Thoughts on what I seen on partners phone.

[Treesinsnow]

I have posted before about a message my partners ex sent him and his reply. Majority of posters said they would be worried and his the rare exchange of one message between them was fine and handled well. However, I have not seen that they have again been chatting and he asked her to send him a photograph!!

I just don't know what to think. In my last post about this, posters said he was kindly giving her the brush off but asking her to send him a photo! How would that be giving her the brush off? Could he still be attracted to her? Why would he want a photo of her if he wasn't?

OP, can YOU explain any rational and innocent reason someone might ask for a photo from their ex?

I doubt you’re stupid, so why are you doubting yourself?

I think people are going to struggle to give advice/opinions without knowing exactly what the messages said

What is the context? Just ‘send a photo’

They were flirting. He then asked for a photo. She again reached out to him first.

Flirting with an ex? Unacceptable.

Flirting with a rando (but no photo exchanges) I'm cool with.

Only you can decide really if you want to be in a relationship with somebody who flirts with an ex.

I must add, it was her doing the flirting and he just asked for the photo. She then carried on with the flirting.

Why were you looking at his phone? Are you sure it was flirting? Can you ask him about it, ask him to explain? I’d also be way less worried about an ex than someone new.

You're painting her as doing all the flirting. He responded to the flirting by asking for a picture of her. Aka flirting too. Heavily.

He's not a passive bystander in this he's a very willing participant.

It's such teenage behaviour I would be massively turned off especially if he's got form.

I wouldn't trust someone like that at all.

Bin him. He wants to gawp and look at her, but he’s not single, do you mind?

He probably has a code with her that if she messages when your around he just sends back a smiley face or a x, asking for a photo is literally only for one reason and its not a good one. Sorry op you really need to end the relationship.

This is what I'm worried about. He's still attracted to her isn't he? 😥

@Sprinkles211 What is the one thing he wants it for? Sorry I can't see through the fog at the moment 😔

Wank bank

LTB

Yes, obviously. Nobody asks their ex to send them a photo for no reason. He is obviously flirting with her. It doesn’t matter that she instigates it; he’s joining in with it.

The only reason I’d want a photo of my EX is to throw darts at it….

Your DP is encouraging her and that’s bad enough.

He’s secretly messaging his ex.

His ex is flirting with him and he’s continuing to engage.

He’s asked for her photo, which is him flirting back.

I think you know that this is emotional cheating and could easily escalate to physical cheating. Presumably the reason why you have been looking at his phone is because you have a gut feeling that something is wrong?

Why are you looking at his phone

Yes I did look at his phone because she had sent him a message a couple of weeks back that I also posted about and the posters said his response to her was nothing to worry about. Anyway curiosity got the better of me and I checked his phone and found them more recent messages.

If he is still attracted to her/still wants her then why isn't he with her? I just don't understand. She clearly wants him too.

Just dump him! Where is your self worth?! He's cheating emotionally/digitally and it's his EX!! get rid.

I'm not going to dump him! Ridiculous response. He has not cheated on me. Am I happy he asked for a photo from his ex - no I'm not thrilled but I don't think it has gotten to dumpible territory just yet and hopefully will not.

More fool you then.

When are you going to ask him what he wanted the photo for?

Have you pulled him up on it yet? I never saw your last post, did he know you saw the first messages?