Posting for traffic.
Been seeing a lovely man for about 3 months. He is kind and thoughtful, has his shit together, sex is good etc.etc.
Last night we went on a night out in London and he ended up shouting at me in the street because I had been talking to a lovely bunch of girls (with him I might add) and getting him involved in the conversation, I'm a sociable person and like meeting new people, but he got in a massive huff about it and it ruined the whole night. I was crying. He was very apologetic and said its his own insecurities (been cheated on). Utterly remorseful today and earlier said his mum would be 'disgusted with my behaviour last night' (?)
Other things that have got me worried -
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He said he loved me after about 4 weeks. I've not said it back. He says regularly how I've rocked his world, never felt like this before etc etc. Seems v soon.
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Keeps a list on his phone of all the women he's slept with.
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Told me an ex he was with 15 years ago or so once called the Police on him during an argument. Said he pulled a fireplace off the wall??
He cried last night when I said I wanted to finish things and it shouldn't be this hard 3 months on. He would be, in his words, absolutely devastated, and practically begged me not to leave him.
SO....AIBU and reading too much into this for what is otherwise a good relationship or should I follow my instinct and accept these are red flags??
YABU - Give him a shot, you're overthinking
YANBU - Run.