Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

Disgraceful behaviour showing lack of trust id be very annoyed. You need to check if he has installed a secret app software on your phone which can also act as a location tracker. Google it but search for it in incognito mode or if you need us to post for you we can. Do you have an iPhone? I had my partners search history come up on my tablet once idk how think he maybe signed in once with his email but it was linked so he could even maybe see what websites you've been on aswell as search and location history

Get it out. Strap it to a ddogs leg. Then ltb.

Just realised and re-read your previous post. For goodness sake use this time when he’s away to get everything in order and get the hell out. Why are you even posting this here? Take action right now. Loads of good suggestions for how to do this (passports/documents etc) already on the thread.

Has he done anything like this before, OP?

I would not trust this man. He is probably sleeping with prostitutes

I’m willing to bet that it’s nothing nefarious, everyone knows that AirTags alert you when you’re travelling with one. If he is trying to secretly track you then he’s as thick as fucking pig shit. You could well find he’s put one in his car as well and just didn’t think to mention it.

Put it in the post to him at his brothers wedding destination - he will enjoy tracking that one….

But is he really tracking you? He told you he was buying them, you knew he had them and unless he is a total idiot that it would ping on your phone

Find it and fuck with him and then LTB.
Do you have an ex boyfriend nearby that he knows about? Can you lob it in his front garden? Is there a law firm that specialises in divorce law? Can you pop in there so it registers there. Do you know anyone who is going for a night out at a night club that you can give it too?

What is really fucking insulting about his behaviour is that you are busting a gut looking after his children and he is implying that you are banging someone else and neglecting them. What an absolute joke of a human being.

Although we have one in our car in case we need to find our car.
Slim possibility it's innocent?

Ah just saw a pps update, I have read one of your other threads before op. This is not a good relationship at all.

Could have fallen off his bag into boot/seat when he off to airport

Find it
Photograph it where you found it
Keep it - it's evidence
Put it under the mattress on his side while he's away
Give it to your shit hot lawyer just before he returns
Say nothing
Get out
Get a divorce

I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg. The fact hes done this while he sauntered off abroad for weeks leaving you with kids including a newborn was my first clue.

What a prize he is.

Does he honestly think you'll be cheating on him while juggling all these kids solo?!

In my cynical experience men paranoid their partners are cheating are judging by their own dirty cheater standards. 🙄

Has he cheated on you before that you know of?

Is he controlling in other ways op? Before he started tracking your car, has he been controlling in other ways?

I've just read your other thread OP. This kind of behaviour is not normal at all. It's controlling and disturbing. I really think you should get some legal advice and make plans to leave as soon as you can.

I don’t know what to vote as I don’t know your husband so I guess if you know him you should know if you are being unreasonable, maybe you don’t know your husband as well as you thought! Do you feel safe to confront him? How do you think he would react? Or maybe try to do the same to him? Good luck!

refugetechsafety.org/secure-your-tech/
There is lots of help here on checking your home and devices.
Use the time he is away to get lots of info and advice.

There is no way I’d leave it .
Id take it out straight away and play dumb ( like he thinks you are)
Mr suspicious wouldn’t be having a. Nice time while he Is away I would make sure he was worried now .
Funny how he goes away and leaves you with kids but wants to keep tabs on you (what a cheek) Is he projecting this behaviour on
you is what I would be questioning.

You are being too nice thinking he is doing this as he cares. He would have spoken to his life partner if that was the case.
This was pre meditated and done when he fuelled your car.

Tell him your phone alerted you about a tracker and since he is not here you were scared and notified the police for safety.

Find it, remove it from the car and put it somewhere in the house, say nothing to him about it. Let him stress, he will know you have found it if it Dosen’t move for a day,
I think this is a reflection of himself and possibly what he is thinking of doing while he is away…..ie, cheating

Lets see if he mentions it to you, he will be very worried when he knows you know but don’t let on anything

He is the one in the wrong here so don’t feel like you should do any explaining to him about what you have done

What a shit, I’m sorry.

If it helps, anyone vaguely competent at stalking wouldn’t ever use an air tag. He’s clearly not very good at this, which should offer some comfort (although no guarantees).

Happy to take the air tag and show it a good time for a while, while you get ready to leave.

Take it to a hotel, hide it somewhere outside then collect it a couple of hours later. That'll teach him.

This. If he'd track your vehicle, he's got cameras hidden about the house.

Dealbreaker for me. Call divorce lawyer before he returns and use the time to gather documentation, take half of your joint savings, etc. Major dealbreaker.

Out of curiosity, where is the wedding? Is he from a patriarchal culture?

This is unforgivable in my book. Safety my arse!