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Worst Christmas present

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Bookworm512 · 25/12/2023 20:40

I feel ungrateful but also very disappointed. My husband is crap at gifting but this really takes the biscuit. I am a 53 year old woman and we have been together for 26 years. He bought me a periscope. Am I being unreasonable to be disappointed and ungrateful?😓

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TheFoz · 28/12/2023 21:28

My mum got me a voucher for Aldi. Not the worst present by any means, but I really think a present is something that the person wouldn’t necessarily buy themselves. A voucher for a budget supermarket is hard to get excited by.

I did get car mats and a toaster from an ex once.

Mikimoto · 28/12/2023 21:41

baggageclaims · 28/12/2023 19:17

"Old biddy"?

I thought that was only used for women in the queue in the Marks & Spencer café who look totally shocked when asked to pay, and suddenly start rooting for the exact amount in coins the purse that's in the bag that's in the larger bag...

Jack80 · 28/12/2023 22:43

I was given a white bubble coat that I looked like the Michelin man in. I wore once and sister in law claimed it as suited her better. Husband wasn't bothered

Anuta77 · 29/12/2023 04:35

DuckyShincracker · 26/12/2023 09:07

I'd be doing impressions of sonar pings and maybe a few aye, aye Captain's for good measure. If he starts to irritate you say you are on silent running and then shout depth charge! I used to love the old submarine war films!

That is hilarious!!! 😂

Nanaof1 · 29/12/2023 06:13

Bookworm512 · 26/12/2023 09:14

Thanks everyone. Maybe IABU. I might crack it out later to check the view from the skylight! Next year I think I'll suggest no presents to avoid disappointment.

Oh, please don't do that! You could start a yearly blog about what your DH gets you for presents. I mean, it will be hard to top a periscope, but perhaps a wire chicken could be in your future, or a life-sized nutcracker. You could even get really lucky and receive a latex dog mask.

I'm already looking forward to your birthday!

Greenly3 · 29/12/2023 08:21

Oh please I’ve just wet myself nearly reading the latest posts 😂😂😂😂 thank you so much for the laugh of the year!!!! I am sorry op.

PUGMEISTER21 · 29/12/2023 08:47

Yes, return it. I used to by my wife clothes for Xmas, she never wore them and they just ended up being a waste of money. I'd rather she said she was taking them back and getting sonething she was actually going to wear.

Loopylambs · 29/12/2023 09:55

I worked for a charity and part of the job was sorting through Christmas donations which would be given as presents . We had to unwrap gifts to check them . Some of the worst presents were a partly used femfresh , an ancient ,grubby , knitted doll loo roll cover and colouring books which were scribbled all over .

pineapplecrushed · 29/12/2023 10:19

I have been with my partner for 26 years and we don't buy 'surprise' gifts. We just get things for the house that we want. I don't wear jewellery. I like to choose my own clothes. I hate crap cluttering up the place. I don't understand what people think their long term partners should get them, unless you specify? You said you did specify books so yeah he should have got you those I guess.

zingally · 29/12/2023 11:15

I asked my mum for some new slippers. Bare in mind, I'm 39 years old. Christmas day I open these horrendous fluffy slippers, with a characters face from a Disney cartoon. A character I've NEVER mentioned to my mum, from a film I'm CERTAIN neither of us have ever seen. The type of jokey slippers you'd give to your 12yo. And they were 2 sizes too small.
My feet are just a tiny bit smaller than mums (something we've discussed many times). Mine are a small size 5/big size 4. Surely, I thought she'd work out that when it comes to something like slippers, we'd be fine with basically the same size as each other. But the slippers are a size 3-4 and just don't fit.
I'm going to try and stretch them out a bit, but honestly, I'm annoyed she'd chose a pair that are just wrong in every way.

Bookworm512 · 29/12/2023 11:55

pineapplecrushed · 29/12/2023 10:19

I have been with my partner for 26 years and we don't buy 'surprise' gifts. We just get things for the house that we want. I don't wear jewellery. I like to choose my own clothes. I hate crap cluttering up the place. I don't understand what people think their long term partners should get them, unless you specify? You said you did specify books so yeah he should have got you those I guess.

I did specify one book. The same one I asked for last Christmas and birthday.

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T1Dmama · 29/12/2023 12:02

I think I’d ask for the receipt and send it back or wrap it up and give it to him next him!!! With the money saved buying him something or with the refund buy yourself the book you wanted.
men are so tone deaf to what we want even when we put it right in front of them!
me and my ex stopped buying for each other… I’d rather buy myself something with the money saved 😂

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 29/12/2023 12:06

Bookworm512 · 25/12/2023 20:44

He thought I might like it to look out of the skylight! I would have preferred one of the books I asked for.

Is he worried about a zombie apocalyp? It could come in handy to peep over fences or out of basement windows or to servey the roof incase any have maaged to climb up ..

stoptryingtomakefetchhappen · 29/12/2023 12:18

My MIL is queen of this kind of thing. Last year I got two non matching glasses from habitat, one tall clear glass, one short tumbler with an iridescent ‘finish’. Prices left on @ £3 and £2 respectively. She got them because she thought we were a ‘bit short of glasses’ (we were but I’d just bought new ones myself so….).

I also got a solitary cereal bowl one year. In that instance it was because she broke one whilst staying at ours on another occasion so I was gifted one as a replacement. Unfortunately our bowls are plain Denby and this was a patterned one in quite an old fashioned design.

