What's your timeline for throwing away wedding invitations?

[sockmuncher]

A relative dropped off her wedding invitation on Saturday morning.

I complimented the beautiful invitation. Then I copied the important details into my calendar and set the invitation on the side with the recycling.

We chatted on for a few hours & had a lovely catch up.

She has text me today to say she's been wondering whether to say anything or not but shes hurt the invitation was 'dumped' so quickly. It's got my back up, I appreciated the invitation and how beautiful it was but how long should I keep it for so it's been appreciated enough?

I'm not going to send anything back other than to apologise for hurting her feelings, but i have done this with every wedding / party invitation. Am I in the minority?

Why on earth would I send out thank you cards with my babies face on?

I'm fully aware nobody cares about your child as much as the parents / grandparents do. Much the same as nobody cares about anyone's wedding as much as the bride / groom does.

I thank people in person or via text / WhatsApp.

Also this,

I kind of want to know you did this if you were my friend so I didn't send you Christmas and birthday cards. Think of all the money wasted on postage and cards on you from people who care about you over the years

I have a baby on the way

Will you be placing their drawings and paintings straight in the recycle bin when they come up to show you them?

Just so you know, thank you cards for new baby gifts is 'the done thing'. You might be about to make another huge faux pas

I think every thank-you card I have ever received for a new baby gift has had a photo of the baby on it. It is a very normal practice.

This.

I think you were rather tactless.

Why on earth would I send out thank you cards with my babies face on?

More like why wouldn’t you????

No of course I’m not. An invite is like ticket, you take it with you to the event

I posted about this upthread. It is very common to need to show your invitation to a member of staff for a wedding in a smart hotel or stately home. Unless the couple have paid tens or hundreds of thousands for exclusive use then there are usually members of the public around or even another wedding going on. I once went to a wedding at Blenheim Palace and we had to show our invitation to be directed to the guest parking, then to be admitted to the relevant wing of the building, etc etc.

This is something that i havent ever considered. I don't have a 'timeline' on keeping a wedding invitation (But, have kept my own for over 20 years)!! I hate keeping cards etc unless i really wanted to BUT, how rude that you opened it and just binned it in-front of your cousin, i'd have waited until they'd left. More importantly you hurt her feelings.

I appreciated the beautiful invitation and the thought and effort that went into it. Saying that, I would have been just as happy with an email or text with the same information. Within my own friend group all invitations have been emailed or text.

I don't send birthday cards but I do receive them from older relatives.

I wouldn't feel upset if I didn't receive a card because I think they're clutter. Just because they mean something to someone else doesn't mean I'm going to hold onto them.

I value things that others don't and that's ok too.

I'm going to burn them in the back garden.

I don’t know whether you are taking the piss or severely lacking in any form of social skills

It is perfectly normal and polite to send thank you cards (physical things not a digital version) to people who have spent their money on you and bought a gift. Also very normal to have the child’s photo on it

I assume you are an adult. Have you never known someone to have a baby and send you a card like this? Or if you did, did you even look at it before putting it in the bin?

How to lose a friend in 3 seconds. I’d be very upset too.

I suggest you familiarise yourself with social etiquettes and norms. It sounds like this might not be the only thing you might struggling with.
I am saying this in the kindest way.

I like to have invitations on my mantelpiece. Nice to have a visual reminder of an exciting event coming up. They are also so expensive.

Honestly no longer sure if this is an attempt at humour or a goady OP jumping the shark.

I'll send videos / photos of the baby using / wearing the items from anyone who is kind enough to give him a gift.

Thank you cards for babies might have been the done thing 30 years ago. It's always videos and photos now.

I read this very much tongue in cheek 🤞

I keep it until the wedding, usually on our fridge. Why copy all the information into something else when its all on the invite?

Physical cards are quite old fashioned I think. I only ever receive them from older relatives. Especially thankyou cards - I don't a card with your baby on, what a waste of paper, and frankly what a waste of time for tired new parents! A text is just fine.

Honestly, the amount of shite kids make and draw and paint, you need an industrial sized incenerator or a fuck off great big warehouse near Doncaster.

Take a photo of it, burn it, and if the kid asks, distract them with TV and McDonald's. #parentingDoneRight

I'm not talking about 30 years ago, I'm talking about now. I'm probably younger than you. Photos and videos are nice, but it is proper etiquette and manners to send a card. Tbh it sounds like you've spent too long on MN and have bought into the BS

At least untill after they leave the house 😂

Of course it's not!!

You are ageist now as well as offensive, you and your "30 years".

I think you need a few lessons in manners.

Young relatives under 30 have sent baby thank you cards with a photo of their baby, quite recently.

You do you. Carry on like this and you won't be getting invitations to anything!!