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To not understand why we aren't having a baby? What other tests can I do?

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 07:59

I'm 29, DH is 30. AMH 17. Had ultrasound on uterus and ovaries, confirmed all fine, high follicle count, no issues found anywhere. Had hycosy - no issues. Semen analysis results above average (317m sperm count, 7% morphology, 62% progressive motility). Both taking supplements (pregnacare, CoQ10, omega 3 for me). We have a DC who is nearly 2. Trying for 9mo. I'm a healthy weight (59kg, 170cm)

I'm willing to have any other tests possible. What else should I investigate? What could possibly be wrong?

I had a v delivery but with the use of a ventouse suction cup and forceps. I remember being quite bruised down there afterwards. Could any damage have been done during the birth or delivery?

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StaySpicy · 02/01/2024 08:21

9 months may seem like a lifetime but sometimes it just does take longer. I think the percentage is only around 20% of 30 year olds get pregnant each month by having sex during their fertile period. Tracking ovulation may help you focus your efforts, as it were, or just make sure you're having sex every other day or two.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 02/01/2024 08:24

9 months is not that long.

pinkdelight · 02/01/2024 08:27

9months isn't so long and you started ttc only a year or so after giving birth. You know that you're both fertile and able to have dc together plus you're both still young enough for no ticking time bombs. Try to take the pressure off, enjoy DC1 and let things happen in their own time.

anothernamechangeagainsndagain · 02/01/2024 08:28

I would make sure you don't just concentrate your "efforts" on certain days of the cycle, biology is not that precise, I got pregnant on the last day of my period! (Only time it could have happened!!!)

Mothership4two · 02/01/2024 08:34

Second what other posters have said about it only being 9 months and that you are young.

We had a honeymoon baby and then were taken aback how long it took for me to get pregnant again. After a couple of years our fertility was being looked into due to this delay. In the meantime I started accupuncture and bingo within two months I was pregnant. Who knows if it was due to this or would it have happened naturally? But I would do it again in same circumstances.

K37529 · 02/01/2024 08:36

It sounds like your stressing to much about it. It took me over a year to get pregnant with my first. The month I got pregnant I had a night out planned around ovulation so I just kind of wrote that month off and figured wed just try again next month. I think going out and enjoying myself and not obsessing over ovulation dates etc that month helped me get pregnant. Just try and relax (easier said than done I know) but it will happen, you've already had a baby so you know you can get pregnant and all your tests of come back fine

Didimum · 02/01/2024 08:36

9 months isn’t that long, though I appreciate in the TTC headspace it’s forever.

How are you tracking your cycles?

Westernesse · 02/01/2024 08:37

You know you can conceive and there is no issue. 9 months isn’t very long at all, especially as you already have a very young child.

shag every day for a month and I bet you’ll be fine.

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:38

Didimum · 02/01/2024 08:36

9 months isn’t that long, though I appreciate in the TTC headspace it’s forever.

How are you tracking your cycles?

Ovulation sticks and I also get some ovulation pain

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PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 02/01/2024 08:39

9 months is nothing. How come you’ve had semen analysis etc when you’ve only been trying for 9 months and you already have a young child?

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:40

K37529 · 02/01/2024 08:36

It sounds like your stressing to much about it. It took me over a year to get pregnant with my first. The month I got pregnant I had a night out planned around ovulation so I just kind of wrote that month off and figured wed just try again next month. I think going out and enjoying myself and not obsessing over ovulation dates etc that month helped me get pregnant. Just try and relax (easier said than done I know) but it will happen, you've already had a baby so you know you can get pregnant and all your tests of come back fine

Honestly I've tried so hard not to obsess :( I also just feel so bad for it - DH took me away on holiday for NYE / the last week of the TWW to take my mind off it. I'm in a wonderful snowy place and should be enjoying it but all I can think about is ovulation and periods.

Other months we've also tried holidays, having friends from abroad over, going to see my family, fun days out as a family where we live, me helping out a friend on her business etc

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43ontherocksporfavor · 02/01/2024 08:40

You sound stressed about it . Easy to say but maybe forget trying so hard for a while .

