To be annoyed in laws ruined NY fireworks AGAIN!

[Baulin]

So every New Year’s Eve we go to my in laws and have a small get together. However every time the London fireworks start, since the first commentary in 2021, I have to endure a massive rant and rave about left wing agenda which completely ruins the atmosphere of the night. I was dreading the fireworks display last night because I knew all I’d hear from the family is complaining and talking over the show. As soon as I heard the same sex marriage part I thought “oh god here we go” and then the homophobic whining started. I was fuming because it just ruins it for me. It’s as though they’re unable to dislike something without feeling the need to comment on it.

Does anyone else find this annoying from family and do you say anything or just let it go over your head?

Im not interested, stop trying so hard :)

Maybe just not see then on NYE maybe see the on NYD instead

Which means you have no arguments. After all, we can all make assumptions.

Turn the sound up? Or make loud firework noises.

I put uabu simply because you know they are racist and homophobic and yet you socialise with them. If you must be with them tell them to keep those views to themselves as you don’t want to hear it.

Time to change your habits. You don't really have to go to your in-laws every NYE. Make an excuse next year and offer up going to theirs or yours for an Easter get-together. When the same-old, same-old family get-together is not working, time to make changes. Family members do pick up on when other family members don't want to be there - and if questioned, be honest and say you want a chilled, non-ranting start to the new year, as lovely as they all are.

Solve all the issues by just watching jools Holland hootenanny! Don't have the fireworks on!

And lecturing people on what they choose to post and how is unattractive

oh dear.

Not least because your posts are long winded lectures about yourself.

bizzare.

Oh my god a “debate me bro” in real life!

No one cares. Your opinions are uninteresting and you are badly misinformed and undereducated. There’s no point in arguing with you or debating you any more than there is debating a chatbot.

@pikkumyy77 you do realise you are on a chat site don't you? Where people debate things.

Its not a debate site—its a chat site. Totally different vibe.

Also making fun of people like grammarnut and her massive, disembodied, floating, ego is a just one of those hazards of internet life that grammarnut should get used to.

Saying this is a chat site seems to imply you think it is just for trivial conversations, @pikkumyy77 - and I don’t think that is true. I think MN has a good mixture of threads from the most frivolous right through to the most serious - bereavement, SEN provision, Feminism and women’s rights, to name but a few.

Sure but sometimes you are at a hockey game, sometimes in a theater watching a play, and sometimes you are in a debate tournament.

A “debate me bro” is a specific type of person, male or female but usually male, who gets their jollies intruding into other’s social interactions and demanding that everyone stop what they are doing to engage in the Bro’s chosen debate topic. They set the rules if the debate and downrate or attack those who won’t play or who do not agree that they have won.

I chose to make fun of one, which is as legitimate a choice as either debate or chat. Its not either or, its and, also.

Fair point, @pikkumyy77 - apologies for not realising that’s what you were doing. I blame the brain fog.

No prob! This thread is long and complex. I was not as clear as I could have been.

@Baulin yes, you can say no to being with ...ist/...phobic people
It is easy.

And recent polling suggests that a good many of those who were in favour of leaving have changed their minds.

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