Read partners phone... its bad

[Honeymonster2]

I've gone through my partners phone (together 9 years, 4 kids) because I suspected he'd taken drugs on Friday night, just in the living room while me and the kids were in bed... turns out yes he had done that and also messaged a prostitute at 5.30am to see about meeting her and then he's backed out saying delete my number.

What am I supposed to do now? I know I shouldn't have done it. I feel numb.

They are. Controlling behaviour and healthy relationships form part of our PSHE programme. Unfortunately many of them see unhealthy relationships at home or online for an hour a week every now and then to have an impact. Schools cannot fix all of societies complex issues unfortunately.

There is no magic wand, OP. Unless you're willing for this to be your one and only life, forever, you need to find it in yourself to kick him out. He won't change, and backing out of meeting his whore doesn't absolve him of anything. He lies, he cheats, he drinks, he does drugs and he gambles. He won't change.The only person you can change is you.

No, nothing can "redeem the situation"!!

How can you possibly want to rear your children with this waster?

How are you financially reliant on him when he's chucking his money away on drink, drugs, gambling and whores!?

And yet you still had 4 children with him. I despair.