Luxell934 · 02/01/2024 08:41

You already have a child so you know it’s possibe for you to get pregnant that’s a positive sign. 9 months of trying is really no time at all. You could easily try for another year and then get pregnant without needing any further tests.

Westernesse · 02/01/2024 08:41

People tend to go and bullshit the GP and claim they have been trying for longer. And at the same time aren’t keen on shagging more than twice a month around their ovulation period.

AgeGapBbe · 02/01/2024 08:41

Have you read It Starts With The Egg? I read it, followed it and 3/4 months later got pregnant after nearly 2 years of trying.

43ontherocksporfavor · 02/01/2024 08:43

Definitely think stress is a major factor. Both times I’ve been pregnant, wasn’t trying. Not sure how you can relax but try to focus all your effort on that instead of babies. Acupuncture, massage, yoga, meditation etc

SmileyClare · 02/01/2024 08:44

It takes around 18 months for your body to fully recover from a pregnancy.

A forceps delivery will not cause infertility so stop panicking about that.

It can take a year or more to conceive- that’s quite normal.

heartofglass23 · 02/01/2024 08:48

Are you having piv sex every 3 days from 7 days pre ovulation to 7 days post ovulation with no ejaculations in between?

Also are you having orgasms every time and staying lying on your back with your legs up for half an hour after wards every time?

Assume both non smokers?

No tight underwear?

Are both your diets good? No alcohol / caffeine/ trans fats/ refined sugars/ fizzy drinks/ UHP?

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:48

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 02/01/2024 08:39

9 months is nothing. How come you’ve had semen analysis etc when you’ve only been trying for 9 months and you already have a young child?

Because I was expecting it to happen immediately and I guess and after 3 months panicked and sent my DH for semen analysis, had tests myself and also started CoQ10 for both my husband and I

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Emmacb82 · 02/01/2024 08:50

It took me nearly 2 years to conceive my second and I was older than you. I thought I would be more relaxed second time round as I already had a child but actually I was worse. However much you think you are relaxed about it, all the time you are tracking cycles, having planned sex etc you are adding more pressure to it. It is such a cliche but the first month I gave up ovulation sticks and just had sex for fun I fell pregnant. So my advice would be to ditch the sticks and the tracking for a while and just have regular sex. 9 months isn’t long in terms of ttc so try not to put so much pressure on yourself thinking it should have happened by now.

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:51

heartofglass23 · 02/01/2024 08:48

Are you having piv sex every 3 days from 7 days pre ovulation to 7 days post ovulation with no ejaculations in between?

Also are you having orgasms every time and staying lying on your back with your legs up for half an hour after wards every time?

Assume both non smokers?

No tight underwear?

Are both your diets good? No alcohol / caffeine/ trans fats/ refined sugars/ fizzy drinks/ UHP?

Are you having piv sex every 3 days from 7 days pre ovulation to 7 days post ovulation with no ejaculations in between?
Doc said every other day all month so we are going every other day all month (except the first 4days of my period)

Also are you having orgasms every time and staying lying on your back with your legs up for half an hour after wards every time?
Yes to lying on my back.
I have never orgasmed with any partner, literally cannot, have tried a lot of things but it doesn't happen

Assume both non smokers?
Yes

No tight underwear?
Yes (as in none)

Are both your diets good? No alcohol / caffeine/ trans fats/ refined sugars/ fizzy drinks/ UHP?
Home cooked meals pretty much from scratch daily. DH has 1 coffee per day. I have none.

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Luxell934 · 02/01/2024 08:52

scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:48

Because I was expecting it to happen immediately and I guess and after 3 months panicked and sent my DH for semen analysis, had tests myself and also started CoQ10 for both my husband and I

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Why on earth would you expect it to happen immediately?

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scndrinfrtlt · 02/01/2024 08:52

@Luxell934 because it did first time around so naturally that was my only experience = my expectation

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SmileyClare · 02/01/2024 08:52

Most gps will not undertake any fertility tests until you’ve been trying to conceive for at least a year.

If you’re paying privately, I’d advise you to save your money, stop buying diagnostic aids and relax- have some patience.

You're only in your 20’s- there’s no rush is there? X

43ontherocksporfavor · 02/01/2024 08:54

@heartofglass23 i didn’t do any of that.
Are you taking folic acid? D3?

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