What's your timeline for throwing away wedding invitations?

[sockmuncher]

A relative dropped off her wedding invitation on Saturday morning.

I complimented the beautiful invitation. Then I copied the important details into my calendar and set the invitation on the side with the recycling.

We chatted on for a few hours & had a lovely catch up.

She has text me today to say she's been wondering whether to say anything or not but shes hurt the invitation was 'dumped' so quickly. It's got my back up, I appreciated the invitation and how beautiful it was but how long should I keep it for so it's been appreciated enough?

I'm not going to send anything back other than to apologise for hurting her feelings, but i have done this with every wedding / party invitation. Am I in the minority?

Cause that's actually what people do. sweetblord I have had about 10 cards sent to me the past year from friends and family saying thank you for a gift I gave them. one still on my mantle- they are a nice thing to do and the baby looks cute

I've had a few Xmas cards/thank you cards etc with children/babies on and I have to say it is a BIT harder to bin them than normal ones 😁

Did the invitation take up too much space in the empty bin that you couldn't have put it the bin after she left and the bin was empty ? if it's text how do you knwo she had a giggle about it ? text can hide a world of emotion. how will it go when you meet face to face next ?

That's the key. It was stated on the invitation. I don't think anyone would assume an invitation was necessary unless explicitly stated.

This and this!

I usually keep on the fridge until the wedding and then discard afterwards. Very tactless to put in the recycling in front of her!

What about new baby cards? Will you keep them for your son to look at once older or bin those too?!

I recycle after the wedding

My nephew married a few years ago and the invited for close family were boxed including little gifts. My mum died in November and I found her boxed invite when clearing her house. She'd drank the Prosecco though

I would have waited till she left, but I've certainly never kept an invite longer than the time it takes to write down the details

Wow. Harsh. I wouldn't have thrown it away in front of her no matter how long I usually keep them. You could've waited til you were alone. I usually keep mine until after I attend the wedding. I'm afraid if I throw it away I will lose the info (even if I put it on my calendar)

Where are people writing down the details? I'm so confused by this step. They are written out for you on the card! That's the bloody point of it!

Surely one writes (types) them in a diary to ensure the date is blocked out as saved. I’d include all the information.

I'd write the date in my calendar for sure but invitations usually contain loads of information about timings, nearby hotels, email address for food allergies, do you need a space on the bus, nearby carparks, directions because the sat nav doesn't work in the countryside, link to gift list etc. I'd keep all that to come back to later.

Well you know now that it was incredibly harsh.

Personally I keep invites until the event, I'm a bit disorganised so I'll very likely be trying to read the postcode of the place while jumping in the car to go so I always keep the invites until then!

They are usually very pretty/tasteful and look nice propped up on the mantle, a reminder of the couple and a lovely event to look forward to.

I agree.

Some people have too much time on their hands.

I'm sure nobody's husband was running around printing cards with the baby's face on.

I won't be doing it either.

That's not what an invitation is for lol. Do you take your kids party invitations with you when they go? An invitation is inviting you along, that's absolutely not how it's been done at any of the 20 or so weddings I've been to in my life. How odd.

Yes, I do.

We are really blowing some minds tonight.

It’s 2024, photos and a WhatsApp is enough! Whilst I appreciated every gift and card for my babies I never sent out thank you cards…. Or received one for all the baby gifts I bought. It’s always been a thank you in person when receiving them a photo or video to follow up

Do you only fill your days with purely functional tasks? Do you have nothing in your life that is beautiful as well as functional?

I enjoy beautiful stationery and take great pleasure in writing and sending thank you cards. I’m no surrendered wife. I take no such pleasure in, for example, Christmas cards, so I don’t send them.

Yes, I do take a party invite to a party

That's lovely for you.

Making, writing and sending cards is not what I consider to be a fun activity. I would rather be in my garden.

It's my Christmas card to your Thank You card.

Op you are very funny. I've chuckled at your responses.

"To be fair" is just a figure of speech.

I reiterate. It's a tiny proportion of weddings when you would be expected to bring the invitation! So small as to be irrelevant, and exceptional.

Gardening, the ultimate genteel wifework?

Sounds like you have too much time on your hands.

This. They are expensive and sentimental. You don’t have to save, but disposing of it in from of the invitee seems harsh.