Thoughts on what I seen on partners phone.

[Treesinsnow]

I have posted before about a message my partners ex sent him and his reply. Majority of posters said they would be worried and his the rare exchange of one message between them was fine and handled well. However, I have not seen that they have again been chatting and he asked her to send him a photograph!!

I just don't know what to think. In my last post about this, posters said he was kindly giving her the brush off but asking her to send him a photo! How would that be giving her the brush off? Could he still be attracted to her? Why would he want a photo of her if he wasn't?

Exactly! I'm really wondering about this thread...

I'm not thrilled that he may still be attracted to her (I'm sure he wouldn't want a photo of her if he wasn't). However, he has no intention of meeting up with her which makes me believe he just enjoys the attention she is giving him. It has been on every occasion her that has messaged him first, he would not have contacted her.

She’s only messaging him because he’s messaging her back!

This is emotional cheating and I wouldn't stand for it. I would be going mental at him and show him the door. You are being such a doormat. Have some self respect and get rid of him.

Your relationship is already over you don’t trust him quite rightly so. He may not of physically cheated yet but it looks like it’s heading that way.

@Alfiemoon1 How? He is refusing to meet her.

Of course he is cheating ! Refusing to meet her now .... they are flirting and that is a part of it. What then ..if he meets her.. will it be her fault and not his? Wake up OP !

Refusing to meet her for now. He’s already engaging with her if he wasn’t interested he would have shut the conversation and flirting down and not be asking for pictures. How long have they been split up? If it’s been a while probably wants to check her out in a picture before he commits to meeting up

@Alfiemoon1 Not very long so he knows she couldn't have changed much plus he has her on social media so he can see from there also so I don't think that is the reason.

He's still engaging with an ex. Whether he's flirting or engaging with the flirting it's all the same, and he's asking for a photo because he's still attracted to her! Just put yourself in his shoes, if you were asking an ex to send you a photo why would that be? I couldn't be arsed with putting up with this crap in a relationship. It's disrespectful and you know it is, if you want to continue with it then I don't understand why you're on here asking for opinions. Of course the majority are going to tell you to get rid of him, he's a twat

@lilaclustre Reported! Nasty piece of work.

Maybe use some of that assertiveness to confront your boyfriend before he cheats on you properly...

You must know that there's only one way him asking his ex for nudes is going to go..?

@Treesinsnow I don’t think you really want anyone’s advice. You’ve asked, and everyone has pretty much given you the same response.

There’s no point trying to convince people now why you’re right to stay with him. It’s your life…just a bit pointless asking for advice when what you actually want is someone just to agree with your decision making.

I hope for your sake we’re all wrong 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’ve read all of your responses & you literally are in denial. Don’t ask for peoples thoughts on your situation if you’re just going to argue against them. You’re being taken for a fool by him.

If he's with you he should not be flirting with his ex and asking for photos of her. That's only okay if you're single or in an open relationship. She may be messaging him first, but he is choosing to reply. This man does not respect you, you don't trust him, and if you continue with this relationship it's going to eat away at your self confidence. You deserve to meet the right man, and the right man won't be flirting with his ex. Move on and find someone who makes you his priority.

Here to agree with PP.

You need to open your eyes.

It's a case of 'when', not 'if'.

The kind of photos he wants she isn’t going to be posting to her Insta 🤣🤣🤣

"The kind of photos he wants she isn’t going to be posting to her Insta"

I was answering a previous poster.
He didn't actually make it clear what "photo" he wanted. She didn't send one anyway.

Maybe not but most women understand what a man means when he asks for a photo during a flirtatious exchange. And it's generally not one of them on their way to church or just before the school run.

He might not have explicitly asked but he'll have been hoping for boobs at the least.

You don't know she didn't send a photo. All you know is he didn't leave it in his message feed. If I were him, I'd have 'deleted for me' a photo I didn't want someone to accidentally see over my shoulder or if I opened the app in front of them. But I'd have saved it elsewhere.

My partner and I have sent photos in the past and I've always done this to avoid my daughter accidentally seeing!