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To be taken aback by this request in Asda

276 replies

Anon133 · 13/01/2024 12:05

Hi everyone.

I’ve just come back from doing the weekly food shop at Asda and have been a bit taken aback by an incident.

Whilst scanning my packet of cereal bars with the Scan and Go handsets, a colleague doing some online told me that she needed them for her online order and I would have to give them back to her. I admit to being a bit taken aback by this request and told her ‘no,’ and speaking to the colleague in a short tone.

I now feel a bit guilty as that probably means someone at home, who may not be able to come into the shop has missed out.

YABU - I should’ve given them over.
YANBU - I was first to them and therefore should’ve kept them in my shop.

On a side note, does anyone else get fed up with the amount of online shoppers at busy times in the supermarket? There was at least 15 trolleys going round today whilst it was busy with regular customers, and not the first time.

OP posts:
ClimbingHydrangea · 13/01/2024 18:05

midnightfeastfeats · 13/01/2024 17:56

@SheFliesLikeABirdInTheSky

No it doesn't mean calling someone a liar or exaggerating. It means it's peaked and is now declining.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/jump-the-shark

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jump-the-shark

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_the_shark

I understand it to mean what @SheFliesLikeABirdInTheSky describes. Most other sources and articles I can see refers to it that way as well.

The Wikipedia article and urban dictionary you linked agrees with Sheflies

ThePoshUns · 13/01/2024 18:13

No way!
I'd have told her to get lost as well.

ThePoshUns · 13/01/2024 18:14

And I was shopping in store today and an online picker was taking ages and in the way of what I wanted. So annoying.

ilovebreadsauce · 13/01/2024 18:16

Yabu! They belong to ASDA not you until you have paid for them! They are not obliged to sell them to you! Sorry bit you are the CF of this piece!

Diamondcurtains · 13/01/2024 18:21

HanarCantWearSweaters · 13/01/2024 12:09

Obviously you’re not unreasonable a to the bars, but to your aside — if those people were shopping for themselves with their 15 carts you’d be okay with it? It’s just that they’re getting someone else to do it you don’t like? They’re paying the same as you. You’re not better than then because you’re in the shop yourself.

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TheLogicalSong · 13/01/2024 18:23

First come, first served. As a customer, you wouldn't ask another customer to give you the last pack of cereal bars if they were putting them into their trolley.

penjil · 13/01/2024 18:35

Don't feel bad about that, FFS! 😂

HanarCantWearSweaters · 13/01/2024 18:46

Diamondcurtains · 13/01/2024 18:21

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Edited

Did I read the post? Yes. Did you? Wink

marshmallowfinder · 13/01/2024 18:51

Exasperatednow · 13/01/2024 14:52

Why can't picking be either done at a different time or in a warehouse?

It's nothing to do with online vs in person shopping, it's one set of customers being inconvenienced. It's hugely inconvenient not being to actually reach any shelves in an aisle because its stacked up with pickers.

I explained this further back in the thread, but we start frozen and ambient crates at midnight. The sheer volume of orders means we're still picking the last routes after the shop has opened. We can't start any earlier for chilled, fruit, veg and bread as we rely on the overnight deliveries to replenish the shelves, so we can then pick. These usually come in at 3/4am. We do as much as we can before the shop opens but it takes the time it takes to get through all the orders, pick correctly at the pick rate we're meant to achieve and have the orders ready promptly for the drivers.

The 'warehouse' doesn't exist for our shop.

Soubriquet · 13/01/2024 19:04

I used to be an online shopper for Sainsburys. We would start at 4am and finish at 8am sometimes 9am.

In busy periods it wasn’t unheard of 2am starts or even midnight starts. The shop didnt open till 7.30 so we had plenty of time to shop alone.

We had a target of 165 iph and that’s pretty easy to get when the shop is closed.

If a customer is reaching for a product, that’s it you go and find a sub

If you get under that for the week, you do get reprimanded. I miss it though. Would put my headphones in, put what music I wanted on and just shop.

funinthesun19 · 13/01/2024 19:11

I now feel a bit guilty as that probably means someone at home, who may not be able to come into the shop has missed out.

