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To think there's too much left wing dissonance

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LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 00:19

Feminist but support women hating philosophies and cultures
LGBT friendly except for the L part
Want to make minorities feel safe except for the Jewish community
Believe in the NHS but go private when needed
Think we should continue atoning for colonialism but mention Germany and WW2 and its like....move on already
Hate unearned privilege but it's handy I'll be left a property
Applaud multiculturalism but seek out monoculturalism in my holidays
Avoid palm oil as it kills trees but I must have a Christmas tree
Eat vegan because factory farming is disgusting....except the stuff that goes into my rescue cat food
Believe women shouldn't kneel to the standards and demands of the patriarchy, but I still remove my body hair, its my choice after all

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VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 16:25

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 16:16

Trans women are not 'men' IMO.

What sex are they then?

It doesn't matter what sex they are. They were assigned male at birth but are trans gender.

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 16:29

It doesn't matter what sex they are.

There will always be a need for a term that distinguishes approx 50% of the population whose bodies are set up to produce small gametes. And it matters to people who value biological reality over bizarre ideologies.

Watervolt · 31/12/2023 16:30

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 16:25

It doesn't matter what sex they are. They were assigned male at birth but are trans gender.

What does trans gender mean?

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 16:30

trans gender

And what do you understand by that term?

Alcyoneus · 31/12/2023 16:35

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 16:25

It doesn't matter what sex they are. They were assigned male at birth but are trans gender.

Just read that back. On what planet does it not matter what sex they are.

And no one is assigned anything. Babies don’t pop out of the mother, and then the midwife picks a gender out of a hat. Whether a human is a male or female is determined at the time of egg fertilisation.

Did you not learn about human reproduction at school? There is still time, you can look it up.

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 16:39

Very easily.
Y chromosome present: male
Y chromosome absent: female
**
Arguing that sex is not binary because a very small number of mammals are born with genetic abnormalities is like claiming that humans are not bipedal because a very small number are born with a missing leg. And equally idiotic.

As I said, it's more complicated than that, as that doesn't account for XX male syndrome. Yes, these are rare abnormalities, but they exist all the same.

seren974 · 31/12/2023 16:43

my very left wing friend has just returned from her fifth long haul holiday of the year. She's always banging on about environmental stuff. She also drives a huge thirsty Landrover. I rarely fly (went a decade without flying) and drive electric.
I know several vociferous hard lefties who have been very clearly antisemitic in the past and jumped on the October 7th terrorist massacre as another excuse to pile on. Usually by attending pro palestine marches.
(they don't care about palestine, just hate Jews)

Islandermummy · 31/12/2023 16:43

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 14:11

@TooBigForMyBoots

One of the main areas I see cognitive dissonance is in people claiming the Tories protect women's rights.

I totally agree. All the “Kier Starmer doesn’t know what a woman is,” shite is deeply misleading.

Yes Labour’s positions on trans issues have been lamentable and very damaging but do people seriously think the current Tory front bench is more committed to feminism?

I agree that, say, disagreeing with self-ID makes a person or a party feminist.

Take e.g. prisons. To protect women, how about tackle factors that increase the chances of someone going to prison (drug use, domestic abuse, homelessness etc)? And improve safety in prisons generally? Rethink sentencing so that it's actually evidence-based and aimed at rehabilitation?

Lots of gender critical people have feminist views of course. Before people pop up to say they care about sex based rights AND other feminist issues. I just think the media and general population spend a disproportionate time hand-wringing about trans women in women's prisons.

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 16:44

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 16:11

Self id has not been introduced to the UK and Labour are FAR more keen on it that the Tories who are pushing back and hard thanks to strong intelligent women like Kemi Badenoch.

That simply isn’t true. It was Theresa May’s government that introduced the Self ID bill in 2017. Don’t try to rewrite history, some of us have memories longer than a goldfish’s.

