To ask if you work or are a SAHP..

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Just that really, those of you who have children under school age. Do you work, or do you stay at home? Or work part time? My youngest won't start school until 2026 so I'm considering giving up work and having the rest of the time full time at home with her as my income makes very little difference to the household.

Those who stay at home, do you enjoy it?

I have 3 DCs, eldest at school, middle at home/pre-school 2 days a week and youngest at home / looked after by grandparents whilst I work 2 days a week till 4pm; term time only. Its prrfect balance of time with kids and work, plus term time saves a fortune on childcare. When my youngest turns 3 i plan to go back 4/5 days a week.

If spending all day with kids makes you a feminist, why isn't being a SAHM also feminist?

I don't suggest anything as it's not my place to tell people how to live their lives. Maybe you should take a leaf, if you're going into psychology. God forbid someone with opposing views should inadvertently end up as a client.

@Oliotya Eh?!!!

IMO not reducing people down to gender stereotypes makes you a feminist.

My male partner is more of a feminist than many of the women in this thread.

Rather look after other peoples kids for a buck, than look after her own. SO progressive.

Working mums are also looking after their kids.

Happy to help.

At work? What a progressive boss you must have.

@BreeBacon I'm not "going into psychology". My first degree is BSc Human Psychology (Hons). A Masters always comes after a first degree btw.
But thanks for your concern.

@BreeBacon You really are vile.

You haven't worked in Psychology, so yes you will be going into Psychology. And I am about as vile as you.

Some of us want to earn our own money than live off a sugar daddy. Very progressive.

@BreeBacon You're just vile. Well, vile and nasty.
I'm no longer feeding the troll.

I don’t think anyone on here has a sugar daddy.

I look after my kids when I’m at home alone with them.

My partner looks after the kids when he is at home alone with them.

We look after them together, equally, when we are both home.

They go to school; when their teachers act in loco parentis.

Do SAHP look after their kids when they are at school?

@LorlieS - I did pursue my career, but when I had my own children, I wanted to put all my energy into them, rather than other peoples children and particularly, their parents! I felt I had more to offer my own kids, because the paid work, valuable though it is, is constantly stymied by admin and and a culture of everyone constantly covering their own backs, rather than acting in the interests of the children. Many / most get burnout and ultimately, I just didn't want that for myself. I didn't want to feel split in two. Also, the money was fairly irrelevant, so that was not a factor. I felt as if I'd done enough, frankly. I was a SAHM for 20 years, 4 DC inc. twins. No regrets at all. Now I do something totally different and it's on my own terms.

She is probably going to be teaching your children to read and write though. Maybe be grateful for that.

😂Sugar daddy.....

My husband and I got together at university. I worked for many years before we had the kids. It just so happens his career took off and I have been able to be a SAHM as a result, which I love and prefer.

Of course you do.

Yeah. I do.

I also look after my kids when I'm at home alone with them.My husband looks after the kids when he is at home alone with them.We look after them together, equally, when we are both at home.My oldest goes to school; when their teachers are in Loco parentis.I have no idea what any other parents do when their kids are at school. Personally I look after the two that aren't at school. I don't act as a representative or spokesperson for all SAHP. Not sure you've made quite the point you think you did.

This.

Fine not to go back to that particular job.

Not fine to give up on working forever and plan to be financially reliant on a man or the state.

Use the time to train in something then you can build yourself a better life with or without DH.

Actually I haven't been rude up until this point. YOU have been very condescending and vile in many of your comments towards me, along with others.

Like all bullies, they don't like it when they get it back.

You know you were implying that my children are being looked after by someone else other than their parents; when in actual fact I am with my children almost every moment they aren’t at school - the exact same as they would be if I was a SAHP.

No, I did that myself and continue to do so, having the spare time being a SAHM and all.