Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

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I’d be wondering what he gets up to. To have your thoughts go to tracking your partner, you’ve got a suspicious mind. My experience is that men that think that way are usually up to no good themselves.

He’s spying on you OP. I fucking leave him for that 3 kids or not. He’s a shit.

He doesn’t trust you because he can’t be trusted.

I've been thinking, and based on OP's H's hatred for her mother I wonder if the AirTag has been placed to see if OP is going to visit/stay with her mum whilst her H is gone. Or to see if she's visiting solicitors!!!

I doubt very much if he thinks she's having an affair, unless he actually suffers from paranoia.

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you have based your opinion on the premise that this man is a rational being..... If you accidentally leave a tag somewhere, the person who owns the tag and has activated it gets told...so if it was the husband and he genuinely forgot, surely he would have told his wife when the tag contacted him? If it was someone in the garage, surely they would have wanted to retrieve it?

Take the car to a garage and get the tag taken out and leave the tag in the garage, then phone him and tell him there’s a major issue with the car and you don’t know how long it’s going to take the garage to sort it!
id also be getting a new phone incase he’s put a tracker on it.

It was a suggestion - an alternative possibility - did you REALLY have to be so effing obnoxious when a simple ‘I think that’s unlikely’ would have sufficed? What is it about this site that encourages people - women - to behave and speak like a bunch of scornful b*tches? After this post I am out.

To the OP I would ASK your husband. If he denies it, call the police. If he has lied, he’ll have egg on his face and you have grounds for divorce. If it’s not him, you have a valid reason to have its presence investigated.

Magpie stealing it and flying up exhaust with it and dropping it somewhere is also a possibility.

Tbh posts coming up with wild bizarre reasons deserves a bit of scorn, especially from a bitch.

Anyway, ta ra 👋

@coffeeaddict77

Oh dear. This isn't a competition about who has the least suspicious husband.

You're happy in a relationship with less trust than me, but it doesn't give you the right to call me (or anyone else) gullible, any more than it gives me the right to call you (or anyone else) anything unpleasant.

Its a control thing. Do you have a cat? I would attach it to that for the three weeks.

Why wouldn't you leave your partner?

No @Wetblanket78 - this has been addressed multiple times on this thread, I’m not sure how you can have missed it.

It does not have to have been paired with her phone.

Phones now pick up a tag that is close to them - this is a safety feature, so that people can’t be unknowingly tracked.

It does not have to have been paired.

@Redlarge It is a criminal offence but whether the police want to do anything about it is another matter.

Rather hypocritical to say I am being unpleasant while suggesting that my relationship wouldn't be good enough for you. Do you actually think that blinding trusting someone whatever they do is a sign of a good relationship?

@coffeeaddict77

I didn't realise I was supposed to want your relationship.

What tosh. Have a good evening.

@ZeeB68 I hope you are OK.

Be careful incase he is tracking your Internet use and stuff.
I really hope you are OK and be very wary of going on holiday and be careful incase he gets your kids Pakistani passports.

There is far more to him going to Pakistan for 3 weeks than just a wedding. He is abusive and controlling.

Be very careful

Okay I think the point has got accross I only skimmed through the OP's post and can't really read through every single comment can I when on looking after DD having a bad day with her health condition.

OMG, that's shocking. If I'm shocked I can only imagine how you feel. First of all say nothing. You need thinking time. 2ndly find it then decide how you're going to play this.
If it's just sitting in the boot say and it's possible it could have fallen off his luggage you need to give him the benefit of the doubt. If it's tucked away I can only come to one conclusion and that's that he's spying on you.
If that's the case it would be the end of my relationship.
If you decide he's spying on you I'd get all my ducks in a row then fuck with his head. I'd ask a bunch of mates to borrow it and take it on various expeditions. I'd also get hold of a broken one and put it back in your car (same place) so he thinks it's on the blink. Maybe tell him the car was bleeping. Then I'd order one myself and plant it in his car (but hidden better).
I'm fumming on your behalf but I accept you must be hurting too. Of course we all know what type of person would suspect you of cheating. Get an STD check. He's not the man you thought he was.

I’m sorry to hear about your DD.

If you’re only skimming the OP’s posts, and not reading anyone else’s, then it’s probably not a good idea to post the ol’ 🙄 emoji when criticising people.

I didn't say that you are supposed to want my relationship. You don't have to give an opinion on it one way or the other and yet you keep doing even though I didn't think I was commenting specifically on your relationship by saying that believing everything someone says even if the evidence suggests they are lying is gullible. Maybe I touched a raw nerve though.

@coffeeaddict77

Raw nerve? Nah. Can't be bothered, it's just a forum. Like I said, have a nice evening. Let's leave it there.

This is a very sad situation. The OP has no money of her own and she is not even legally married.

Every few months she starts a thread about a particular issue, without giving much background information.

Eventually a few posters connect the dots and alert others to her horrendous situation. At which point the OP disappears.

till next time…

Not even legally married - OMG!
Is he marrying someone else in Pakistan?

There is something really odd about him going over there for 3 full weeks for a wedding and then wanting to return with the family in a few months.

Something is really off with what he is doing.