Is my DH overreacting over dream?

[Sunsetred]

I sent a message to a friend who is gay (opposite sex) detailing a dream which I had which involved him. It was not a romantic dream. My DH has seen my message and is now acting like I've committed adultery. He says it was flirting? He's a man and he's gay and he's in a relationship with a man. My DH is demanding answers and that I make it up to him.

I've told my DH that he's being pathetic and ridiculous. A I being unreasonable or is my DH?

It's an odd message to send but your DH is being a muppet.

Is your DH annoyed that you had the dream in the first place, or just that you messaged your friend to tell him about it?

Honestly

you were inappropriate. And even assuming your friend wanted to receive a message detailing a sexually explicit dream about him.

And disrespectful to your husband

A reverse?

It says it wasn’t a sexual dream

She literally just said it wasn’t a romantic dream! For all we know she could’ve dreamt they went to sea in a giant pork chop

How did your DH come to see this message?

@regenerate it was completely non sexual or romantic.

oh sorry didn’t realise you had not clarified anything about the dream

so wasn’t romantic

so what was it?

what’s your marriage otherwise like?

Your DH is completely overreacting. What on earth does he think you have to 'make up' to him?

What was it about then?

@ManateeFair he says he's annoyed that I'm having dreams about other guys and then messaged it. However, for me it's no different to having a dream about a female friend and then telling them "oh I had this weird dream about you!"

oh sorry didn’t realise you had not clarified anything about the dream

so wasn’t romantic

Yes she had clarified. It's right there in the OP.

YANBU OP. Your husband is being an arse.

Your husband is an idiot!

@feathermucker without going into all the detail the dream was that I got my friend fired from a job by complaining about them and I felt really bad. It made me think of them the next day and want to check in!

Reading comprehension on this site is shit.
she clearly says it was NOT a romantic dream.
your husband is being pathetic. Tell him to jog on.

so surely this must be tip of ice berg to other issues in your marriage?

how did he come across the message??

Offer to get your husband fired from his job if he really wants you to make up for it.

how does he want you to make up for getting your mate fired in your dream?

flipping heck Op

just read your other threads about your “constantly” lying DH.

This marriage has big problems

This.

Why is he even reading your messages?

What hospital has your husband been let out from coz he needs to go back.
You done nothing wrong it was a dream.
Everyone has dreams even to your husband.
He needs to get a grip if hes sulking over a dream what ever next.
I say this light-heartedly have you thought of a divorce.
Because who knows what the next dream may be.

Last night i had a dream that i had sex with my ex while reading road maps.
Ive been single 8 and a half years.

Is your DH usually someone who massively overreacts? I’m really worried about him telling you that you shouldn’t be dreaming of other men - it’s not something you can control. Is he controlling in other ways? Does he frequently tell you that you have to make it up to him (also not a normal thing to do in a relationship). Do you feel like you can’t share your thoughts and feelings with him?

Sending the message to your friend was inappropriate in the first place, not only is your DH upset by it but have you considered how your friends partner might feel?

@GTsundaydriver guessing you also missed where it said it WAS NOT a sexual dream?

He says that it came up when DD was using my iPad as she had managed to go into my messages.

Yes, he's not been the greatest and I'm very fed up.

@Sunsetred you don’t need to spend the rest of your life with him, in case no one has told you.