No this was not introduced thankfully (despite Corbyn pushing so hard for it to happen at the time).
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/sep/22/uk-government-drops-gender-self-identification-plan-for-trans-people

UK government drops gender self-identification plan for trans people

Medical diagnosis will still be required in England and Wales after consultation on 2004 Gender Recognition Act

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/sep/22/uk-government-drops-gender-self-identification-plan-for-trans-people

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 16:47

Take e.g. prisons. To protect women, how about tackle factors that increase the chances of someone going to prison (drug use, domestic abuse, homelessness etc)? And improve safety in prisons generally? Rethink sentencing so that it's actually evidence-based and aimed at rehabilitation?

Or how about not locking known rapists up in the female estate?

ZebraDanios · 31/12/2023 16:47

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 15:05

It has been for as long as I can remember. Definitely going back to the 70s.

This puts me in mind of that quote (attributed to Churchill but apparently he never said it) about having no heart if you’re not a socialist at 20 and having no brain if you’re not a conservative at 40…

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 16:48

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 16:03

No, I don't. Trans women are not 'men' IMO.

What are they then? Do you think that they have actually changed sex?

CurlewKate · 31/12/2023 16:48

@seren974 "my very left wing friend has just returned from her fifth long haul holiday of the year. She's always banging on about environmental stuff. She also drives a huge thirsty Landrover."

Yeah. Course she has.

Worriedaboutnonsense · 31/12/2023 16:50

@Mummyford you sound like you are confident in your choices and have thought it through. It’s the people who preach and make you feel bad for not towing what they think is the correct line. You also seem to be aware that it’s not so easy for everyone and not judge. Sadly I find my most left wing friends the most puritanical and unforgiving. It’s really depressing.

Islandermummy · 31/12/2023 16:54

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 16:47

Take e.g. prisons. To protect women, how about tackle factors that increase the chances of someone going to prison (drug use, domestic abuse, homelessness etc)? And improve safety in prisons generally? Rethink sentencing so that it's actually evidence-based and aimed at rehabilitation?

Or how about not locking known rapists up in the female estate?

Well I do agree that people likely to commit sexual assault should not be given opportunities to do so.

I hope we'd agree on more than we disagree on if we ever met.

I guess my wider point is that you can't just identify one opinion from an individual (say transgender rights) and then extrapolate out what they think about everything else

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 16:59

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 16:44

No this was not introduced thankfully (despite Corbyn pushing so hard for it to happen at the time).
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/sep/22/uk-government-drops-gender-self-identification-plan-for-trans-people

Thanks for the link. This is an extract from it:

Proposals developed under Theresa May’s government to allow people to “self-identify” as their chosen gender – by signing a statutory declaration without having to provide evidence of a medical diagnosis of gender dysphoria – are not part of the government’s response.

You do know Theresa May’s a Tory?

Theresa May plans to let people change gender without medical checks

Speaking at Pink News awards dinner, prime minister reiterates her commitment to improving trans rights

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/oct/18/theresa-may-plans-to-let-people-change-gender-without-medical-checks

seren974 · 31/12/2023 17:06

believe it or don't. No odds to me. She puts all her trip photos on facebook and there have been about 5 long hauls this year. And short hauls plus mini breaks.
You only have to follow the "where are you going on holiday" threads on mumsnet to see that many people take multiple overseas trips per year.

JaneyGee · 31/12/2023 17:08

I could not have a lower opinion of left-wing people. I find them utterly repellent: smug, arrogant, sanctimonious, hectoring, simple-minded and unbelievably intolerant. They remind me of religious fundamentalists. You know, the utter certainty that they are right, the need to convert others, the fury that not everyone agrees, etc. They reduce everything to black and white. Either you want mass immigration and an end to national identity or you are a Nazi and a bigot. I have plenty of leftish views (I'm a feminist, a vegan, militantly anti-royal, etc), but even when I agree with left-wing activists I can't bear them.

