What support would you expect from husband in this situation?

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I work weekdays 7am-6pm, his work is flexible 3 days a week so he usually sleeps until midday and works the afternoon into evening, takes a break when I get home for the evening, then works a bit more after I go to bed, so about 7 hours x 3 a week.

My mum is on end of life care and lives a couple of hours away from us. She's got maybe a couple of weeks according to the doctor last week. I've been going to visit every weekend since November, to help dad and see mum, and then once or twice midweek after work, which is a bit of journey but I just want to be with my mum while I can. When I'm not physically there, I'm facetiming her and dad, trying to sort out carers/cleaners for dad who needs help too, keeping my siblings and aunts/uncles updated as best as I can.

I've asked him to pick up more cleaning. He hasn't. I asked him to do the shopping order and meal plan. He just ordered ready meals. He's not worked yet this week and I've just got home and he's still in bed. No kids yet.

Am I being unreasonable to expect him to actually do something to look after me through this awful period?

Given the sadness of the circumstances, obviously, OP that's a lovely update to read. It's nice to hear that your boss and your sister are both there for you. Box off your future ex for now as a problem for future you. He's not worth the energy right now.
It sounds like you and your sister are a good support for each other? There's the relationship to focus the energy on as that will be invaluable going forwards. If you have great friends too, pull them closer.
There's no easy way to say goodbye to someone you love but I wish you and your mum all the best over the next stage. Get all the hugs in, tell her everything you want to tell her. Nothing will make it less shit but try to make every minute count.

Dh supported me through the end of life care of two family members. I didn't need to ask, he just picked up the slack for me to go and be with my relatives.
I would do the same for him.

He is showing you who he really is.Do not have children with thus man!!!

Good for you! You've got the situation in hand and a plan for the future.

KOKO with what you need for you and your mum. As long as he doesn't get in the way of that, he can wait for another day.