To not expect DH to sleep so long on night shift?

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DH started a night job 3 months ago; working 10pm-6am Sunday to Thursday.
I knew it wouldn't be easy to adjust but he is literally in bed 7am-8.30om and it's driving me mad.

I work full time during day and am literally having to do everything else regarding house, kids etc. it's really oissing me off as he sleeps/works during week and then does very little at weekend. I've said if he can't get into some sort of routine he needs to look at other options as I can't cope with this situation long term

I worked nights for many years on a rotating pattern. Most people treat nights like a normal day so they will get up, eat then go to work, come home and stay up doing normal after work stuff like housework, shopping etc, then go to bed a few hours later. If I was him I would be staying up until midday, sleeping until 6 or 7, making dinner (for the family) then getting a nap for an hour or 2 directly before work.
Nights are hard on the body and they don’t suit everyone. It’s easier to be full time nights than to do part time nights. In my old job by the time you reached your 40s it started to take a toll physically and people would move to a job with normal hours.
Sleep hygiene needs to be very good to get quality sleep. No phones or tv in bed, earplugs in and make room pitch black. Wind down before bed like it’s night time.

Nights are tough, I do 12 hour shifts 8pm to 8am. I get home about 8.30am shower, eat and aim to get to sleep for about 10am, get 8 hours sleep and get up at about 6pm to have time to eat, etc. then I set off to work at 7.15pm. There's not much time for anything other than putting a wash on, making food and loading the dishwasher. 8hours is not enough sleep during the day whereas it would be at night. I get paid exactly the same rate as days, which sucks and reading this thread makes me realise that I need a new job. I'm messing with my health for no benefit to me.

I work 12hr nightshifts and don't sleep anywhere near that between shifts

It's funny how it's always, always men that just have to sleep so much when working nightshift to the extent they have pretty much opted out of family life. Ridiculous & not ok.
I work night shifts, I don't sleep the day I start my night shift, then get home in AM about half 7, tidy house,prep dinner, put wash on, get child to school, bed at 0830, up around 3-4, shower., spend time with kids & partner when he gets in at 5, have dinner then out the door at 2000.
Sleeping for 13 hours is absolutely taking the piss.

I used to work nights sometimes (albeit rarely) and when I spoke to colleagues about it I realised that there is a way to do it badly. I used to rush home from work and try to go to sleep but it was hard as it was morning and this is typically when the circadian rhythms are waking us up. Someone I worked with used to finish work then spend a few hours relaxing, watching tv or having an evening after work (but in the morning) before going to bed around midday and sleeping until the early evening when he would go back to work. In theory your DH could do the morning shift with the kids and then go to bed.

Does your DH use an eye mask, white noise, earplugs etc to help him sleep during the day? Also, is he using caffeine or other stimulants to stay awake that are affecting his sleep?

This.