Ever noticed how you are allowed a national identity when it comes to the bad stuff (i.e I have to hang my head in shame over the Irish famine and African slavery), but when it comes to the good things about Britain (Shakespeare, Isaac Newton, Darwin, the discovery of DNA) then national identity is a load of nonsense? I've sat in a pub and watched a smug leftie flip from one the other without the slightest problem. One minute they're saying "we should be ashamed of colonialism," or "after what we did in Ireland it's no wonder they hate us." When someone replies "well, it's our literature that makes me most proud to be British" that same leftie will shoot them down: "what do you mean our literature? We didn't write it. I think national identity is absurd." What they really mean is that national identity is OK only when you're ashamed of it.

TooBigForMyBoots · 31/12/2023 17:08

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 15:54

This is the Tory party whose guidance to prisons in 2014(IIRC) allowed Karen White (and others) into women's prisons where they sexually assaulted and abused women
Karen White is a He not a They. And the Left was outraged that he was moved out of the female prison and are happy to support men in women's prisons. See Lisa Nandy for one.

They are the party that introduced Self ID to the UK and inflicted the Trans shitshow on us
Self id has not been introduced to the UK and Labour are FAR more keen on it that the Tories who are pushing back and hard thanks to strong intelligent women like Kemi Badenoch.

My they referred to men, plural. It was not a pronoun thing. Lisa Nandy has her views, but it was the Tory government who actually locked these scumbags up with their victims. They are responsible. Not Lisa Nandy.

Both big political parties are pushing back against trans ideology. Both big political parties have their TRAs and those who oppose them.

Only one political party formed the government that brought the trans shitshow on our heads and that's the Tory party. It's one of the many ways they've fucked over British women for the past 13 years.

seren974 · 31/12/2023 17:09

and I'd put money on them being the same kind of people who post on mumsnet environment threads banging the drum about reusable straws to save the turtles etc

TempestTost · 31/12/2023 17:12

LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 09:11

I see "monocultural holiday" has caused some confusion. I guess what I mean is you get people waxing lyrical over multiculturalism but when they go on holiday they want to have eg a 100% Italian experience in Italy, or a "taste of authentic France" and basically live like its the 50s in some kind of monocultural idyll

Ah yes. This is an interesting phenomena.

It's not just about supporting multiculturalism, it's about a kind of person who thinks, for example, that it is so terrible that the British countryside lacks "diversity". Or seems to find the historical local/national culture of their own country somehow lacking because it is too white and western.

But they would never be upset to find the countryside villages of Japan, or Chad, or other places are lacking in racial and cultural diversity - in fact they tend to admire their cultural authenticity. And they may well go on vacations looking for those kinds of places.

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 17:16

I could not have a lower opinion of left-wing people. I find them utterly repellent: smug, arrogant, sanctimonious, hectoring, simple-minded and unbelievably intolerant.

You find them intolerant? 🤔🤣

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 17:19

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 16:59

Thanks for the link. This is an extract from it:

Proposals developed under Theresa May’s government to allow people to “self-identify” as their chosen gender – by signing a statutory declaration without having to provide evidence of a medical diagnosis of gender dysphoria – are not part of the government’s response.

You do know Theresa May’s a Tory?

Do you understand that a proposal it not a law? t was scrapped and was not introduced so you were wrong in your original post. That was what I was pointing out.

Islandermummy · 31/12/2023 17:19

My previous post has a big typo - apologies. Meant to say, "say, disagreeing with self-ID does not make a person or a party feminist"

I.e. you will have varying views among gender critical people. Some will be feminist, some won't.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 17:23

DewHopper · 31/12/2023 17:19

Do you understand that a proposal it not a law? t was scrapped and was not introduced so you were wrong in your original post. That was what I was pointing out.

I said It was Theresa May’s government that introduced the Self ID bill in 2017. Your own link supports that. I said “introduced”, not “passed”. I’m correct.