annoyed woman wont move seats on train

[PrettyPleaseXo]

Currently on the train with my 5 year old. There’s loads of individual seats but none together so I’m stood next to my daughter who’s sat down next to another woman.
AIBU to be a bit annoyed she’s turned her back on my daughter to avoid eye contact and hasn’t moved to another seat so I can sit next to my daughter?

if there were no other seats I’d completely get it but there’s loads of individual ones

I would’ve offered when I was younger. But as others have mentioned I soon wised up and realised that people would target me to move as a young woman or would ask me directly even if they’d have to walk halfway down the carriage and past half a dozen men to ask me.

Quite frankly too many people targeting me has got my back up. You need to ask the people sat in the priority seating or the first person you come across

I've travelled a lot by train this last year, and have sometimes offered to swap seats to couples/families if there's another individual seat free. Why wouldn't someone? Travelling is stressful for people and let's help one another if we can.

I tell you what though, I've got so fed up with the general behaviour of people on trains, the overcrowding, the phone-calls, the noise, the litter, the smells, the dogs, that whenever I can I shell out for first class.

Which, since you can get good cheap deals on advance 1st class tickets and Seatfrog, etc, is going the same way!

I want Firster Class 😄

Personally I would volunteer to move to let a mother and a small child sit together, but you cannot expect this as a right.

I wouldn't move, can't you stand until someone gets off and 2 seats become available. Hardly a big deal

I guess it depends on whether she has luggage to deal with as well. If not then I cant see why she wouldn't, people are more selfish than they used to be though

I travel a bit by train and use the local tram a lot. If there were plenty of single seats, I’d be aware enough to offer mine up to someone with a youngish child so they could sit together. No hardship IMO, just a little thought for others. I’m in my 70s, and was brought up to be aware of the needs of others.

I wonder why people who are obviously very mobile sit in the priority seats?

Walk to another carriage?

@Dibblydoodahdah You seem very cross with the people here who don't agree with OP
I suggested op books a seat in future, so yes, i assumed she hadn't on this occassion or she wouldn't be in this situation.

What makes you so entitled to feel that this woman should move for you!! She may have reserved the seat and even if she didn’t she was there first!!! If you want a guaranteed sit for both you and your child then reserve the seats!! You are not special to get priority over another passenger who found the seat first!!!!!

Also a 5 year old is not that big, she could have sat on your knee! But you decide to post a thread on MN and make a mountain out of a molehill! I travel on trains all the time! If there’s no seats left there’s no seats left, I just stand up! But you don’t see me thinking someone else should move for me and then make a post on here about it!!
Unless you reserve a seat beforehand it’s first come first served so it’s just tough really!

This made my laugh as my just turned 6 year old is an absolute tank and I can't have him sat on my lap too long without my legs going dead 🤣🤣🤣

I don’t understand @PrettyPleaseXo

What is stopping you from sitting in a nearby available seat? Or continuing to stand?

This poor woman going about her day, minding her own business, now has a 9 page thread about her existence on a train seat.

LTB!

It will only get worse.

😁

She might even be reading it. If she looks up suddenly and says ‘Haha’ to the OP, then she definitely is.

I can't see how the original woman is selfish. She is just sitting in her seat looking out the window. OP can always sit and child stands, or sit in a nearby seat.

Though the majority of us are telling OP she's being quite unreasonable.

I had to ask if someone could move on a coach recently so I could sit next to my infant in his car seat. A lady did move reluctantly in the end but you don’t ask, you don’t get.

Are you still on the train?

I never offer unless there are no seats and the person is elderly or pregnant. Sorry if that makes me selfish, but I have as much right to a seat as someone with a child, as long as the child has a seat. I'm also usually working or reading so try for a window seat so I can lean on something and people don't keep bashing me.

Seems the OP saw the young woman as an easy target.

But if the person you asked had said no, then you'd have asked someone else and not made a thread about it? Also an infant in a car seat isn't the same as a 5 year old.

I'm still 😂 that the OP is annoyed that some woman, who she didn't ask to move, and doesn't know the OP wants her to move, hasn't moved. 😂

OriginalUsername2 · Today 15:04

This poor woman going about her day, minding her own business, now has a 9 page thread about her existence on a train seat.

A reminder to us all that as soon as we get on a train as women and start breathing, quick check MN in case someone has started a thread about what a bitch you are for merely exhaling audibly.

I'm dying that people are actually trying to make being a dick to a mum with a young child some kind of feminist statement😄

Decent, well brought up people would move without being asked. You're not going to get a normal range of opinions here because on this website the idea of showing pregnant women or mothers with small children etc any kind of consideration or grace really winds the weirdos up. I hope you encounter some better brought up people in the rest of your journey OP x in my experience travelling pregnant and with a young child, most people are decent and helpful.

LTB under the patio!

But why should she move just because you have a child? The entitlement is unbelievable. Put your child on your lap and get on with life? I've sat my 8yo on my lap many times, didn't think I need to ask people to move to make way just because I have a child.