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Christmas lunch and guests being tight !

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Neighbourscrooge · 26/12/2023 11:12

Hello,

Just canvassing opinions here.

I went back to my mother's this Xmas, she is a pensioner, widowed a few years back.

I'm reasonably comfortable so have no issue buying all the Xmas food and drink etc for us. For the last 7 years on Xmas day the neighbours also come round, another retired couple also comfortably off.

This year they asked if they could bring their son and his girlfriend , and they would bring the wine. No problem I thought.

Except yesterday they turned up the 4 of them, with 2 bottles of wine , which they drank fairly quickly and then proceeded to ask if there was any more , I had only bought spirits and liquers as I thought they were bringing enough wine for 6.

I wasn't drinking much as cooking, serving and loading dishwasher etc after each course

Aibu to think if you are big drinkers on Xmas day you bring more than 2 bottles of wine ! I'm thinking of not inviting again as seemed quite tight, and after saying they were bringing the wine for the meal I had to hunt round and see if my mum had any bottles around after they complained they had run out !

For context , we had 5 courses, starter, turkey and all the trimmings, pudding, cheeseboard, then coffee chocolates and bailey's or amaretto, followed by Xmas cake if anyone wanted it. I got all this , but didn't buy wine apart from a bottle of prosecco to give everyone a glass when they arrived!

OP posts:
Nily4567 · 28/12/2023 15:12

Hmm…we have ourselves a tightwad I presume….🤨

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 28/12/2023 15:16

Mmmm.... did they say they'd bring wine, or that they'd bring THE wine. A big difference I think! Scenario 1 = 2 bottles totally acceptable. Scenario 2 = 2 bottles for multiple people not acceptable at all.

ItsNotaCabbage · 28/12/2023 15:20

Yes very tight. I hosted DH family for a pre Xmas celebration. It’s was 10 people and we provided lunch and dinner. I asked DHs siblings to cover the puddings and drinks. Puddings were fine but DBIL is tight and brought a tiny selection of drinks. I had already bought some extra as I suspected it would be the case. Towards the end of the day we ran out and were left with squash. DH then wanted to start on additional drinks I had bought to take to parents for Xmas (a generous selection as I am a good guest)! I wouldn’t let him. I feel like DHs family had to suffer the consequence of their own tightness or they will never change!

Jack80 · 28/12/2023 22:46

Definitely need to bring a bottle each

Squeakymoo · 29/12/2023 07:31

So 2 bottles of wine at £8 each means they are getting a 5 course meal for 4 people for the princely sum of £16! Bargain!

Smugandproud · 29/12/2023 12:06

Last year dh and I got invited to a Christmas lunch.
We took 2 bottles champagne
2 bottle crémant and cassis to make kir royale
2 bottles white
2 bottles red.

It's the minimum imo when you're getting a free dinner.

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