Our cupboard is full of random bits of crockery as a result of these gifts. The frustrating thing is if we really were short of stuff it would be fine, but we’re not, we have plenty of crockery, the cupboards are stuffed. The last thing I need is extra bits of random stuff.

She’s not short of money by any means, her attitude is simply that you only buy exactly what you need and at ‘practical’ prices. That is not a gift in my eyes. A gift would be, for example, a set of 4 pretty glasses nicely packaged. But to her that’s just a waste, she’d rather buy 4 (or more) random items for the same overall value.

I do appreciate she is trying to helpful though, and she is 80 now so nothing is going to change. So I just smile and say thank you and add this years random item to the teetering pile of bowls in the cupboard 😣

littlebopeepp234 · 29/12/2023 12:21

stoptryingtomakefetchhappen · 29/12/2023 12:18

My MIL is queen of this kind of thing. Last year I got two non matching glasses from habitat, one tall clear glass, one short tumbler with an iridescent ‘finish’. Prices left on @ £3 and £2 respectively. She got them because she thought we were a ‘bit short of glasses’ (we were but I’d just bought new ones myself so….).

I also got a solitary cereal bowl one year. In that instance it was because she broke one whilst staying at ours on another occasion so I was gifted one as a replacement. Unfortunately our bowls are plain Denby and this was a patterned one in quite an old fashioned design.

Our cupboard is full of random bits of crockery as a result of these gifts. The frustrating thing is if we really were short of stuff it would be fine, but we’re not, we have plenty of crockery, the cupboards are stuffed. The last thing I need is extra bits of random stuff.

She’s not short of money by any means, her attitude is simply that you only buy exactly what you need and at ‘practical’ prices. That is not a gift in my eyes. A gift would be, for example, a set of 4 pretty glasses nicely packaged. But to her that’s just a waste, she’d rather buy 4 (or more) random items for the same overall value.

I do appreciate she is trying to helpful though, and she is 80 now so nothing is going to change. So I just smile and say thank you and add this years random item to the teetering pile of bowls in the cupboard 😣

Can you not just ‘accidentally’ drop them on the floor? Or let them fall out of the cupboard? 🤣

Allthecatsandcosyblankets · 29/12/2023 12:31

IjustbelieveinMe · 25/12/2023 21:16

I got lube.
At first I thought ooh it's hand cream or something else skin care related and when I opened it I thought oh ok.
There were two other presents I got too, but the lube is all I could think about.
I was told to not buy him a Xmas present, I think I know why now, as him using the lube on me will be it won't it Biscuit

That's grim....really grim. I can understand why you might need it if that's what he considers a present 🤢

Caspersdad · 29/12/2023 12:33

I learnt many years ago that I'm absolutely useless at present buying.
My partner gives me a long list of things she would like and I then pick a few, that way I don't stress about what I'm buying her and she still gets a surprise and things that she wants!

IjustbelieveinMe · 29/12/2023 21:14

Allthecats I am still struggling with it a few days on and have limited contact with him. We don't live together so it's easy. Haven't told any friends what he bought me because I find it really embarrassing.

BreakfastAtMilliways · 29/12/2023 22:22

Mikimoto · 28/12/2023 21:41

I thought that was only used for women in the queue in the Marks & Spencer café who look totally shocked when asked to pay, and suddenly start rooting for the exact amount in coins the purse that's in the bag that's in the larger bag...

And finally dig out a mixture of plastic play coins and Monopoly notes. 😉

(My personal Liff - those who know The Meaning of Liff will understand - for Sixpenny Handley).

BreakfastAtMilliways · 29/12/2023 22:32

littlebopeepp234 · 29/12/2023 12:21

Can you not just ‘accidentally’ drop them on the floor? Or let them fall out of the cupboard? 🤣

My late grandmother once broke about 25 cups and saucers by packing them in a suitcase and putting them in hold luggage. She had no clue whatsoever…😭😂 Her crockery cupboard was rather like your teetering pile @stoptryingtomakefetchhappen .

Maybe it’s time to put it on a plane. 😉

auntyElle · 30/12/2023 00:18

I did specify one book. The same one I asked for last Christmas and birthday.

Well this update isn't funny at all. He knows what you'd like and repeatedly refuses to buy it. Buy the damn book for yourself, @Bookworm512. And have a think about whether the relationship is good for you in other ways.

AhBiscuits · 30/12/2023 06:49

Order the book quickly now before the tree comes down. Wrap it and tuck it away at the back. Add a gift tag to yourself from santa. When he's around make a big show of finding and opening it. 'Oh look, it's that book I asked you to buy me three times!'

Linnty · 30/12/2023 14:50

Our downstairs loo seat was plastic and had cracked. Was ok to sit down on, but you got a painful bruising pinch when you got up as the crack closed up again. EXDH ignored the need for a replacement for weeks and would only use upstairs loo if he needed to sit. A new brown wooden toilet seat was his thoughtful gift for Christmas that year. One of the many reasons he’s an EX.

Whatonearthdidicomeinherefor · 30/12/2023 15:27

Linnty · 30/12/2023 14:50

Our downstairs loo seat was plastic and had cracked. Was ok to sit down on, but you got a painful bruising pinch when you got up as the crack closed up again. EXDH ignored the need for a replacement for weeks and would only use upstairs loo if he needed to sit. A new brown wooden toilet seat was his thoughtful gift for Christmas that year. One of the many reasons he’s an EX.

🤢

catherinemeg · 15/01/2024 17:21

Thanks for posting. It's hilarious. Mind you I think I'd have quite liked it.

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