly want to face her (she's not the most approachable person at the best of times), and also I just don't get paid enough to work past my hours on a Friday to give a shit about issues that might affect my team, to then receive basically no thanks and just criticism instead.

AIBU?

I really feel for you. You should be supported by your managers. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Every single confrontation in life - yeah, everyone wishes if that person had said/ done something else in hindsight. But you were right there dealing with it.

Your managers are less than professional.

Take a deep breath. When you ask them what they would have done, also ask them is that with hindsight? Because you had to deal with it full on.

You don’t work in Housing and the manager in question doesn’t have the initials ML?
In the (hopefully unlikely) event that this is the case, don’t reply, don’t engage, escalate.
This woman is a psychopath.

Reply telling her that you tried to move this issue forward to a conclusion that would clarify it for all concerned. You had no other support available and you had stayed beyond your time to do what you could as a 'next steps' towards resolving this issue. Don't be bullied. Tell her you are disappointed that she didn't feel she could approach you directly over a point of contention in how you handled things. Do not C C. in ALL. Copy in your own immediate Line manager asking if she can lend her support and advise you in this matter and would it be helpful to approach H.R. for further guidance.

Lone working and sending emails late on a Friday are both frowned upon in my industry. In your eyes you saved the day but your boss may be coming at this from a totally different angle.

It’s worth understanding why her email tone felt rude before you take it personally. I would approach her and ask to have a catch-up about what happened so it can be avoided in future.

This happened to me last week. 100% pass to your line manager for discussion. Don't check mails when you aren't working. That's me telling you not to do exactly what I do. You will get this sorted.

You're nearly as bad as shitty email sending woman (who btw wasn't even OP's boss)

I would be tempted to reply “ Thanks for pointing this out “ and nothing else . The sender will look like a d*ck and not you .