To think this may be one red flag too many...

[OrchardBlack]

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Been seeing a lovely man for about 3 months. He is kind and thoughtful, has his shit together, sex is good etc.etc.

Last night we went on a night out in London and he ended up shouting at me in the street because I had been talking to a lovely bunch of girls (with him I might add) and getting him involved in the conversation, I'm a sociable person and like meeting new people, but he got in a massive huff about it and it ruined the whole night. I was crying. He was very apologetic and said its his own insecurities (been cheated on). Utterly remorseful today and earlier said his mum would be 'disgusted with my behaviour last night' (?)

Other things that have got me worried -

1. He said he loved me after about 4 weeks. I've not said it back. He says regularly how I've rocked his world, never felt like this before etc etc. Seems v soon.

2. Keeps a list on his phone of all the women he's slept with.

3. Told me an ex he was with 15 years ago or so once called the Police on him during an argument. Said he pulled a fireplace off the wall??

He cried last night when I said I wanted to finish things and it shouldn't be this hard 3 months on. He would be, in his words, absolutely devastated, and practically begged me not to leave him.

SO....AIBU and reading too much into this for what is otherwise a good relationship or should I follow my instinct and accept these are red flags??

YABU - Give him a shot, you're overthinking
YANBU - Run.

Come on. You have to ask?

You should have said, "You can kiss my hairy, unwashed arsecrack, you maniac!"

He sounds mad and I think I may have dated him 🤣 OP you don't need this shit in your life move on you don't owe him anything including an explanation

At one point he kept asking me for 'a kiss goodbye' and I had to be quite firm.

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please consider your safety after you end it.

Run for the hills!

Ah, just seen your update - wise choice!

Sounds as though he accidentally gave you a glimpse of his real self last night OP.

If he's prepared to shout at you in public, just 3 months in when you should be all loved up, then think how he'll treat you in private when you're a year into this relationship.

Trust your instinct and free yourself of this awful person.

EDIT: apologies, I posted before I'd read your update. Well done on getting rid. I hope he leaves you alone.

Run run run, and you have - well done. I would go block on text, fb, etc.

If he turns up at your house, don't open the door and let him in. If he won't leave, call the police

Runrunrunrunrunrun.
As fast as you can- way too many red flags here.

Thank god you dumped him, bolt your doors and congratulate yourself

Run!

This is textbook pattern abusive behaviour and exactly how violent relationships always start.

Zero chance of this becoming something good so don’t waste any more of your time.

Oh fuck that. Why would you stay with a man who shouted at you in the street?

good for you. Can't believe that he shouted at you on the street, in public, for talking to a group of other women (attention off him for a few minutes). Wow. He'd be taking his insecurities out on you behind closed doors soon enough.

Men with low self-esteems always end up telling what you think and then berating you for what they've decided you think

Put it this way, it is not going to get any better.

Jw - no excuse for it at all just curious - what was it about you talking to girls in the street that he didn't like?!

His behaviour is very similar to my ex. Who was indeed nutso.

All the red flags, especially love bombing. I'm glad you've recognised this and moved on.

he ended up shouting at me in the street because I had been talking to a lovely bunch of girls

RUN 🚩🚩🚩🚩

I don't know if he thought the two of you were having a romantic night out and you insisted on including a bunch of random women, I might be annoyed, as you said three months in and you want to spend the night with random women rather than just with him?

Run fast, run far.

No second chances, not with his behaviour.

Well done OP. Well rid.

God no I couldn't stay with a guy whose ex had to call the police on him?! WTF. He needs therapy.

Op, you have got yourself a bunting of red flags here. What more do you need?

Run the other way and don't look back!

He was upset and shouted at you in the street because you were talking to a group of women?

He sounds deranged!

Permission granted to kick him to the kerb......