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To think there's too much left wing dissonance

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LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 00:19

Feminist but support women hating philosophies and cultures
LGBT friendly except for the L part
Want to make minorities feel safe except for the Jewish community
Believe in the NHS but go private when needed
Think we should continue atoning for colonialism but mention Germany and WW2 and its like....move on already
Hate unearned privilege but it's handy I'll be left a property
Applaud multiculturalism but seek out monoculturalism in my holidays
Avoid palm oil as it kills trees but I must have a Christmas tree
Eat vegan because factory farming is disgusting....except the stuff that goes into my rescue cat food
Believe women shouldn't kneel to the standards and demands of the patriarchy, but I still remove my body hair, its my choice after all

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Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 12:48

@Walkingwashingmachine

But I do hear that from the left eg Never kissed a Tory, Tory scum, Tory stealing from the poor, cruelty etc. The class-based attacks on the countryside. It seems more personal than it should be.

I agree and this is one of the reasons I have always struggled with Labour. Conservatives historically (not so much the present incumbents) have been more inclusive and open minded on this front.

The Labour Party has historically been quite closely linked with a certain strain of Protestant Christian doctrine which is quite dictatorial and sanctimonious and I think has never quite shaken this off.

For all that though I still think that the Left is sometimes held to unfairly unrealistic standards.

DialSquare · 31/12/2023 12:49

VanityDiesHard

"Who is 'forcing (women) to be described as something else'?"

Also VanityDiesHard

"I am also a cis woman, but I don't feel any particular connection to other cis women because we all have uterui."

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 12:50

DialSquare · 31/12/2023 12:49

VanityDiesHard

"Who is 'forcing (women) to be described as something else'?"

Also VanityDiesHard

"I am also a cis woman, but I don't feel any particular connection to other cis women because we all have uterui."

How are those two statements even remotely contradictory?

Alcyoneus · 31/12/2023 12:50

DialSquare · 31/12/2023 12:49

VanityDiesHard

"Who is 'forcing (women) to be described as something else'?"

Also VanityDiesHard

"I am also a cis woman, but I don't feel any particular connection to other cis women because we all have uterui."

Example of tying yourself up in knots to the point where you no longer know argument what your making.

Somatosensational · 31/12/2023 12:51

The NHS still needs to exist to ensure that people who can’t afford treatment can still have it (I can be one less on the waiting list and take less taxpayer funding by going private).

But in reality it doesn't work like that. There are only so many doctors, and most who work privately also work for the NHS. The more demand there is for private treatment, the less time there is for NHS treatment. So the idea that you're one less on the waiting list therefore you're somehow making it easier for those who have no option but the NHS doesn't hold up. All you're doing is using your wealth to jump the queue.

https://chpi.org.uk/blog/private-hospitals-have-no-doctors/

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 12:53

Alcyoneus · 31/12/2023 12:50

Example of tying yourself up in knots to the point where you no longer know argument what your making.

The only person tying themself in knots was the person who presented two non contradictory statements as a gotcha.

CurlewKate · 31/12/2023 12:54

Conservatives open minded and inclusive? The burning £20 notes in from of homeless people guys? The "step over the homeless on my way to the opera" man? The "obviously I don't know any working class people" PM? The "rohypnol's fine if you only use a little" Home Secretary? The "I Saw Three Ships Come Sailing I-not on my watch!" PM? The "no cartoons in a reception centre for child migrants" man? I could go on......

DialSquare · 31/12/2023 12:56

You are calling other women cis, therefore forcing a label other than women on them. Is that too hard for you to comprehend?

Tatumm · 31/12/2023 12:56

anothernamechangeagainsndagain · 31/12/2023 12:07

The problem is that with the issues you highlighted here there's distinct "sides" but also it's a matter of interpretation.

I support the rights of all people to practice their chosen religion freely but only to the point where it respects others to do the same, I respect the right of Israel to exist but equally I respect the rights of the Palestinians to live freely and safely too - unfortunately they contradict each other, me criticising the (over re)actions of Israel doesn't affect my views on Jews being able to practice their religion, I have Jewish friends, I can separate the actions of nation states from the normal people too.

