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Sick of Dds teacher

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Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 15:10

Dd is 5 and in Pre school (we’re abroad)
She started to not want to go in, in October, she said the teacher was shouting at the children for not doing the work properly etc (I posted on here) I went in several times, plus Dh too.
The teacher said she didn’t shout etc etc, things got better.
This week, she’s been crying again at bedtime and this morning was crying not to go in again, I ended up getting out of her (eventually) that the teacher has been shouting at her (and others) if she puts her name in the wrong place on the paper 🤷🏻‍♀️apparently she shouts ‘Not there, over here!’
Dd was also upset as she says one of the boys in her class (one of her friends) is always shouted at to sit still and stop playing. I’ve seen this boy, he’s very sweet, but younger and obviously full of energy. I understand he has to learn to try to sit and not play during lessons and so on, but Dd says he cries and cries and his face goes red.
So sick and tired of going in to complain and nothing being done.
Dd finishes with this teacher at the end of June, but we want to stay in the school and have to re register to move up to the next part of school. I don’t want to take her out and put the chance of this in jeopardy, but equally I can’t put my Dd in this situation all the time.
This is not merely a teacher bashing thread, I’m a teacher myself and would
never get cross and shout it a 5 year old put their name in the *Wrong place on a paper!
What else can I do? I also need to work part time, so need to have Dd in Pre school
She adores her friends there, is very well liked, loves the teaching assistant, who she says is *Kind to her 😔

OP posts:
doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:59

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:56

@doublexegg it's about you not liking teachers.....

Why would you allow them to be in charge of your children?

My children had fab teachers really nice ones had the odd one but nothing out of control.
But i did say I not my children or we i said I.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:01

@doublexegg so why don't you like teachers then? Your children had nice ones?

Your last post is hard to remember understand though.

Theunamedcat · 12/01/2024 21:03

Nonomono · 12/01/2024 17:12

Why would a few bad ones colour your view for an entire group of people.

I’ve met awful teachers, police officers, SAHP, cleaners and builders - I don’t judge the entire workforce on something that a few of them have done.

What a prejudice mindset you have.

What job do you do?

None of your business

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:06

@Theunamedcat is that a name change fail for @doublexegg?

Mimami · 12/01/2024 21:06

Just give the XX 🥚 a break! Maybe they had a bad experience when they were at school, who cares! Did we find out what country the OP is in? Maybe don't live there is you don't think the culture is suitable for your child?

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:09

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:01

@doublexegg so why don't you like teachers then? Your children had nice ones?

Your last post is hard to remember understand though.

I did say i dont like them i did not say I hate them.
Some teachers are wonderful some not so much.
Some shout to much when there is no need but i understand that having a class of 25-27 kids is not easy at all.
its just my choice i cant like everyone i dont like the police either but i dont hate them.
Like i said above i dont like brad pit but i like his films.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:09

Mimami · 12/01/2024 21:06

Just give the XX 🥚 a break! Maybe they had a bad experience when they were at school, who cares! Did we find out what country the OP is in? Maybe don't live there is you don't think the culture is suitable for your child?

Sorry but a sweeping generalisation of a complete set of people based on their career, hobby, race, ethnicity I will challenge....

All day every day!

Do you think it's right???

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:10

@doublexegg so do you not like all teachers or some...?

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:11

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:06

@Theunamedcat is that a name change fail for @doublexegg?

No doublexegg is my user name ive never changed it.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:11

@doublexegg I don't like Brad Pitt but o like his films, is not in the same category as I don't like teachers..

🤦‍♀️

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:15

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:10

@doublexegg so do you not like all teachers or some...?

Just the ones that bullied me because i lost my leg and 3 fingers &other things long story.
But i know full well not all are the same.

Dontbehorridhenry · 12/01/2024 21:16

Oh for God sake, if she wants to say I don't like teachers let her, it really doesn't matter. People don't say things perfectly all the time.

I can't see that opinion catching on anyway.

I don't like people that work in the post office, every one I go in they are really rude and snappy. But I can totally see why now! I digress.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:17

@doublexegg so you don't dislike teachers, you dislike the ones that were unkind to you?

A whole difference...

I hope the one you experienced were prosecuted, but don't tar them all with the same brush!

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:20

Dontbehorridhenry · 12/01/2024 21:16

Oh for God sake, if she wants to say I don't like teachers let her, it really doesn't matter. People don't say things perfectly all the time.

I can't see that opinion catching on anyway.

I don't like people that work in the post office, every one I go in they are really rude and snappy. But I can totally see why now! I digress.

Would you say the same if she said "I don't like "ethnic minority"?

It's wrong and that's it!

VenhamousSnake · 12/01/2024 21:21

Is the teacher actually shouting, or does your DD just perceive her as shouting? I say this because my friend's 7yo, if told off for something or if his mum has to repeatedly ask him time and time again to do something and ends up using a firm tone, will cry and say "stop shouting at me!". His mum isn't shouting, he just doesn't like being told off, and interprets firmness and being stuff like "told brush your teeth now I won't ask you again" as shouting.

This, a lot of children these days aren't used to be spoken to in a firm, no nonsense tone and describe it as "shouting". Lots of kids these days aren't used to expectation that they'll obey instructions, and don't seem to recognise that the teacher is in charge, and are frankly bewildered when the teacher questions why they aren't doing as they've been told.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:22

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:20

Would you say the same if she said "I don't like "ethnic minority"?

It's wrong and that's it!

Are you a teacher ?

Teacherprebaby · 12/01/2024 21:23

Erm...maybe meet more. 'I don't like teachers'. Wtf

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:24

@doublexegg nope, but if you said the same about my career choice, I'd be furious!

As I said I say the same about the inane "I don't like cyclists" posts!

Stupid!

Teacherprebaby · 12/01/2024 21:24

I take back my comment. That sounds horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

BombaySamphire · 12/01/2024 21:24

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 15:46

I dont like teachers.
But what i dont understand is that a teacher can get a way with shouting but a parent is called abusive if they shout at their children.
So why is it to be accepted at a school by a stranger.

Strange post.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:26

Teacherprebaby · 12/01/2024 21:23

Erm...maybe meet more. 'I don't like teachers'. Wtf

Grow up one comment and all this really look at your selfs your all acting like its a popularity contest.
I dont like ice cream either.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:27

Teacherprebaby · 12/01/2024 21:24

I take back my comment. That sounds horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

No worries thank you.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:30

@doublexegg you grow up and stop deciding that a whole group of people doing an extremely valuable job are all disliked!

That's ridiculous!

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 21:31

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 21:17

@doublexegg so you don't dislike teachers, you dislike the ones that were unkind to you?

A whole difference...

I hope the one you experienced were prosecuted, but don't tar them all with the same brush!

One was fired as i said i dont see all teachers the same.
I could have worded it better but not everyone does perfect typing.

AitkenDrum1970 · 12/01/2024 21:32

I’m not even reading the OP or the thread, just want the OP to be aware how anxious just reading the thread title makes me feel as a teacher, even though I have no reason to be! So fed up with my profession being slated - we are all doing the best we can