Nursery: Christmas jumper

[Ny24]

AIBU?

So my DC is 2 yrs old and in Nov/Dec got a heap of Christmassy type clothes. Some very obviously Christmas (Santa jumper), some more fair isle type stuff. I bought quite alot of things and so did family - e.g my Mum bought 3 jumpers etc etc. So there is genuinely a lot of it but it all got worn from end of Nov through to New Year but obviously still in very good condition.

Some of the stuff I bought was really lovely and not that cheap - it was from John Lewis and JoJo etc but for me, I always think well lovely clothes for pics over the Christmas period and then it's stuff that can be worn for nursery till it gets wrecked/no longer fits.

So this morning did drop off at nursery and the staff member made a point of saying 'oh a Christmas jumper' quite disparagingly..... to be honest the jumper they went in with today wasn't 'that Christmassy' - it was a red fair isle jumper with small robins on it. But I do fully intend to send DC in with their Santa jumper in the coming weeks.

To be honest, I don't really care - given the tatt and thread bare leggings and stained tops I see other kids sent in wearing, a child going in wearing a lovely warm, clean, non-stained, albeit 'Santa' jumper isn't something I'm going to lose sleep over. It's nursery - clothes get wrecked. They fit. They're good quality - they can be worn for nursery until the weather gets warmer is my attitude. I'm not judging the monstrosity of outfits I see other people sending their kids in because I completely get it - it's nursery - and everything comes home with paint and tomato sauce and glitter all over it.

But I just wondered is this an eye rolling what the hell is that mother playing at - type of thing? Or would most of you just think the same - clearly got a lot of Christmas clothes, it's nursery, the child is 2yrs old - of course it makes sense for the child to wear them?

Or would you be secretly judging me thinking I'm very unreasonable? I'm genuinely planning on my DC getting full use out of these clothes for nursery till March! So be honest - I want to know what I'm up against! Haha.

I said I'd maybe wonder. OP has said she will be putting the santa jumper on in the coming weeks. So yeah if I seen a child in February in a santa jumper I'd think awww I hope it's just a case of them using up any clothes rather than not affording clothes as I'd hate to think of someone struggling.

Just dress your child as you like and don't worry what others may think, no big deal. I am sure they are not still thinking about it

Exactly! The fair isle isn’t a Christmas sweater!

How is it judgy when I've seen a family put their baby in Halloween clothes all year round because they were taking whatever they could get from people as they couldn't afford to buy anything they were really struggling. I was heartbroken for them and anonymously donated some vouchers for them to get some food. Ok but I'm judgy. Cheers.

It does sound judgy to say it to someone.

OP has said she doesn’t care about the monstrosities people send their kids in because they get dirty and paint-splodged.

She’s not TELLING people they’re wearing monstrosities.

Nice drip feed.

We are still wearing Xmas clothes here as it’s still Christmas.

We will stop with ours next week, some will
still fit next year as I buy big and those that won’t I pass on to a friend with younger daughter. I’ve already bought new things in the sale for next year.

We do Xmas pyjamas all year until they are too small or worn out though.

DD is 4 and has opinions on what she wears now - so there’s no way she’d wear an Xmas jumper in March! She is already excited about Easter 🐣.

Oh I was supposed to say all that in my first comment was I? Honestly grow up.

A baby dressed entirely in Halloween clothes all year round is the oddest thing I've read today. It sounds incredibly implausible when baby clothes are literally given away for free all the time and surely those giving to this couple didn't only have Halloween clothes to gift.

I have a photo of my youngest in a glittery Rudolph t shirt on the beach in July, perfectly acceptable

I think this is a lesson in not buying so much?

I've no idea what her problem is, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

I let mine wear them as long as they fit/want. My youngest was still wearing her Santa print joggers in March 😂

I think you're reading a LOT into the nursery worker's tone tbh and maybe seeing something that's not there, especially as you seem to be quite conscious of how other parents dress their kids for nursery so maybe a bit sensitive to it all? I can't really remember taking that much notice of what other kids were wearing when mine went!

Yes, if you don’t want confusion. Get a grip.

And weird that the Halloween clothes fit the baby all year.

I do notice what other kids are wearing to some extent - never said I didn't. What I'm saying is - I get it. I wouldn't expect 2yrs olds to be sent into nursery wearing £30 jumpers that will b stained and wrecked in a day. The kids do turn up wearing tatt, and hand me downs, free stuff from facebook, they go in with clean but stained clothes etc and I totally and utterly understand why and do likewise.

What I'm trying to put across is that - if that isn't met with a disparaging remark then why would a perfectly new, clean and actually some fairly expensive type clothes be - just because they have a Santa on them and aren't 'in fashion' so to speak in January.

That's not me being judgemental towards other parents it's me drawing a parallel between legitimate outfit choices for nursery clothes that do quickly get ruined. Why is it perfectly acceptable to send a child into nursery with a hole in their leggings but not send a child in because their leggings have a snowman pattern on them - is what I'm getting at.

I personally wouldn’t put them in a Santa or obviously Christmas one past Jan 1st, unless they insisted. I think festive colours and snowflakes, penguins, polar bears etc are fine for Jan though - even Feb. But this is why I only get mine one Christmas jumper each year and politely ask my mum and MIL not to buy more than one as I hate the waste tbh.

Do you tend to overthink this much in general?

as if so might be worth booking an appt with your GP

My DS is wearing a Halloween t shirt today and wore a t shirt with the Easter bunny on yesterday!

Lol 😂

Did you mean to post on the Facebook deletion thread? 🤣

I always used Xmas clothes/slightly stained/visibly sewn tears clothes as their "spare" set, that way the kid was a visible reminder to dig out and wash the pissy/painty clothes and put more spares in the bag!😁

Yanbu, kids are still hyped about it being Christmas/New Year, nursery kids in particular wear "inappropriate" clothes by choice all the time. My sister wore the same (increasingly battered) Po dress up set to playschool every day!

My DS (5) often wears Christmas or Halloween clothes all year round. He likes them & wants to wear them. How is him wearing a Santa Jaws top in July affecting anyone else?
Does he have other clothes? Yes, but he's an individual & can wear what he likes when not at school.
And his Halloween Zombie Sausage Dog leggings are amazing! Just as much as his Punky Mammoth ones are 🤷‍♀️

Was it really judgement or just surprise at 'out of season' clothing?

I've this morning put lots of Christmas outfits in DS nursery bag as spares, and his halloween jumpers get bunged in there too. Just because it says 'Baby Boo' or has rudolph on it doesn't make it a perfectly acceptable jumper for the whole of winter.

But I'd probably just have said 'yep getting my money's worth out of these clothes, have a good day DS' and carried on.

I think you’re being unreasonable for being so judgmental of what other people send their kids in (even though you say you’re not, you wouldn’t have even mentioned it in the post if you weren’t being judgemental).

I personally wouldn’t send my kid to nursery in Christmas clothing after Christmas. My DS1’s Christmas clothes has been put away for his younger brother to wear, DS2’s Christmas clothes is going on Vinted/marketplace when I get a chance. But then i don’t send them to nursery in expensive Jojo/john Lewis clothing either.