As for the gender critical issue, I can respect the rights of women to have safe spaces, separate facilities and sports issues AND the rights of trans people to choose to live their lives how they choose, the two don't have to be either or

You are attempting to sound reasonable but I’m afraid your post annoyed me.

If you actually had Jewish friends you would know that Jewishness is an ethnicity, not just a religion. Jews can be atheists or practice other religions besides Judaism, but they remain ethnically Jewish and thus remain exposed to antisemitism. Since this conflict started, antisemitism has risen around the world, and Jewish people live with this, regardless of their views on Israel or the conflict.

Why is it that you ‘respect the rights of the Palestinians to live freely and safely,” - a statement of respect for humanity that the majority of us agree with.

And yet for Jewish people you “respect the right of Israel to exist.” Why are you reverting to this non-person centred language? Why not also be explicit that you respect the rights of Jewish people to live freely and safely too?” That’s what any reasonable person would like to see, regardless of whether they believe a nation state is the right solution to keep Jewish people safe or not. That is what we should be aiming for. The dialogue needs to stay solution focused.

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 31/12/2023 12:58

@VanityDiesHard than as a 'female'. That is offensive to me
Yeah, "female" I can't help but think /read that in a Martin from Friday Night Dinner voice 😁
"Are you bringing your female" 😁

ZebraDanios · 31/12/2023 12:59

phoenixrosehere · 31/12/2023 12:38

I think I understand what you’re saying.

If you’re someone who doesn’t try to do more than necessary or perceived as trying to be better than others, in other words, don’t change, you’re given some leeway but if you’re someone who’s trying to be or do better, it tends to upset others and they are more likely to point out your failures and deem you a hypocrite if you make a misstep?

Yes exactly. I guess it’s a human trait to be irked by hypocrisy, but surely the more rational position is to judge by the overall good (or bad) that’s being done, rather than how closely someone adheres to what they claim to do?

NalafromtheLionKing · 31/12/2023 13:02

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 12:37

Who is 'forcing (women) to be described as something else'? The only people I see doing that are gender criticals who won't listen to trans men and non binary people and insist that they are women when they are not.

Try Googling “birthing person”, “person with a cervix”, “womb haver” etc etc

BestBadger · 31/12/2023 13:02

You're confusing liberals with the left. The "left" or what remains of it, is in community groups, the margins of the Labour movement (not the Labour Party), in single action campaigns and local activism.

It's not a fashion label, a lazy stereotype or a t-shirt you can wear.

ZebraDanios · 31/12/2023 13:05

@AmeliaEarhart The advantage that the Tories have now is that they’ve abandoned any pretence at values beyond economics. Basically their “values” consist of “acquire as much money as you can and spend it how you like”; you can’t be a hypocrite if you don’t stand for anything beyond that. Even policies on immigration are based on whether the immigrants will be a financial drain or not. I don’t believe they honestly care about gender ideology either; they’re just exploiting a gap in the market.

Yes - this is the point I couldn’t quite articulate!

NalafromtheLionKing · 31/12/2023 13:08

Not sure if you’re the PP who was quoted here but, if so, it would be most ethical to use public services such as NHS and normal state schools rather than leapfrogging over other people to get the quickest and best treatment, huge advantages for unis and jobs etc. When you fly back to the US several times a year (which isn’t any better for the environment than going there on holiday), are you flying in economy?

I would happily do all of the above but then I don’t pretend to be ethical or acting in the best interests of society as a whole rather than myself and my family.

Neriah · 31/12/2023 13:10

OP you need a new definition of "left wing" because yours is one that i don't recognise, and I've been a Marxist for 40+ years.

MNs definition of left wing appears to consist of "anyone that I don't agree with, unless they're a Tory, in which case they might not be left wing unless I disagree with them on something".

puncheur · 31/12/2023 13:12

Islandermummy · 31/12/2023 02:48

Also what is a monocultural holiday?

