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AIBU?

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To think karma doesn’t exist?

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Fuckfucketyfuckfuckfuck · 21/01/2024 08:58

I went through an utterly horrific experience a few years ago. Someone who I trusted and considered a friend was the cause of this. I don’t want to provide the exact scenario as this could be outing but she betrayed me in a horrific way when I was at a very vulnerable point in my life and it blew my life apart. Although I have rebuilded my life, I still think about what happened all the time and obviously I still feel a lot of hurt and anger because of what happened. I still to this day feel Kirby to but red hot visceral hatred towards her. I’m not by nature a person who holds grudges, I have always been quick to forgive and don’t like conflict but what she did was unforgivable. Not once has she reached out to me, to try and explain, apologize or try to make amends. That’s fine as it’s obviously just indicative of the type of person she is but what really sticks in my throat is the fact that it seems her life has gone from strength to strength ever since. New (better) job, new partner, new home, new baby. We live in a small community so all of this stuff gets back to me whether I like it or not. Moving away is unfortunately not an option for us, certainly at the moment. I feel like she’s treated me like garbage and been rewarded for it by karma rather than punished. AIBU to think karma is just a made up concept that people tell themselves to feel better about someone who has treated them badly? That actually, it doesn’t exist, and people like this actually just get to live a normal happy life despite their actions?

OP posts:
Josette77 · 22/01/2024 15:58

Op can you give us an example of what she did?

I'm struggling to understand how you would wish a slow and painful death on her unless she did something criminal to someone you loved?

Cheeseburger85 · 24/02/2025 12:34

I'm late to this but yes I do.
People here don't seem to understand the concept at all. It is essentially cause and effect. Eg. You sow seeds by lying, then nobody believes you.

The one thing people don't like to hear is that we all carry bad karma, and so everything that happens to us in this life is a consequence of things we did in a past one. We have nobody to blame but ourselves. AND wishing people ill creates more for us.

The only thing you can do is meet the person w compassion because any other alternative causes your misery. But by all means don't believe. Nobody (even Buddha) demands you believe something blindly.

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