Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

Honestly, I’m horrified by how flippant posters are being. I’ve not even read the OP’s other posts, but without them this is no laughing matter.

I suppose it’s understandable in some way if they have no idea how violent and abusive some men can be, but jeez. Use your brain a little.

500+ posts and you say this?
Have you read the OP and updates? Give me strength.

I was just coming on to say the same thing as well.

is the OP from the same background?

Wow he sounds great 🙄

Why does it take 3weeks to legally get married? Surely its a 1hr ceremony so then he'd come home the next day?
I would have been fuming to be left for that long with the kids let alone with a newborn as well. Selfish! Ask when you're getting your 3 week holiday with no kids!?
Remove the tags when his family tag you in posts.
I hope you've found and removed the airtag by now.
Ask some of your family to help you with the kids!!

I have no idea about the OP’s other threads, and haven’t searched for them - but there have been enough references to them and her situation on this thread, that I think we can all get a pretty clear idea.

And it’s really not a laughing matter to all those people laughing at the situation.

Tell your husband you had to call the police because someone put a tracker in your car 😮

I'm sorry if anyone mistook my post for a flippant joke. I had a quite controlling ex (not on this level) and I honestly think calling his bluff without 'accusing' him directly might be a good strategy.

TunnocksOrDeath· Today 22:44
Send him a message asking him to fly home quick, cos some mad stalker put an air tag in your car, and naturally you called the police because you have no idea who might have done that, and its scary, so you'd feel safer with him back home.

After doing the above I would not only buy a detector for hidden cameras in the house but also change all the codes on your devices, laptop, phone etc.

Remember reading on here where someone said they're magnetic so try underneath the boot? On the underside of the car?

I was thinking this . Contacted the police get a restraining order of sorts and eh can’t return to the house ?
Also add the abuse from his mum.

Considering that he's going to come home and say that he bought several and put one in each of the cars in case they were stolen, but he forgot to mention it (which to be fair, though it's unlikely, could actually be true*) contacting the police and having a restraining order taken out against him in his absence with no evidence is going to look crazy.
Though I'm with everyone regarding getting the other ducks in a row.

*When I bought a Samsung tab for my suitcase, it was far better value to buy two or four. So as I live alone I bought two - one for my case and one for my car. If my DH had still been alive or my adult children still at home, I'd have bought four . Obviously I'd have mentioned it though.

Can you play stupid and go to a garage? Tell him when he gets back, that you went because you couldn't unlock your car at first one morning, you thought it was the battery key fob, but when you DID get in the car there was a weird beeping and you were worried you and the kids would get locked in if the central locking / alarm was faulty?
I agree - set up a new free gmail email (go to the library computers to do it) and ask the garage to take and send a pic of it in situ to you.
Then take it out, and put it in your kitchen drawer until he returns.

OR - drive it to the police station and let them look for it. File a report.

OP - I just looked up your thread on the birth of your baby & MIL behaviour. I'm lost for words & so deeply sad for you.

You have to get away from this family & your misogynistic husband for your sake & your childrens. It will only get worse, it really will. If at 31 he cannot see what he's doing & allowing his mother to do is wrong, he never will. Never.

I'm so so sorry

Take it out and drop it on a bus ....

I’ve just done the same and agree you definitely should not be going to Pakistan. He’s ramping up his behaviour and you don’t know if he’s intending to stay there if you all go out there in April. Pakistan will be part of The Hague convention by then.

You should be divorcing this man op. He’s brainwashed you into thinking all kinds of behaviours are acceptable. Go and stay with your mum for a while. You need her support. I get that means taking the kids out of school for a few days. But she can help you with your baby, the tracker and other issues.

Sounds a strange set-up. Which country has he gone to?
Because 3 weeks is a long time to go abroad, even for his brother's wedding!

And why didn't you go to the wedding too? Didn't you want to?

I'm getting the feeling you and your husband may be Asian? Do you have any relatives nearby that can help you with this tag situation?

Not read the whole thread yet, so don’t know if it has been suggested already (apologies if it has)…
Can you go to a mechanic or service station and ask them to look for it?

Also - is he using the 3 weeks to organise a house, get everything in order for staying there? 3 weeks is a very long time…

Oh I've just read your other thread too. 😟

While he is away will you be seeing your mum at all? Having her to stay with you, or you and the kids having a little stay with her?

I'm curious how it came about that you live 2.5hrs away from your mum? You're isolated and some real life support sounds like it would be good for you right now.

I remember your other thread.

He's an abusive misogynistic prick, and his mother is the same.

I'd be reporting the air tag to the police. Remembering that your devices may be compromised.

The police might be able to help you remove it as well.

I'd find it and let him know. 'One if those tag things must have fallen out of your bag. I fishes it out the boot and left it on the side at home so it doesn't get lost again.'
What can he say to that?

Maybe say to him…with all these kids it’s easier to get my secret lover to come visit me so the AirTag won’t tell you anything.

Or go to loads of random places?

Could he have just left one of his tags or bags in your boot when you dropped him to the airport?
Are you able to track his suitcases now that he is overseas?
Did he purchase the tags for you to be able to see him?

It is totally unreasonable if your husband put one in your car without telling you. You should both have agreed if he were tagging your car in case of theft. Personally, I think tagging one's car is a great idea but to have it put there unbeknown is creepy.

@ZeeB68 I'm appalled at the behaviour of this man, tracking you - What does he think you are up to?
Having a passionate affair with a new baby and young children in tow?
The man's utterly awful.

He should have said ''I have a tracker in your car in case anything happens so I know where to get help, are you ok with that??''

What a shock for you.

Could you manage as a single parent?