I’m very very ready for my young adult children to go home now ?

[Goldypants]

Case for the prosecution:

1. LUNCH. My GOD JUST HAVE A SANDWICH. Why can’t young people eat lunch food? Not pasta or bagels or cooked this or that
2. Inability to take the bins out
3. work calls that take up a whole room
4. GLASSES everywhere

I love them obviously. But they can go home now.

(They are any day )

Yep my teens can’t eat a sandwich for lunch either. Always pasta or stuff which requires a few pans

how old are they?

Yes! Food is such a huge issue, every meal has to be something really nice, not just a simple sandwich. Perhaps a club sandwich with multiple fillings snd crisps on the side might suffice, but nothing less. 😂

I removed five glasses from DS’s room yesterday, plus two plates.

To be fair I’m 43 and I don’t like sandwiches for lunch, I’ll usually do some sort of jacket potato or pasta thing. But I relate to the rest. Dd is 20 and here home from university and I love her to bits but omg I miss having my own space. I’m sure she feels the same…! She’s here for another 2 weeks.

Early 20s

I think when you go back to your parents house, you revert to a kind of hybrid teenager/, adult and things you easily do at your own place you presume someone else is going to do

where do they usually live?

@rochethenut I’m not going to tell you that

With you, OP.

Not only cooked lunches every single day but using the most expensive, organic, unheard-of ingredients, more pans than a four-course dinner, not washing up afterwards until it suits them (like when I have to yell that there's nothing available to cook the dinner in) and worst of all, never offering any of it to their mum!

Also cups and glasses all over the place.

At least yours have somewhere to return to - mine had to give up their flat and are back for an indeterminate time. Hope they don't get too comfortable...

One positive is that DD (18) really appreciates home cooking after her first term at uni. She’s mentioned it several times.

Oh, I’ve done the between flats thing. Jesus.

Irritating, but if you don't want to tell them to F* off home, breathe deeply and be thankful they don't live with you full time.
Although maybe more insistence on bins outside/preparing and clearing up after own lunch and they'd disappear sharpish anyway.

I miss mine. They're weird about lunch, but they cook their own, sort pans and dishes, help with cooking and tidy up their own stuff. That includes their partners, I'm very lucky.

What I do like is the quiet - my house is too small for a total of 8 people for longer than a few days.

I laughed out loud at the lunch thing, mine also has to make something elaborate.

Mines back from uni and it's lovely to see him but yup, always cooking and he likes to listen to stuff when he's working where I prefer silence 🤣

Yes it’s okay for the first few days but now it’s just getting a bit boring and there’s no point because they’re off soon.

It’s a weird thing of wanting to care for them but also wanting them to pull their finger out. Can’t moan about everything. It’s only just a few joking gripes

im sure I did the same to my parents

Mines back from Uni, love having him back but looking forward even more to him heading back this weekend. It's such a weird dynamic now

Three of mine are now working and so trying to find somewhere for them to do conference calls for this last Couple of days has been tricky.

They usually would’ve gone home by now but they have to do something tomorrow in the area so they are still here

Suddenly feeling relieved that mine ‘can’t’ cook and just have cereal or noodles.

I hear you.
Chicken and rice this, tuna and pasta that.
What's wrong with a bit of cheese on toast?
I just cooked for 4 of us, but 2 sons want to eat later ( after the gym obvs) so DH and I have had tiny portions to make sure there's enough left for them.
When they're both moved out I'm back on the Hello Fresh

I just said to my husband, just think in two weeks time they’ll be just us and it’ll be all calm and we won’t have to eat so much food

as of Saturday, I’m going down from five people here to just me for one long blissful week

I think the PP just meant do they usually live alone, in a flat share, with a partner, at uni etc just to get some context. They didn’t want their post code or anything.

OH THE GYM

lol oh right.
one is here with his fiance we adore from London

the other one a city nearby - working
last is a student

My 20 year old is bored. And he doesn’t like the way I cook vegetables. And can we please give him notice if anyone is having friends over? And can he have a lift? A lift now, no in 20 minutes, just in an hour…..? And can we buy this special food?

And did I tell you he is bored because the weather is rubbish? I have NO IDEA how hard his course is. I have NO IDEA. I am an academic. I keep trying to send him to the pub 🤣🤣

I love him. But this Christmas after his first year living in a flat with friends has been a challenge. I am not sure why he is still here. I suspect it is related to the stocked refrigerator.