I want to be called Nonna but….

[Moira1951]

I’ve been told Nonna is unacceptable by my son as they want my first ever grandchild (at 73) to call me granny. I don’t want to be called granny, do I have a choice as to what I’d like to be known as?

I don’t think Nonna is appropriate if you don’t have Italian roots. But Nanna is lovely and more general. Who knows baby may give you another more personal nickname anyway 😊

I wanted to be called Nanny - my son and his partner gave me a choice but honestly, now my darling grandson is here he can call me whatever he wants ❤️
I've been called granny, nanny, nanna - and I really really don't care because my heart is literally full of joy and yours will be too ❤️❤️

Our family is ethnically blended from different parts of the world, as many families are becoming, or already are in the UK. I think you can choose what name suits you OP and it can change in time without sticking to traditions if you don't like the available names. I can't see anyone having a problem with Nonna.

Of course you can choose?! It’s what you’re going to be known as. My parents have chosen what they will be known as when our little bump is here in 9 weeks. It’s not up to me, it’s their names!

Surely you get to pick YOUR name?! It's YOUR name! My mum was adament she was a Grandma. I found that old fashioned but it was her choice.

I just don't get the concept of a name being appropriate or not.

Go back far enough in time and very few names originate in the UK or are limited to a particular country.

Seems there are bigger things to argue about to be totally honest.

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Good luck!

Personally we let everyone pick their own because I knew my mum who was 48 when dd was born wouldn’t want to be called granny/grandma but we have great grandparent as well so it makes it easier to differentiate.

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As I said before, good luck!

In my experience teenagers love and embrace quirkiness these days.

I'm granny to my six, and the other grandmother is grandma ( different families)

What is your mum's title? Lady? Duchess? Dr? Or just Mrs? I can't imagine a child calling their grandmother Dr Smith or Mrs Thompson.

I really think that it should be your decision. My in laws and parents chose. It absolutely should be your decision as to how you choose to be addressed, unless it's identical to the other grandparents and could cause confusion.

I think by title she just meant nickname, like Grandma, Nanny or Nonna.

But maybe you knew that already?

I think it should be up to you to a certain extent but I wouldn’t want my mum/ MIL to be nonna unless they did have Italian connections.

Any of the following would have been fine for them (and they did choose themselves); Nan, Nana, nanny, gran, granny, grandma.

To be honest, I think that all the standard grandmother names are a bit grim. I 'chose' Grandma as it seemed the least worst, and my late and much loved MIL, on whom I planned to model my own grandmothering, was Grandma. But I secretly hoped that my granddaughter would come up with her own variation. Had she come up with nonna by herself, no way would I have rejected it.

I think by title she just meant nickname, like Grandma, Nanny or Nonna.

But maybe you knew that already?

Well no, actually, I didn’t know what was meant by her title, which is why I asked, because she said her dad went with the standard grandad, but her mum went with her title, because thought the alternatives were chavvy -which I took to mean things like nanny etc. Her title isn’t grandma or whatever, unless she had chosen that.

Really don't see why anyone is dictating which name you want to be called?! Both my parents and the in laws picked their own names and DC say those (or their approximation of them). Also, who cares of you're not Italian? I could care less if an italian wanted to be referred to as nana or granny!

I say all this as someone who thinks parents have the final say in every parenting decision to be made. Choosing a name for you to be called is going a step too far.

My DD and SiL.asked me what I'd like to be called, so I said Nanny then my Christian name. The other Gran then followed suit Nanny her Christian name.

Pressed too soon. I wouldn't have minded what DGC call me. Granny would have been fine.

Oh no!! I didn’t mean to post it here. I’m so sorry.

Do you know why they object? Do they see it as attention seeking in some way, picking some random weird name that won't actually come naturally to anyone? (the logic would have been clearer if you had been Italian).

I think you definitely should have a say, but ideally reach a mutually acceptable conclusion.
With my DS my mother and i agreed she would be called 'Mamie' (she is french). DS clearly found this difficult when he started speaking, as too close in sound to 'Mummy' which was me. We realised this when he was about 2, and able to speak a bit, but never pronounced her name - always called her 'Mmmm', without going any further. We then promptly 'changed' her name to something a bit different to that, (same first syllable, but different second one), and within 48 hours he was calling her by her new name.

This similar to what happened with my MIL while her DM was alive she was grandma now she is granny.

As a grandmother of 2 I think you’ll find they call you what they want to when they start to babble and I’m perfectly happy with my 2 totally different titles!