To ask if you work or are a SAHP..

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Just that really, those of you who have children under school age. Do you work, or do you stay at home? Or work part time? My youngest won't start school until 2026 so I'm considering giving up work and having the rest of the time full time at home with her as my income makes very little difference to the household.

Those who stay at home, do you enjoy it?

Then you are nothing but a wimpy SAHM?

Or is it only wimpy if you have a penis?

What kind of parenting are you doing if it involves your genitals?

We have been over that ad infinitum. You can think it’s a job if you like. My opinion is-

TLDR: if by job you mean thing you are paid to do, then being a SAHM/D isn’t a job.

If by job you mean ‘thing I have to do’ then parenting falls into that category.

Why did you quote me when I’ve repeatedly said this? I refer to myself as unemployed in my first post! I’ve talked about not having a job because I hate working. Ffs.

Sounds like a bit of back tracking going on here. Why is it wimpy? That attitude is the reason why many fathers struggle to go to baby groups etc.

because ''real men'' financially provide for their families, of course.

@WithACatLikeTread Mine irons (often whilst watching The Sound of Music).
My husband is hot!

Oh come off it. So the decisions I make in my own life should be based around collectively bringing down the patriarchy, rather than my own happiness. No thanks. Being a SAHM who prefers traditional gender roles has nothing to do with my political opinions or stance over womens rights.

Lets face it, these threads always get hijacked by radical feminists that are just pissed at seeing women happy living their lives in traditional roles. Now YOU can work yourself into the ground for 50 years whilst shaking your fists at 'the man' over perceived injustices or not, if that makes you feel like you've done 'something'.
I'll just enjoy my family and mind my own business.

I was being sarcastic. Referring to several threads about SAHM insisting it is a full time job.

If you think having a corporate job or whatever makes you a feminist - it does not.

Stop assuming all women wants your life. They don't. It would make them miserable.

Just like you would be utterly miserable as a SAHM, many women would be utterly miserable if forced to be apart from their children.

Yeah mine irons too. I however avoid it....

You must be masculine.

Nobody is saying any of this.

The only thing that pisses me off is when sexist gender roles are applied to me because I'm a woman which happens all of the time due to the sexist society we live in, especially regarding motherhood.

LorlieS · Today 20:53

@WithACatLikeTread Mine irons (often whilst watching The Sound of Music).
My husband is hot!

Yeah mine irons too. I however avoid it....'

Well done. That'll show the patriarchy.

As I said, I haven’t read any such threads so I can’t comment further.

Yes so does mine.....

How exactly is your lifestyle standing up to the patriarchy in any way shape or form?

'The only thing that pisses me off is when sexist gender roles are applied to me because I'm a woman which happens all of the time due to the sexist society we live in, especially regarding motherhood.'

Well I can understand that. But still, it doesn't give you the right to preach about SAHMs. That won't help your cause and you're wasting your energy.

No backtracking at all. Just appears some of you are incapable of fully comprehending a comment without either misinterpreting it or taking it out of context entirely.

@SouthLondonMum22 Agreed. The amount of people who assume I'm not "really" married because I'm a Ms (Miss at work) is unbelievable!!
Do you mean "partner" and not "husband", Miss S? No, I don't.

”. I find masculinity sexy so the idea of a man who wanted to look after babies all day and lacked ambition for a career would be a huge turn off. I'd find it wimpy.”

You don’t say it’s for your husband - in fact, you specifically say a man

@Oliotya In many, many different ways. One example as above.

Why am I wasting my energy but your not?

Like it was discussed earlier, everyone will comment here as they see fit. Myself included.

Well he doesn't need to be deemed attractive by me. HE IS NOT MY HUSBAND.
What part of this are you people missing.

I get the opposite.

”what’s your husbands name?”
”I don’t have a husband”
”huh? But you have kids?”
“yup”
”are you a single mum”
”nope, I’m going out with their dad”
”are you getting married then?”
”nope, why would I do that?”

cue confusion.

Looks like backtracking to me.

You said that men who look after their children are wimpy, unattractive and feminine. I thought you were all about owning your views?