No don’t feel guilty. It’s not your fault or your problem if someone has missed out on their cereal bars. It’s Asda’s fault.

2024please · 13/01/2024 19:12

Heather37231 · 13/01/2024 12:51

No it was really confusing the post because my first reading was that both OP and the person picking worked in the store and knew each other. I thought OP was doing her own shopping after her shift, say, and the “colleague” was trying to use their relationship to convince her to give up the cereal bars

This.

BoohooWoohoo · 13/01/2024 20:30

I now feel a bit guilty as that probably means someone at home, who may not be able to come into the shop has missed out.

The online shopper doesn’t know that they missed out by a few seconds. For all they know, their order was picked before the person who stocks that aisle started work

CaramelMac · 14/01/2024 18:32

Why on earth would you feel bad that someone else didn’t get their cereal bars, it’s not bloody insulin! That’s the risk you take with online shopping.

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 14/01/2024 18:34

Bollocks to that. The online shopper would get a substitute for the same price. So, if they found more expensive cereal bars as a substitute, the online shopper would not be out of pocket, but if you had given them back and found a more expensive substitute, you would have been out of pocket.

CaramelMac · 14/01/2024 18:35

ilovebreadsauce · 13/01/2024 18:16

Yabu! They belong to ASDA not you until you have paid for them! They are not obliged to sell them to you! Sorry bit you are the CF of this piece!

Are you on glue?

neighboursmustliveon · 14/01/2024 18:39

I shop for deliver so rarely in the shop and so I have never seen the people who pick online orders.

As someone who does online shopping, you should of course get the item. You picked it up first so it’s yours! The online can get a substitute which might actually be more expensive so might be why the picker wasn’t happy. That’s not your issue though.

You have reminded me to go out my order in for this week to secure my slot!

GirlWithTheRedScarf · 14/01/2024 18:39

You did the right thing 🙂 anyone else a tad interested in what cereal bar it was? 😂

Jeannie88 · 14/01/2024 18:47

You were first so the VR shopper as such was behind you and when u shop online u do expect some items can't be added. The cereal bars don't seen to be a top priority item like painkillers and they will have a substitute so nah don't feel bad. X

TheFifthTellytubby · 14/01/2024 19:28

Heather37231 · 13/01/2024 12:51

No it was really confusing the post because my first reading was that both OP and the person picking worked in the store and knew each other. I thought OP was doing her own shopping after her shift, say, and the “colleague” was trying to use their relationship to convince her to give up the cereal bars

I agree - I found this post really confusing and at first assumed that the OP is employed by Asda and was shopping there outside their own working hours. Regardless of what Asda calls their employees, they are not our colleagues! Any more than IKEA staff are our "coworkers"!

celticprincess · 14/01/2024 19:47

I wonder if some of these are for click and collect rather than online delivery. Out sainsburys doesn’t have the facility for click and collect and I’ve noticed when I’ve done a delivery it’s come from a different store. I’ve never seen these pickers in my local store. I usually shop after dropping kids at school o my day off (Friday) and it’s really quiet.

OnlyOpenMouthToChangeFeet · 14/01/2024 19:47

ClimbingHydrangea · 13/01/2024 12:13

YANBU - online customers do not trump in store customers.

I am also fed up of online shopping pickers at peak times. I understand they need to do it but they have these massive trolleys that block aisles that they can’t steer. The same woman hit me 3 times on one shop with one. In the end I shoved it back at her and she got the message. Shops should have warehouse hubs for online orders to be picked from.

One of the reasons I love Ocado, but sadly can't afford them anymore. 😭

They also rarely have substitutions, and when they do it's something sensible!

ejm05 · 14/01/2024 20:14

People do their shopping online for many reasons, not just ‘laziness’

T1Dmama · 14/01/2024 20:57

I probably would’ve given her them … but then I’m a bit of a push over!