I think it’s where you go on holiday to a Norway Spruce plantation to get a Christmas tree.

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 13:13

CurlewKate · 31/12/2023 12:54

Conservatives open minded and inclusive? The burning £20 notes in from of homeless people guys? The "step over the homeless on my way to the opera" man? The "obviously I don't know any working class people" PM? The "rohypnol's fine if you only use a little" Home Secretary? The "I Saw Three Ships Come Sailing I-not on my watch!" PM? The "no cartoons in a reception centre for child migrants" man? I could go on......

I don’t mean open minded and inclusive to the public at large. But Conservatism as a philosophy is a broader church which can accommodate other strains of political thought.

Left wing parties place a great emphasis on inclusion and tolerance in their policies but they tend to be very hostile to other political views.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 13:21

What the Conservative movement does seem to be a lot better at (generally) is their ability to unite pretty damn sharpish under a common threat - the left.

If ever there was a time to unite it’s now. If they’re so good at it, why aren’t they doing it? They’ve been 20 points behind in the polls for a year or so now and they’re still squabbling amongst themselves.

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 13:24

Nothing of what is listed in either of the posts is exclusively left wing apart from the act of actually voting Labour. So the question remains. What does being left wing really mean these days to differentiate it from centre-right?

plusjamais · 31/12/2023 13:26

@BIossomtoes I did say "generally". Hence they've had how many years in power? There's still time yet, although hopefully it won't work this time.

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 13:30

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 00:50

I don't agree with all of this (I'm not gender critical and believe that TWAW) but goddamit I agree about Israel. I am shocked by the left's response to 10/7.

Edited

You believe that men are women? Weird but you do you.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 13:30

YouJustDoYou · 31/12/2023 12:43

I have experienced by and large that "left wingers" tend to be a bunch of fascist, bigoted, misogynistic, homophobic hypocrites. They hate anyone who won't accept their views, decry anyone who believes differently to them, hate that lesbians won't let trans-identifying males give them their holy penis, hate anyone who might have money/good job...the list goes on. And god forbid anyone dare not agree with absolutely everything they say and think.

Fucking hell, who are you mixing with? I’m a “leftie” pensioner and I haven’t encountered anyone like that in my entire adult life.

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 13:33

Looking at your post, there's absolutely nothing that picks you out as left wing. So vote Tory or Labour as you feel! I would. You can lead an ethical life and not even vote at all as it doesn't seem that you believe you need to run your life using political values. Quite liberating.

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 13:34

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 08:56

Both sides are often hypocrites. The left just get caught out more as, in my "lived experience" (so cannot be challenged) they are far noisier than the right. They judge other people using their own peculiar moral code which others may instead find immoral.

Eg all racism and "unconscious bias"(ahem) is bad but, startlingly, anti-semetism/calling for the genocide of Jews is fine (in context). The left seem to think that's OK and not a contradiction. I don't. Anyone who says that is a racist and they have always been so. You can't box it up seperately. They need to start wearing an armband or kneeling or other such useful and productive antics.

Trans women are women! Their right to do as they want to live "their best life" must be supported irrespective of how the best life of women and girls are affected. But women and girls are not a minority group so they don't matter to the left these days.

If you are a socialist you don't believe in private provision of education or health. Everyone must have everything equally, remember. Using private schools or healthcare should not be something socialists do. This elitism is deeply immoral to a socialist. And yet.. ..Deploy the Animal Farm "one rule for me, one rule for everyone else" and you can feel a lot better about yourself or a Labour politicians sending their kids to elitist school.

The hypocrisy is usually defended using "hey but what about xyz on the right???" which is often incredibly convincing and obviously instantly takes the wind out of anyone's sails. Except it doesn't. And I think people are coming to realise what a complete load of old twaddle has been lectured to us for the last few years under the guise of Virtue and Equality.

Excellent post.