To be annoyed in laws ruined NY fireworks AGAIN!

[Baulin]

So every New Year’s Eve we go to my in laws and have a small get together. However every time the London fireworks start, since the first commentary in 2021, I have to endure a massive rant and rave about left wing agenda which completely ruins the atmosphere of the night. I was dreading the fireworks display last night because I knew all I’d hear from the family is complaining and talking over the show. As soon as I heard the same sex marriage part I thought “oh god here we go” and then the homophobic whining started. I was fuming because it just ruins it for me. It’s as though they’re unable to dislike something without feeling the need to comment on it.

Does anyone else find this annoying from family and do you say anything or just let it go over your head?

I'm afraid I'd have to say something. Being very clear that whilst everyone is certainly entitled to their opinion, what theyre not entitled to is to voice them in other peoples homes, so could they please stop.

Have your own fireworks display. Then at least the bangs will drown out the bigotry.

Do they only do this during the fireworks? What about the rest of the evening/year.

I'm picturing them hearing the first bang then blurting it all out whilst the gongs go. 😄

I would find something else to do next year.

Don't go?

Are they bigoted the rest of the year? Because it seems weird that what they say during the specific 10 minutes or so of fireworks once a year is what bugs you

Why do you go???

Just don't go?

I honestly wouldn’t go next year, @Baulin. If you absolutely cannot avoid it, then maybe make a Fireworks Rant Bingo card, and see how quickly you can tick it all off - laughing at it might take a bit if the sting out of it, perhaps.

@Ewoklady Because we like to get out on New Year’s Eve and they put on a do. Next year I might suggest the pub.

I’m confused.

Is this some kind of fascist annual event? They bottle up their disgusting beliefs all year and then, on the stroke of midnight, it all comes pouring out?

If you're as lucky as I am, in a few years the eldest grandchild will politely and intelligently dismantle right wing views shared by in-laws over the festive period, and in-laws will be rendered speechless. Worth the wait.

@Baulin why put yourself in this position with them? you and your hubby should just do your own thing. hubby must be of like mind with in laws if he is accepting all this!

I don’t understand.

Do you mean they are normal all year and just cunts on NYE?

Or do you only see them once a year? In which case this needs reducing further…

Their house, their rules?

@cuddlebear No of course politics can come up at any time of year but I’d usually just sit in the other room but when it’s the main London fireworks I’m not going to just walk out.

So they are intolerable bastards all year long.

Yeah, I wouldn’t be seeing them at all. What’s your DH take on their nasty views? Does he join in/agree?

Even if he says nothing, that’s a kind of mute acceptance that would put me right off him.

Did you know what you were marrying into?

They were voicing them in their own home by the sounds of it. So maybe OP should be the one to go home?

OP, your ILs sound unpleasant. You can choose not to spend time with them.

Right. Then I wouldn’t be spending any time with them at all.

Is your DH homophobic too?

Really? Can't you watch the London fireworks without them? I'd rather put out my eyes than listen to that sort of shit, it doesn't sound a pay off I'd make.

@greencheetah DH isn’t homophobic or racist, no and there has been many instances where there’s been debates about those topics between him and his parents.

But at the end of the day his parents are his family and I can’t just say no to seeing them. Some of my family members are conservative too but are less vocal.

The talking and the music over the top of the fireworks annoys me - I don't want to hear any of it I just want to watch the fireworks.

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That's one of those occasions where I'd allow myself some almost-but-not-quite rude manners to deal with it, especially as the fireworks aren't long. I'd talk over them as soon as they started, as loudly as needed and wouldn't stop even if they carried on.

In-laws: <homophobic comment starts>..
You: "oh isn't that lovely, oh look at those orange ones, makes the London Eye look so pretty"
In-laws: <start again>
You: "wow, the crowd is huge this year, I don't think I'd want to do that, must be freezing, looks nice to be on the boats though, wonder how much they have to pay for a ticket on there"

I find raising the issue or arguing it with some people gets you nowhere, the only thing you can do is block it out nicely.

You're the one who keeps choosing to put yourself through this bullshit. Repeatedly.

Just stop it already.

I get really sad hearing intolerant opinions.
My MIL is massively right wing with very 'traditional' values.

We wouldn't choose to hang out in the evening together, but if she starts we have a united stonewall icy smile routine we both go in to.

Your in-laws are family, not friends. I don't understand what your question is really, either deal with it or don't go.
Don't fall out on an emotive day, if you need to say something, do it another time.

Stop going to NYE at his parents. It's not complicated.